Black men are mad at Scandal because we've been chastised and lit the fukk up by black women for occasions in which we date out, only to watch them sensationalize a show where the pinnacle of the "independent" Black women plays the side chick to the President. I don't really care about IR in media that much (though I'm a bit weary of seeing white men being the only ones tasting the rainbow) but I think black men just see the hypocrisy in black women shaming and even trying to turn their backs on black male entertainers and their projects for IR dating but being silent or approving whole shows with of THEM dating out and not saying shyt about black actresses who date out, many of them with actual efforts to do so.
And while white supremacy does factor into a 100k a year white man not being so special and more of a premium amongst us, the combination of that as well as the need for the professional dude to also be attractive seems stronger with our women, or go out of his way to dress/drive like he's making money.
@Phoenix Reborn story is an example of that (though if I remember the dude was shy also). The corporate versions of Idris, Morris, Blair, Trey, Will, Omari, and whoever else sisters put on a pedestal are not rushing to settle. Maybe if those type of brothers saw women quickly building families with dudes who weren't balling out of love then they'd be quicker to settle down. But as long as black women leap over 50k brehs for the 100k+ former D1 Stringer Bell he will continue to finesse his status.
And you're right brehs SHOULD leave black women who date IR alone...but this won't happen until black women leave dudes who go IR alone, or treat black females who do the same with the same disdain and backlash as the brothers.