If I want to drop the alcohol but still want to go out to social settings like a bar or club, I usually order a non alcoholic drink. The bartenders look at you weird but oh well
Started getting bad when it was a 6-pack every night. That turned into a a 6-pack of tall cans every night. Then I started drinking hard liquor in the morning to cure hangovers quickly. That led to drinking a 5th every day. Then I started mixing in sleeping pills (ambien). I'd take like two 10mg ambiens through the day and still drink a full 5th. I was blacking out every day. I couldn't remember what happened the day before. shyt was getting very bad. I was even driving my car all fukked up (
). If I didn't drink, I would shake very bad. I had to have alcohol in my system to function. Looking back, I'm not sure how I let it get that bad. 
"Hey what's up? Can I get a glass of sparkling apple cider and a O'Douls please? Thanks baby"
Man I was replacing the kitchen floor in the county jail and could only work from 4PM-till whenever. During my PEAK alcoholismIf I didn't drink, I would shake very bad. I had to have alcohol in my system to function. Looking back, I'm not sure how I let it get that bad.
Do you consider yourself an addict/alcoholic? Why did you quit?
Those dreams sound deep...Congrats breh
I'm at 1.5 years of complete sobriety. shyt really is like night and day. I'm so much clear minded and can focus so fukking well. I am killing it at work, finishing things ahead of time, creating very high quality reports, etc. I wasn't bad at work before, but I was at like 50% when drinking/using, but now I'm at like 115%.
Though, I always have to remember I'm in recovery and that it will be hard at times. It is hard at times, especially when you go out with friends/co-workers and can't partake. Also, about once a week, I dream about drinking. shyt's kinda fukking me up, but I guess it just goes to show that addiction is still affecting my sub-conscious. They say you never stop being an alcoholic; you are either is recovery or in your addiction. I guess that's true. I always put my year chip in my pocket every morning to remind myself of how far I have come.
My drinking was almost exactly like yours. Had the same "it's impossible" thoughts about quitting for life. Peep my earlier posts in this thread. I pretty much laid it out there.
Alcoholism IS a progressive disease. It's scientifically proven.
Do you consider yourself an addict/alcoholic? Why did you quit?
I'm not sure how being social is a chore, unless you feel triggered to drink when you are around others who do. In that case, I understand.
I ain't "in the game" no more. I'm married with kids. So I can't speak on the meeting women while sober situation.
But I do still hang out with my fellas, family, and other social engagements. I have just as much fun (honestly more) than I ever did, I just don't drink. And I wake up fresh and remember everything the next day.
Congrats on your sobriety tho.
The next step is to get your ass on purpose and live your best life. Women and the social aspect of life should be a natural outcome of "doing you", not a goal by itself. Life ain't just going to come to you now that you're sober. You gotta go get that bytch!
My drinking was almost exactly like yours. Had the same "it's impossible" thoughts about quitting for life. Peep my earlier posts in this thread. I pretty much laid it out there.
Btw, you don't quit for life when you go sober...you just don't drink TODAY. Then you do it again the next day. Then again the next day.
On your deathbed, you'll look back and realized you quit for life (double meaning).
