Lets be real here. Can black men afford to be "goofy" and "vulnerable" around black women? Are pawgs built for the cornball brothas?

[Weaver31]

So instead of staying in one’s lane (not being funny or rude ) these dudes are drawn to and chasing women who aren’t in their lane, and then getting mad at the results of chasing women who aren’t in their lane.
These dudes overlook all that and expect the wrong chicks to just fall in line, instead of going for the girls who would be down for them.

Some do but I'm my case....it's just opposites attract sometimes. There were some outgoing girls interested in me and other introverted dudes. I don't expect it but it's nice to find someone who can balance me and make me a better person and give me different perspectives. Just don't be delusional or unrealistic about it.

 

[Cadillac]

No offense breh you seem like a good poster for the most part and prolly a decent man but this reply you gave me here is pretty weak.

I say this because how are you gonna dismiss my thoughts in this thread because it's a troll but still get your shyt in at the end there.

And regardless if the topic was made in bad faith it sparked genuine discussion and the real convos in this thread isn't negated by the original intention.

A lot of the views in this thread were passed off as "trolling" or "playing around" until it wasn't. We can't let self haters get off their anti-Black rhetoric without pushback at least some of the time.

And there is a gripe to be had with how some BW go about the dating world but that's not exactly the full discussion being had. The discussion includes whether or not non-BW have those same issues and whether or not successful, law-abiding BM are better off choosing non-Black partners.

@Bold because it's a clear troll thread if you just have common sense

The rest of the other posters do raise certain issues with bw

But as for the op and what he's doing that your referring to, it's clear trolling

 

[O.Red]

There ain't enough "thugs" out here to be taking all the women the way y'all put it

 Some of y'all don't really participate in life and use social media/YouTube hyperbole to form your worldview

And if you build yourself enough you'll be irresistible to somebody

This dumb ass topic gotta die at some point

 

[MR. SNIFLES]

I don't know why its so hard for people to grasp that the kind of women you want will be found at the kinds of locations where you congregate around something you like.

If you like to get silly, you go to an improv night and you'll find black women there laughing along at the same things.

If you like to get philosophical, you'll find the black women who will do that with you at TED talks and other speaking events.

If you like astronomy, and want to kick it with women who will throw out theories about sci fi and faster than light travel, you'll see them at planetariums and sci fi conventions.

Black women aren't a monolith. So many of you so called 'brehs' seem to think that most black women are like the ones you see on social media chasing clout. Free your mind.

I DON'T GET IT EITHER. CATS TRY TO DATE WOMEN FROM THE CLUB AND GET MAD BECAUSE THEY WANT TO GO OUT TO THE CLUB. MIND BE BLOWN.

 

[Ahadi]

What kind of women are you encountering?! No decent woman would EVER mention City Girls even if they were their favorite act lmao

All of em



Nah, but some in nice environments / corporate with bougie black ppl. They felt REAL comfortable with me lol.

I’ll be transparent tho, am I not getting the ones I want? More than likely.

 

[O.Red]

Also maybe a sidenote but I feel like it relates to this thread

A lot of you nikkas are still outdated in the way you find women. If your only spots are the club/lounge, approaching random bytches in the grocery store you're severely limiting your options

Some of you nikkas need some hobbies or to try some new activities. If you got art shows in your town and ain't hitting them up you're missing meals trust me

Are you good at anything besides your job? If not get good at something extracurricular. Join a yoga class, learn to sculpt, I don't fukkin know nikka point is a lot of you nikkas have been stuck in the chicken fingers/ice cream side of the buffet and have never seen the possibilities so you got this tunneled ass worldview. You probably barely even know what YOU like let alone females

If you truly get yourself together you can likely eat anywhere but your chances multiply exponentially when you expand your playing field past clubs and bars

 

[Jazzy B.]

No, I’m not out of touch.

IIIIIIIIII rock with their music ()

I said no DECENT WOMAN would actually ADMIT that, specifically to a man she wants to impress. Imagine going to dinner in a nice restaurant saying that you spend time listening to City Girls and Meg. Lol That would show a lack of awareness. Those are things you slowly release as you’re getting to know someone and they have met your “representative”. Lol

That’d be like some breh talking about his favorite artists are Lil Durk and Pooh Shiesty or something. It’s not a good look when trying to impress someone.

After 25 or so you realize these things, UNLESS you are in that hood/club culture, which would bring us full circle when discussing certain types of women

There's no stigma with a woman listening to City girls in 2022 unless the woman is 30+ .




Most black men would be surprised if a black woman said they didn't listen to them or that type of music in 2022 as that music is in rn



This isn't 2005

 

[invalid]

Whiteness provides freedom for a lot of black folk. To them, blackness feels like a prison.

 

[Jazzy B.]

Yes the hell you r out of touch

You think these chicks move with shame of liking city girls

These bytches r unapologetic and let it be known from their social media, talking, copycatting off them they like that THOT shyt

Espescially women who r say above avg looking(7-straight dimes) they bank on the fact that a nikka wants them cause they bad/fine andwe'll overlook that flaw

Breh I couldn't believe that poster actually tried to argue that women in 2022 would be ashamed to mention they listen to City Girls


Like that type of music isn't "in" in 2022.

Like this song for instance



Wasn't one of the biggest songs in 2020

 

[Reality]

Not that I don't believe you, but there's gotta be more to the story here.

Does breh have halitosis or something? Does he have a shytty (or nonexistent) sense of humor? With a resume like that, he should be at least accidentally getting some decent buns.

He ends up smashing them but not entertaining them as long term partners/wives due to reasons stated.

If you have better experiences with WW then be with WW. All I want is for y’all to pawg peacefully and stop talking about brehettes.

These threads are strange because rather than just focusing solely on why y’all love dating WW, and the perks, it’s like y’all don’t know how to talk about it without bringing up bw and doing this little compare/contrast to ww, and then the negative generalizations, and negative stereotypes.

Y’all gotta find a way to stop making bw the reason y’all date out. If y’all can see WW as individuals, excusing the WW who are racists, Karens, and who on average don’t even date Brehs (90% something of ww who marry actually marry wm) then y’all should also be able to focus on the individual experiences you each have dating these pawgs in these threads. And you should be able to do so without even bringing bw up.


Like I said these threads are usually devoid of specific personal experiences from Brehs and are almost always centered on negative generalizations about bw in comparison to positive generalizations about ww, and social media examples.

Like I said, I've had good experiences with black women. It's just that the pickings are slimmer and it feels like searching for a needle in a haystack outside of certain cities where there's a critical mass of black people...and above a certain age.

Right off the bat black women have higher rates of being overweight & obese vs. any other demo. Then single mothers where the baby daddy had multiple other baby mamas before they started dating. Then values/expectations stuff. BW call for BM to improve all the time but we can't do the reverse? I'm someone who agrees with BW when they call out BM to do better, but that energy seems rarely returned.

 

[Uncouth Savage]

No, I’m not out of touch.

IIIIIIIIII rock with their music ()

I said no DECENT WOMAN would actually ADMIT that, specifically to a man she wants to impress. Imagine going to dinner in a nice restaurant saying that you spend time listening to City Girls and Meg. Lol That would show a lack of awareness. Those are things you slowly release as you’re getting to know someone and they have met your “representative”. Lol

That’d be like some breh talking about his favorite artists are Lil Durk and Pooh Shiesty or something. It’s not a good look when trying to impress someone.

After 25 or so you realize these things, UNLESS you are in that hood/club culture, which would bring us full circle when discussing certain types of women

stop lying
you love that song with the girls twerking on the car
F R E E.......
I like the song too
everytime the men are talking shyt about women
one of you women should just post that video
that would be hilarious

 

[( )-___-)]

It has nothing to with black or white

It’s about the individuals

 

[semicko82]

 

[semicko82]

I usually jus scrolI and sigh goin thru some of these threads, but I gotta keep it a stack. Y’all not fun no more lol.. I be wanting to really engage and push around some ideas/thoughts because at the root of these silly topics there’s some real shyt that needs to be discussed.. but y’all psycho mfs cloud everything with so much bias.. no context, no nuance.. narrow minded and stubborn.. on top of being slow as hell ..
Jus look at the shyt y’all asking.. come on now

This

 

[Jazzy B.]

You realize there were young black women who didn’t rock with Lil Kim, Nicki, or City Girls, right? Or if they DID listen to them, they matured and weren’t necessarily listening to them at 26/27.

You do realize that, right?

Of course there were and are some black women who didn't listen to them, but their main base ARE black women and it acceptable to listen to them in 2022 as that type of music is "in" in 2022. There is no stigma like you're trying to make out.

"Who the f**k are hoes playin' wit' anyways? City Girls make 'em wish like Ray J" - Majority of black women under 27 know that line and song.

Most people do not abandon the music and artists they grew up listening to . Half of say Nicki Minaj's fans are women in their 30's as they grew up listening to her during their teens and 20's.