Sorry so long, but yall asked a lot.
In my house, we used (carefully selected) manosphere materials. Yeah, a lot of them are racist incels, I'm not talking about that shyt. I'm talking about the 'red pill relationship' and 'art of manliness' genres. While he was reading that, I was reading up on traditional women. We recalled advice from old school bp. We started discussing the relationships we saw and why they weren't working. We purposefully brainwashed ourselves. I cut off friends who were bad influences bc, if you trynna lose weight, don't hang out with fat bytches. We went super hard initially, like a bootcamp, we've since toned it down.
Now take that and do it on a community-wide level. We need to provide the counter-narrative. Public shaming works, but not the way yall using it. You can't just shyt on ppl indefinitely, you have to provide an example of somebody doing it right and thriving. Show attractive, socially valuable ppl living the life and discuss. Create an ecosystem of resources for singles and couples (dating sites, yt'ers, influencers, memes, etc) so there's a place to get away from the current toxic culture. Stop the public sniping, it's hard for women to respect a man using the techniques of the powerless. Make hoes unpopular.
It's surprisingly easy to sway a population, look at the alt-right. I watched as they started with the manosphere and eventually migrated toward nationalism (bc what's the point of masculinity if you're not using it to actually build?). A good amount of their women saw them building (race-based coalitions and political power) and got on board, former feminists and all. Now you got a whole new YOUNG generation of 'traditional' wp. It can be done. Women will reject masculinity if it's not deemed useful to them. Make it useful, not like simping (bc that's unattractive), but like 'Hey, we doing this over here. If you wanna be down, act right and there's a spot for you on the team.'
Cool nikkas spend too much time being cool.
