Ladies: What would you say if your bf asked you to contribute to your engagement ring?

[devizelle]

I think I'm more traditional, so my bf would hopefully know better than that. But it def varies depending on the woman.

It's kind of ridic to assume that women are mooching or something bc they want the man to pay for an engagement ring. It's the principle of the matter IMO. If he can't afford a ring then I think he should just wait like @MarsPunka said.

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

Its not the ring that counts

 

[InDePickWest]

Told my bf dont care about a ring or extravagant wedding. some people are so stuck up in it they forget the VOWS are what really matters. Dont give a shyt.

edit: nikka better treat me like a Queen though.

 

[Taadow]

"Ayo My Love...you all that and a bag of chips...so I bought you this Engagement Bag Of Chips."

 

[GoPro]

How about we just get tats on our fingers and save for a house. That's the shyt i'm on. I already have a feeling I will marry my girl.

So what you gon do if you you get divorced, cut your finger off?

 

[GoPro]

I think I'm more traditional, so my bf would hopefully know better than that. But it def varies depending on the woman.

It's kind of ridic to assume that women are mooching or something bc they want the man to pay for an engagement ring. It's the principle of the matter IMO. If he can't afford a ring then I think he should just wait like @MarsPunka said.

So you'd be perfectly fine staying at home, cooking and cleaning, right? I mean, who are you to fukk tradition up?

 

[Demon]

broke nikka thread

First of all, if i was that broke of a nikka, i couldnt even bring myself to ask a woman to marry me until i got myself straight. Its unfair for the both of us

second, even if i would...i wouldnt even present a ring, i would sit her down like "yo, i love you, i cant afford a ring, but i really do want to spend the rest of my life with you...how do you feel about going to the courthouse?"

third...i would never ever ever ever ever ever ever be able to live with myself as a man if my wife chipped in on a ring.

 

[Desirous]

broke nikka thread

First of all, if i was that broke of a nikka, i couldnt even bring myself to ask a woman to marry me until i got myself straight. Its unfair for the both of us

second, even if i would...i wouldnt even present a ring, i would sit her down like "yo, i love you, i cant afford a ring, but i really do want to spend the rest of my life with you...how do you feel about going to the courthouse?"

third...i would never ever ever ever ever ever ever be able to live with myself as a man if my wife chipped in on a ring.

100% agree

 

[StickStickly]

I would. What would feel disappointing is paying for it would lose the element of surprise for the proposal. You'd know it's coming.

Plus if he asked me to pitch in and then the next month went out and bought a MacBook I would definitely feel a certain way.

 

[Cacs R Us]

People who spend a fortune on a ring are chumps.

 

[Lana Kane]

lol my mom chipped in for hers because she wanted it a certain way, I don't think I'd care really. I just want a white gold band anyway

 

[Prodyson]

150 a plate?! Just order some Applebee's $20 meals, nobodyll know the difference. 500 on drinks. 1k dress, $300 tux, 1k reception hall rental. 300 Limo. 500 on flowers. 300 photographer. We talking 7k tops

I can see you don't really have a grasp on how much this stuff costs. 500 on drinks isn't realistic, unless there are only 50 people at the party. Even then you'd be pushing it. Remember you also have to factor in cups, ice, juice, soda, etc. 500 might last you 45 minutes.

500 on flowers is REALLY unrealistic. One medium sized centerpiece using a combination of less expensive and moderately expensive flowers will run you like $175. If you're only gonna spend 500 you're better off not using flowers. We got bouquets, corsages, boutonniere and two centerpieces and spent like a G.

1k is also unrealistic for nice venue unless you're using their catering services or unless you're using a small room. Otherwise you'll be spending at least 1.5k. And that may not even include tables, chairs, linen, flatware, etc.

You did overestimate the tux though unless you want to buy one as opposed to renting one.

Food will cost you about $28-30 per plate for basic chicken breasts.

$300 could be kinda low too for a photographer. But since it's just for the party it's not that far off.

As someone who planned my own wedding... This stuff is a lot more expensive than you think.

 

[Mr210]

Nope she doesn't need to but I expect her family to put in heavily on the wedding

 

[Mike Ock]

So what you gon do if you you get divorced, cut your finger off?

Prolly just rock a 3 finger ring.

I honestly totally expect my girl to switch up and want a ring though. Chiks be like that.

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

I'd tell him to wait til he could afford it.