Ladies: What would you say if your bf asked you to contribute to your engagement ring?

[devizelle]

So you'd be perfectly fine staying at home, cooking and cleaning, right? I mean, who are you to fukk tradition up?

I mean, I'm down for cooking and cleaning. I wouldn't want to stay at home (and not have a job), that's not really my style. I don't know why you're so angry though... if you want to split the cost of a ring with your girl, then go for it! There are lots of women (in this thread even) that are ok with that. For me personally, it's important that the man pay for the ring. I would hope someone who wanted to marry me would know that.

 

[GoPro]

I can see you don't really have a grasp on how much this stuff costs. 500 on drinks isn't realistic, unless there are only 50 people at the party. Even then you'd be pushing it. Remember you also have to factor in cups, ice, juice, soda, etc. 500 might last you 45 minutes.

500 on flowers is REALLY unrealistic. One medium sized centerpiece using a combination of less expensive and moderately expensive flowers will run you like $175. If you're only gonna spend 500 you're better off not using flowers. We got bouquets, corsages, boutonniere and two centerpieces and spent like a G.

1k is also unrealistic for nice venue unless you're using their catering services or unless you're using a small room. Otherwise you'll be spending at least 1.5k. And that may not even include tables, chairs, linen, flatware, etc.

You did overestimate the tux though unless you want to buy one as opposed to renting one.

Food will cost you about $28-30 per plate for basic chicken breasts.

$300 could be kinda low too for a photographer. But since it's just for the party it's not that far off.

As someone who planned my own wedding... This stuff is a lot more expensive than you think.

If we're spending over 7k, her family is DEFINITELY chipping in the rest. What I look like dropping down payment money on one day event? Whoever I marry isnt even going to be superficial like that so I'm not worried

 

[Prodyson]

If we're spending over 7k, her family is DEFINITELY chipping in the rest. What I look like dropping down payment money on one day event? Whoever I marry isnt even going to be superficial like that so I'm not worried

Here's what I'll say... You might be able to get away with spending 7k, but it just won't be very nice or you'll have to leave some things out. Regardless of whether someone is superficial or not, if you can't get at least what you had hoped for you're going to be disappointed. In my opinion if you're that adamant about not spending more than that you'd be better off using that money for something else. We spent (her parents) spent a ridiculous amount of money and we barely remember it cause it was so crazy. Other people had fun and we did too but we couldn't enjoy it like we'd hoped.