Ladies: What would you say if your bf asked you to contribute to your engagement ring?

[CashmereThoughts]

Any woman who says they would chip in is a goddamn lie.

Because all women think alike right?

You got women taking care if bum ass nikkas for they entire life so what's so hard to belive that a woman wouldn't pitch in on the 10-15k peice of hardware that SHE WANTS.

 

[dc007]

Any woman who says they would chip in is a goddamn lie.

I know a woman who bought the ring for her and her husband (granted they in a different generation), but you are probably generally correct. I wasn't expecting women to say they would chip in. More so how would they feel.

 

[Arishok]

My girl chips in waaaaaay too much IMO, I'm starting to believe most of these coli nikkas never been in a good relationship

I would def chip in, not just to an engagement ring but on dates as well. I would buy my own meals, pay for my own tickets, etc. I don't expect my man to do anything like that for me, now if he asks to I'm not going to say no.

 

[Desirous]

I wouldn't chip in. If you can't afford a ring, then don't buy one. Don't need an engagement ring to take vows. Asking to chip in is tacky though.

 

[Arishok]

I wouldn't chip in. If you can't afford a ring, then don't buy one. Don't need an engagement ring to take vows. Asking to chip in is tacky though.

This is true too but I wouldn't say asking is tacky, if he really wants you to have one but doesn't have the money. Hell if he's okay with it, I'd buy and pick out my own ring.

 

[Desirous]

This is true too but I wouldn't say asking is tacky, if he really wants you to have one but doesn't have the money. Hell if he's okay with it, I'd buy and pick out my own ring.

To me, it's tacky. That's like buying someone a present with their own money.

 

[dc007]

I wouldn't chip in. If you can't afford a ring, then don't buy one. Don't need an engagement ring to take vows. Asking to chip in is tacky though.

I actually look at it in two ways.

If you have a woman who is on her independent tip and wants everything to be equal, then I don't necessarily think its anything wrong with her contributing.

But if you have a traditional woman, maybe asking her to chip in isn't the way to go about it.

 

[Arishok]

To me, it's tacky. That's like buying someone a present with their own money.

I can see that too but an engagement ring is a little different than a present but we can agree to disagree.

 

[Desirous]

I actually look at it in two ways.

If you have a woman who is on her independent tip and wants everything to be equal, then I don't necessarily think its anything wrong with her contributing.

But if you have a traditional woman, maybe asking her to chip in isn't the way to go about it.

I'll contribute to the wedding, but a ring for myself? Nah, I'm good...don't bother buying me one in that case.

 

[Desirous]

I can see that too but an engagement ring is a little different than a present but we can agree to disagree.

It's just a status symbol. If the guy can't afford the ring, it's just smarter to not buy one and use the money towards the wedding or a downpayment on a home etc. I can personally go without a ring.

 

[dc007]

To me, it's tacky. That's like buying someone a present with their own money.

I am not sure an engagement ring is actually a present in the strict sense. It signifies you are off the market.

 

[KinksandCoils]

That's all time low. I don't want to deal with a man that would even think to ask that crap.

 

[Moose_Greyjoy]

I would never ask a woman to chip in on a ring, never. I think it should be solely the responsibility of the man to buy the engagement ring.

 

[dc007]

That's all time low. I don't want to deal with a man that would even think to ask that crap.

Would you end the relationship?

 

[Malta]

Here's what it really boils down to if you're a man