Ladies, How Would You React If You Found Out

[SheWantTheD]

How many of y'all are telling these people that you are seeing, talking to, dating and possibly having sex with other people? How soon do you give out this information?

I'm assuming most of y'all ain't saying squat for fear of running all your options away by being truthful even if they were doing it themselves. I feel as if even if you yourself were dating multiple men, and if one of the men told you he's also doing so it would bring him down about 2-3 notches. And unless you really like him and y'all are really vibing, you would probably charge him to the game/throw him to the bushes. This also goes for men, but I think he wouldn't charge her to the game as there's still the possibility he could have sex with the woman.

 

[SheWantTheD]

I meet person A. I like him and we are getting to know each other. A few dates pass, I'm not sure where we stand. He is fumbling his fingers, even though he knows I'm dating for a purpose. Person B comes along. I like him, so I'm going to get to know him. Person A, unless he makes it clear that he wants a relationship will start to fade into the background.

Dating, to me, is not a commitment. It's just that. Dates.

I also make it clear from Day 1 that I am looking for relationship. If he want to be with me, he will make it happen. If he doesn't, he'll twiddle his fingers until I move on.

Edit: Everyone has to find what works for them and go with that. I think many people make dating way more complicated that it needs to be. I don't get emotionally involved so quickly so I can move on with no hard feelings.

What if the man doesn't bring up being exclusive and wanting a relationship? Do you bring it up? I know you said from Day 1 you are looking for a relationship, but that doesn't necessarily mean a relationship with that particular man.

 

[VFib]

Is that in Biblical terms?

No. Not everyone NEEDS sex. I went 4 years without it before the Mr. came along. If he leaves, I can go another few years until the next relationship comes along.

 

[Gold]

No. Not everyone NEEDS sex. I went 4 years without it before the Mr. came along. If he leaves, I can go another few years until the next relationship comes along.

Define needs

 

[SheWantTheD]

If he is really, truly interested in a relationship with me, it will be clear and it won't take months.

That's if you want a relationship with him though. What if you change your mind all of a sudden? Women DO this ALOT. He's gonna feel as if he wasted his time especially if he never had sex with you.

 

[Easy-E]

The dude you were seeing and dating is also talking to and dating other women? What if he hasn't had sex with any of the women including you yet, would that change the dynamic?

How many of you communicate, date, or have sexual relations with multiple dudes at once?

What would you do if you confront him about it and he says he needs to exercise his options in case you or any of the other women he's seeing start acting funny, flaking on dates, playing games, etc?

 

[Colicat]

I meet person A. I like him and we are getting to know each other. A few dates pass, I'm not sure where we stand. He is fumbling his fingers, even though he knows I'm dating for a purpose. Person B comes along. I like him, so I'm going to get to know him. Person A, unless he makes it clear that he wants a relationship will start to fade into the background.

Dating, to me, is not a commitment. It's just that. Dates.

I also make it clear from Day 1 that I am looking for relationship. If he want to be with me, he will make it happen. If he doesn't, he'll twiddle his fingers until I move on.

Edit: Everyone has to find what works for them and go with that. I think many people make dating way more complicated that it needs to be. I don't get emotionally involved so quickly so I can move on with no hard feelings.

It is definitely an individual thing... I have a one track mind and don't feel like I could truly get to know/date someone if my attention is not fully focused.

And I want all of someone else's attention (the stingy part).
If person A is twiddling their thumbs even after you expressed you are dating for a purpose then that means that person A is not interested for that same purpose. A should be done.

Now that you have clarity with A's p*ssy footed self, you can close that chapter. There is no B for me. It's now a new A.

But that is me... Everyone is different

 

[VFib]

What if the man doesn't bring up being exclusive and wanting a relationship? Do you bring it up? I know you said from Day 1 you are looking for a relationship, but that doesn't necessarily mean a relationship with that particular man.

If he doesn't bring it up even though I do, then I take it to mean he doesn't want to be with me. So I move on.

 

[VFib]

Define needs

:BigSmile:

I can go a while without it. 'Tis all.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Oh ight but what if he's having sex with you and these other women before y'all are exclusive?

We are free until we agree otherwise

 

[Gold]

:BigSmile:

I can go a while without it. 'Tis all.

I'm sorry to hear that

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

That's if you want a relationship with him though. What if you change your mind all of a sudden? Women DO this ALOT. He's gonna feel as if he wasted his time especially if he never had sex with you.

That's my worry about these situations. For the most part, we talking bout dudes who don't want to be tied down and women not wanting their time wasted. But the reverse shyt happens too now. Gonna be pretty fukking livid if a month or two into the relationship, she tell me she was never planning on getting serious. And considering one of my first questions would be if she casually dates or not, means she lied to me to even get this far in the first place.

 

[VFib]

That's if you want a relationship with him though. What if you change your mind all of a sudden? Women DO this ALOT. He's gonna feel as if he wasted his time especially if he never had sex with you.

I can't speak for the women you deal with but we either click or we don't. I can tell pretty quickly through conversations whether it will go anywhere or not. When I stay quiet and let men talk, they tell me everything I need to know.

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[GoGetMyDamnBelt_]

 

[SheWantTheD]