Ladies, How Would You React If You Found Out

[Gold]

If we are just dating, then I expect him to be seeing other women. I'm not sleeping with him anyway.

If he isn't my man, I am most likely getting to know other guys as well.

Is that in Biblical terms?

 

[Ashley Banks]

There's nothing wrong it. I just don't understand the point of being monogamous with someone you're not in a relationship with. Especially considering the fact that you two swapped STD test results and were honest with each other. You could've done the same without making it monogamous. Then you can have more than one if you choose....since you two aren't in a relationship anyway.

In my estimation, the point of having a chick designated as f#ck buddy is:

A. She's not relationship material for whatever reason
B. But I still want to smash
C. Since she's not relationship material, I don't feel an obligation to be concerned about her feelings about me dating/smashing others, having a girlfriend

In my mind, monogamy is a gift. A gift you give to someone you deem valuable enough to be in a relationship with. So for me, I find it hard to understand giving that to someone I don't value in that way. I've heard other dudes having similar arrangements with f#ck buddies, jumpoffs.

I have no issue with it. I just don't understand it.

Peace

lol you don't understand why someone would the person they're having sex with to not have sex with other people? You do know that STDs exist right? and the more people you have sex with, the higher chance you have at catching one. What's the point in swapping STD test results if you're just going to continuously put them at risk. what are you gonna do, get a new std test every time you have sex?

 

[Ria_21]

It wouldn't bother me oh and if I'm interested in someone I don't talk to other guys I'm a one man woman lol

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I once did that 'all my eggs in one basket' junk too - Ladies NEED to believe these men when they tell you with his words & actions what he wants...and what he doesn't want with you. Stop acting like you didn't hear him and contorting yourself hoping

to be chose. I know most women are not cut from the same cloth as men when it comes to casual sex so stop agreeing to be cutbuddies while hoping it progressing into being his woman. Most men will run circles around us all day, every day in

engaging in meaningless sex. Now, I think single women should date more than one man. When the cream rises to the top and an exclusive relationship is put firmly on the table then deal.

The shame-brigade can knock it off.

This. Why turn away a possibly good man for someone who you don't even know if you like.

 

[mcdivit85]

lol you don't understand why someone would the person they're having sex with to not have sex with other people? You do know that STDs exist right? and the more people you have sex with, the higher chance you have at catching one. What's the point in swapping STD test results if you're just going to continuously put them at risk. what are you gonna do, get a new std test every time you have sex?

I don't understand having a monogamous situation with someone you're not in a relationship with. Obviously, they are careful in terms of sex, so I don't see why that necessitates a monogamous arrangement when the basis of your situation is sex and sex alone. They're confirming that their disease free with each other every so often, so what else is needed?

Again, I don't understand giving someone monogamy if I'm not in a relationship with them.

Peace

 

[Ashley Banks]

I don't understand having a monogamous situation with someone you're not in a relationship with. Obviously, they are careful in terms of sex, so I don't see why that necessitates a monogamous arrangement when the basis of your situation is sex and sex alone. They're confirming that their disease free with each other every so often, so what else is needed?

Again, I don't understand giving someone monogamy if I'm not in a relationship with them.

Peace

You don't understand why someone would want the person they're having sex with to only have sex with them so they aren't at risk for stds? what's so hard to understand? It's literally so simple.

Sex with 1 person that got tested and is only having sex with you = not at risk Sex with a person having sex with multiple people while have sex with multiple people yourself = at risk.

 

[The ADD]

You don't understand why someone would want the person they're having sex with to only have sex with them so they aren't at risk for stds? what's so hard to understand? It's literally so simple.

Sex with 1 person that got tested and is only having sex with you = not at risk Sex with a person having sex with multiple people while have sex with multiple people yourself = at risk.

I now this is a serious reply but it plays perfectly with your avi

 

[Ashley Banks]

I now this is a serious reply but it plays perfectly with your avi

esplain

 

[The ADD]

esplain

the look of the disgust in the avi relative to the response to the post

 

[mcdivit85]

You don't understand why someone would want the person they're having sex with to only have sex with them so they aren't at risk for stds? what's so hard to understand? It's literally so simple.

Sex with 1 person that got tested and is only having sex with you = not at risk Sex with a person having sex with multiple people while have sex with multiple people yourself = at risk.

Because I would assume that being sensible people, they would do the same with the next person.

Peace

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

I'm stingy, somewhat jealous and don't like to share.

Definitely some of us guys like that too. If the girl I like says being mine and mine only means I cant mingle with others, so be it.

I ain't sharing what I feel I earned through proper courting.

 

[SheWantTheD]

He can do what he wants if we aren't official.

Oh ight but what if he's having sex with you and these other women before y'all are exclusive?

 

[SheWantTheD]

How much energy you put into a chick you just met and isn't even your girl?

Peace

In the recent past I would communicate with a chick everyday, texting mainly. Only texted a lot during the initial stages of getting to know them. Going on dates, to random/certain events together etc. Just seems like it would be mentally and sometimes physically exhausting talking to multiple women at once. I'm just not used to it is all.

 

[SheWantTheD]

It wouldn't bother me oh and if I'm interested in someone I don't talk to other guys I'm a one man woman lol

I see you lookin' fine in that profile pic

 

[VFib]

This is incongruous so maybe you can help me understand it some more...

I am getting that you don't go out on dates with someone that you don't see yourself with...

Then you say you won't pass up getting to know other men if you are not committed....

Why aren't you committed to someone that you can see yourself with?

And to be fair, I am scrutinizing this post because I don't agree with the dating other people idea...

I'm stingy, somewhat jealous and don't like to share.

I meet person A. I like him and we are getting to know each other. A few dates pass, I'm not sure where we stand. He is fumbling his fingers, even though he knows I'm dating for a purpose. Person B comes along. I like him, so I'm going to get to know him. Person A, unless he makes it clear that he wants a relationship will start to fade into the background.

Dating, to me, is not a commitment. It's just that. Dates.

I also make it clear from Day 1 that I am looking for relationship. If he want to be with me, he will make it happen. If he doesn't, he'll twiddle his fingers until I move on.

Edit: Everyone has to find what works for them and go with that. I think many people make dating way more complicated that it needs to be. I don't get emotionally involved so quickly so I can move on with no hard feelings.