Ladies, How Would You React If You Found Out

[Ashley Banks]

I once did that 'all my eggs in one basket' junk too - Ladies NEED to believe these men when they tell you with his words & actions what he wants...and what he doesn't want with you. Stop acting like you didn't hear him and contorting yourself hoping

to be chose. I know most women are not cut from the same cloth as men when it comes to casual sex so stop agreeing to be cutbuddies while hoping it progressing into being his woman. Most men will run circles around us all day, every day in

engaging in meaningless sex. Now, I think single women should date more than one man. When the cream rises to the top and an exclusive relationship is put firmly on the table then deal.

The shame-brigade can knock it off.

Exactly! Of course they're going to try to shame women for doing this. It doesn't benefit them, it's hard to play a woman that isn't completely wrapped up in you. If you've been talking to 3-4 guys for 5 months letting a dude go because he's playing games isn't a big deal but when you've been talking to the same dude for 5 months and he's playing games, you just wasted 5 months of your life and you have to start all over with another dude.

 

[The Mad Titan]

Yup, I can't even conceptualize it in my mind at the moment me dating and seeing multiple women at once. It just doesn't feel right, but I'm gonna have to get over it if I don't wanna get played, curved etc.

I know your plight, fortunately that's not something I have to worry about currently, but it legit use to make me feel bad for talking to multiple women that I was interested in. No sex involved, not titles, and nothing serious or anything just talking.


Take it from me, go ahead and scrap its homie, otherwise your head gonna be really hurting sooner or later.

 

[Ashley Banks]

I just don't see most dudes (unless simps but y'all ain't really attracted to simps like that) cuffing a chick before sex especially in 2016. So how long would y'all be dating before you bring up the conversation about being exclusive? What if dude is touching all up on you, getting sexual, talking dirty.. you gon curve him and say no until he commits to only you? I'm really curious as to how this goes down. How many dudes have been with it versus those that weren't?

lmao breh, it happens allllllll the time.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Yo, Coli chicks are starting to sound just as as Coli dudes

None believe in abortion

None ever been smashed and dashed on the one night tip

And none have sex until dude has fully committed to them in an exclusive relationship

Peace

 

[SheWantTheD]

I know your plight, fortunately that's not something I have to worry about currently, but it legit use to make me feel bad for talking to multiple women that I was interested in. No sex involved, not titles, and nothing serious or anything just talking.


Take it from me, go ahead and scrap its homie, otherwise your head gonna be really hurting sooner or later.

It ain't even just that, it's also the fact that I'm putting my energy and attention to all these women and it seems like it would be exhausting. Putting energy into one chick is already enough.

 

[VFib]

I just don't see most dudes (unless simps but y'all ain't really attracted to simps like that) cuffing a chick before sex especially in 2016. So how long would y'all be dating before you bring up the conversation about being exclusive? What if dude is touching all up on you, getting sexual, talking dirty.. you gon curve him and say no until he commits to only you? I'm really curious as to how this goes down. How many dudes have been with it versus those that weren't?

Coli.com talk.

I'm not going to play myself by sleeping with a man who doesn't feel the need to commit to me, just because he doesn't "cuff" women before sex.
I'm not looking to get "cuffed" or "wifed."

The type of man I am interested in and have found make it clear very early on that they want me to be their girlfriend. Anyone else can kick rocks for all I care. I DGAF about some man who is just looking to fukk and duck. They can take their community dikk to someone who is looking for love in all the wrong places.

My behavior and actions make it pretty clear that I'm not with the shyts. I've gotten bushed many times because of that.

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

It's some damaged ass folks up in here...

 

[The Mad Titan]

Exactly! Of course they're going to try to shame women for doing this. It doesn't benefit them, it's hard to play a woman that isn't completely wrapped up in you. If you've been talking to 3-4 guys for 5 months letting a dude go because he's playing games isn't a big deal but when you've been talking to the same dude for 5 months and he's playing games, you just wasted 5 months of your life and you have to start all over with another dude.

If your a decent looking woman, having more than one guy trying to holla at you at any given time is probably the norm.


By the same token if your a decent looking dude, if you not out on the hunt and going through the motion of getting in touch with multiple women the odds of you having multiple options arent that high. Going through all that just for them to have other options if your not the type of dude that likes to play games is taxing.


Its like having options of delivery all the time vs options of having to go get something yourself all the time. One is way more annoying and frustrating.

Sure you might be talking to 3 or 4 dudes, the problem I find most women have is cutting the dudes off they aren't interested in, instead of just "calling them a friend" and keeping them in reserve. So while you hoping that one dude will "step up" you wasting 4 other dudes time.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Coli.com talk.

I'm not going to play myself by sleeping with a man who doesn't feel the need to commit to me, just because he doesn't "cuff" women before sex.
I'm not looking to get "cuffed" or "wifed."

The type of man I am interested in and have found make it clear very early on that they want me to be their girlfriend. Anyone else can kick rocks for all I care. I DGAF about some man who is just looking to fukk and duck. They can take their community dikk to someone who is looking for love in all the wrong places.

My behavior and actions make it pretty clear that I'm not with the shyts. I've gotten bushed many times because of that.

I'm not talking about dudes that are out there fukking whoever whenever. These dudes could legit want to commit to one woman and be in a relationship.. but what if after weeks or months of dating she loses interest for some reason?

 

[Ashley Banks]

If your a decent looking woman, having more than one guy trying to holla at you at any given time is probably the norm.


By the same token if your a decent looking dude, if you not out on the hunt and going through the motion of getting in touch with multiple women the odds of you having multiple options arent that high. Going through all that just for them to have other options if your not the type of dude that likes to play games is taxing.


Its like having options of delivery all the time vs options of having to go get something yourself all the time. One is way more annoying and frustrating.

Sure you might be talking to 3 or 4 dudes, the problem I find most women have is cutting the dudes off they aren't interested in, instead of just "calling them a friend" and keeping them in reserve. So while you hoping that one dude will "step up" you wasting 4 other dudes time.

I can only speak for myself but I always told the guys I dated that I was dating more than one guy and that If one of them wanted to be exclusive, I would stop talking to the other guys for that guy. I wouldn't keep their numbers or keep them on reserve (lol). but I'm not going all in for a guy unless he does it first, I have more to lose than he does.

 

[VFib]

I'm not talking about dudes that are out there fukking whoever whenever. These dudes could legit want to commit to one woman and be in a relationship.. but what if after weeks or months of dating she loses interest for some reason?

If he is really, truly interested in a relationship with me, it will be clear and it won't take months.

 

[cocoabutter27]

IMO, you should always date multiple people. Not have sex with multiple people but date. One guy might like hiking, one for museums, maybe one is a foodie. The one you want will be the one you share the most in common with, the one with values similar to yours. That's why you date them...to see who's right for you. You should be upfront with them from the start and they should be up front with you. If you don't like it...move along. It's not wasting time, it is getting to know someone better and having fun while doing so. Emotionally, it also gives you an opportunity to really evaluate how you feel about a person and how they feel about you. If they are throwing up red flags, then you aren't as concerned about bushing them, because you have other eggs in that basket.

It is also okay to be single and date one person at a time. If that's you...that's you.

 

[mcdivit85]

I at times have the energy to date multiple women, but most of the time it's more trouble than it's worth.

I'm pretty good at recruiting monogamous fukk-buddies w/ clean slates who are relatively trustworthy as we're on the same wavelengths.

We:
1. Have a career we're working on
2. Are generally better educated
3. Have a lot to lose from an unplanned pregnancy
4. Get checked relatively regularly
5. Are good keeping feelings out of the mix

At any given time I'm OK with the most recent interaction I have with these girls being the last time I ever talk to them or fukk them given I'm not trying to lock them down.

Not everybody's built for it, but it can be done. I was fukking this one chick for about 6 months, had to go on assignment to the other side of the country for a few months, and made it clear we should both do our thing.

I came back, we both swapped STD tests, were honest about having been with other people during the time off, and it was on and popping again.

Now, you can debate whether or not we were wasting time and could be finding "the one" or whatever. But it worked.

Monogamous f#ck buddies?

I thought the point the point of having no string attached f#ck buddies was to have more than one

Monogamous with a chick you just f#ckin tho?

I mean, if you two are only smashing each other...and you two match in terms of lifestyle...then why not just be in a relationship?

Peace

 

[Lady.Libra.]

lol I dated multiple guys at once. they usually didn't like it once they found out thought. apparently, only guys are allowed to do that and I was supposed to only date him and wait for him to decide what he wanted to do.

Plan, plot, strategize - 2Pac

 

[Reality]

Monogamous f#ck buddies?

I thought the point the point of having no string attached f#ck buddies was to have more than one

Monogamous with a chick you just f#ckin tho?

I mean, if you two are only smashing each other...and you two match in terms of lifestyle...then why not just be in a relationship?

Peace

A relationship is more than just smashing. I didn't want the expectations that come with a relationship, that simple. I do my thing she does hers. We fukked when convenient. What's wrong w/ that?