Ladies, How Would You React If You Found Out

[mcdivit85]

I feel what you're saying, but I refuse to believe every dude rocks that like. Semtex just said he's never dated more than one woman at once, so I know he can't be the only one. Pointless dating is crazy to me. After a couple of preliminaries (jobs, kids, age, etc), that's enough for me to decide if I want to give it time. I'm a strong believer of the grass isn't greener on the other side so I don't feel I'm missing out if another dude tries to talk to me and I'm already showing interest in another guy. Even if that other guy and I aren't committed.

Honestly, that's a great thing and I truly respect women like yourself. That's the mindset of a lady. Men respect ladies and generally tend to treat them a certain way.

Maybe if more women shared your mindset, men would date less women and focus more energy into those women they met....because they know he's not competing with 3-5 other dudes as well as her ex/babydaddy. He knows that she's not eating his food, enjoying his movie tickets all the while texting some dude to come through the crib after she gives her date a hug and a "thanks for a great time."

But unfortunately, we live in an age where a woman will be on the phone with you...while she's sitting naked in bed with the next n#gga. So because of that, dudes date a few until they find one worth giving a damn.

Peace

 

[mcdivit85]

At that point, most people would have been faded away by me anyway while I focused on the one who makes it clear he wants to be with me.

So, I assume those contacts will stay in the "possible" column. I was just curious.





























Fellas

Peace

 

[VFib]

So, I assume those contacts will stay in the "possible" column. I was just curious.





























Fellas

Peace

No. If they clearly weren't looking for anything serious, what am I keeping them around for?

 

[Voice of Reason]

The dude you were seeing and dating is also talking to and dating other women? What if he hasn't had sex with any of the women including you yet, would that change the dynamic?

How many of you communicate, date, or have sexual relations with multiple dudes at once?

What would you do if you confront him about it and he says he needs to exercise his options in case you or any of the other women he's seeing start acting funny, flaking on dates, playing games, etc?

Women do the same thing

 

[Reality]

I at times have the energy to date multiple women, but most of the time it's more trouble than it's worth.

I'm pretty good at recruiting monogamous fukk-buddies w/ clean slates who are relatively trustworthy as we're on the same wavelengths.

We:
1. Have a career we're working on
2. Are generally better educated
3. Have a lot to lose from an unplanned pregnancy
4. Get checked relatively regularly
5. Are good keeping feelings out of the mix

At any given time I'm OK with the most recent interaction I have with these girls being the last time I ever talk to them or fukk them given I'm not trying to lock them down.

Not everybody's built for it, but it can be done. I was fukking this one chick for about 6 months, had to go on assignment to the other side of the country for a few months, and made it clear we should both do our thing.

I came back, we both swapped STD tests, were honest about having been with other people during the time off, and it was on and popping again.

Now, you can debate whether or not we were wasting time and could be finding "the one" or whatever. But it worked.

 

[PrnzHakeem]

You gotta have the attitude that a chicks dating rules don't apply to you. Because those rules likely don't exist

 

[Lady.Libra.]

I used to think that until I started doing it. It wasn't something I set out to do but If a guy says he isn't looking for something serious or just got out of a relationship so he wants to be single for a while, why would I turn down other dudes for him?

I once did that 'all my eggs in one basket' junk too - Ladies NEED to believe these men when they tell you with his words & actions what he wants...and what he doesn't want with you. Stop acting like you didn't hear him and contorting yourself hoping

to be chose. I know most women are not cut from the same cloth as men when it comes to casual sex so stop agreeing to be cutbuddies while hoping it progresses into being his woman. Most men will run circles around us all day, every day in

engaging in meaningless sex. Now, I think single women should date more than one man. When the cream rises to the top and an exclusive relationship is put firmly on the table then deal.

The shame-brigade can knock it off.

 

[prince_peoples]

Coli chicks don't fukk until they are in a committed relationship?

I can't think of a single time in the last 11 years of my life, where a woman I was dating withheld sex because we weren't in a committed relationship.

 

[The Mad Titan]

I was hardcore only about talking to one woman at a time period, then I learned that's the best way to end up getting played.. I use to kill off all other conversation when trying to get to know a chick. Needless to say that made the other chicks go and then the main one I'm interested in if it doesn't work out I'm back and square one, actually worst off because I killed off all other conversation with other women I was trying to get to know.

After 2 strikes I was like nahhhh, the icing on the cake is when I really came to realize how OPEN women keep there options, they not cutting off anyone until they have a title. So now I dont ask and I assume I'm one of many guys that a chick keeps in touch with, if sex is involved I'd expect her not to let anyone else be smashing but I wouldn't be shocked nor surprised if it was. "i'm not dating, I'm not seeing anyone else, I'm not talking to anyone else, I'm not ready to date" catch em 2 months later and they like So I'm dating such and such now...



Woman are scandalous creatures. Men will do you dirty but women...scandalous.

I'm upfront about it if asked or if it comes up and all.


There will be few ladies that only entertain one guy period at a time same with men when given the opportunity

 

[The Mad Titan]

lol going through this thread, this is exactly why I cut it out.


Get used as entertainment brehs.

 

[SheWantTheD]

We wouldn't. He isn't my man.

Your not having sex with a man until y'all are exclusive?

 

[semtex]

Don't cheat yourself, treat yourself

Peace

Alone time is how I treat myself

 

[VFib]

Your not having sex with a man until y'all are exclusive?

It's not for you to believe. I'm not here to convince anyone of anything.

It's only for him to know and understand or keep it moving.

 

[SheWantTheD]

I was hardcore only about talking to one woman at a time period, then I learned that's the best way to end up getting played.. I use to kill off all other conversation when trying to get to know a chick. Needless to say that made the other chicks go and then the main one I'm interested in if it doesn't work out I'm back and square one, actually worst off because I killed off all other conversation with other women I was trying to get to know.

After 2 strikes I was like nahhhh, the icing on the cake is when I really came to realize how OPEN women keep there options, they not cutting off anyone until they have a title. So now I dont ask and I assume I'm one of many guys that a chick keeps in touch with, if sex is involved I'd expect her not to let anyone else be smashing but I wouldn't be shocked nor surprised if it was. "i'm not dating, I'm not seeing anyone else, I'm not talking to anyone else, I'm not ready to date" catch em 2 months later and they like So I'm dating such and such now...



Woman are scandalous creatures. Men will do you dirty but women...scandalous.

I'm upfront about it if asked or if it comes up and all.


There will be few ladies that only entertain one guy period at a time same with men when given the opportunity

Yup, I can't even conceptualize it in my mind at the moment me dating and seeing multiple women at once. It just doesn't feel right, but I'm gonna have to get over it if I don't wanna get played, curved etc.

 

[SheWantTheD]

It's not for you to believe. I'm not here to convince anyone of anything.

It's only for him to know and understand or keep it moving.

I just don't see most dudes (unless simps but y'all ain't really attracted to simps like that) cuffing a chick before sex especially in 2016. So how long would y'all be dating before you bring up the conversation about being exclusive? What if dude is touching all up on you, getting sexual, talking dirty.. you gon curve him and say no until he commits to only you? I'm really curious as to how this goes down. How many dudes have been with it versus those that weren't?