Is there really a shortage of black men for black women to date/married? OR

[Blah1991]

Any woman who would look down at you isn't worth your time anyway.

I know one girl who complained about there being a bunch of aint shyt dudes out here for years, shes got a Bachelors and a Masters, manages a Jimmy Johns, and is dating a white dude that works as a server at a Denny's . She had a nice tall handsome educated brutha, this dude looked like alight skinned Ibaka, but she sweated and argued with dude so much cause she was always paranoid, he couldn't take it and bounced. Shorty was messed up in the head, and a little too loose so nobody wanted to cuff her up I suppose. I posted about the situation in the gems thread. Women complain about it, but when it literally DROPS RIGHT INTO THIER LAP, they mess it up.

I know another sister that got married to a black dude with a regular 9-5, he like 5'7 and a decent dude, they got a son together and she's gota bachelors and masters degree and works as a teacher. They probably the happiest black couple I ever seen in my life, got a daughter together and everything.

Both of these women are 26. I grew up with both of them.

I'll even put myself out there, I'm in Chicago and make just over 70k/year with a bachelors and I'm not quite 30 yet. I dont have any debt/kids and you'd be surprised at the women who talk down to me/snub their nose at what I do or talk down at me for managing operations for local government, when they work at Sprint selling phones, or are a shift supervisor at Wal Mart.

Don't let the negative outshine the positive though. I see a lot of black love out here in all brackets, but the hate is strong on both sides, and I think it comes from fear.

 

[GZR]

It surely does.
Did you check the link I sent you to the interracial marriage income levels? How can black women be marrying down and white women marrying up, if bw+wm have the 5 highest household income level, compared to ww+bm who have the 3rd lowest.

Marrying up occurs on an individual basis i.e. marrying someone with a higher income and better prospects than yourself. Those household income levels are for the spouses combined but do not show the distribution of income between the two spouses. It isn't a stretch to consider that a good number of the black women in these unions are marrying white men with lower income than themselves. Its not hard to work out brehette
Black women just like black men place a premium on "whiteness", I'm tired of seeing just black men called out for this shyt while nobody calls black women out on it. Just like a black man may be happy to get involved with a busted white chick but would require a black woman to be attractive, a black woman may be happy to get involved with a white male who is below her level in terms of education/income but would require a black man to be strictly above it.

 

[JasonSJackson]

theres defiantly an abundance of pacified negroes out here

 

[Tae]

They did not say that every ww+bw marriage makes that type of income.

Of course not, it is the average, but you said most bw date down when the date outside their race compared to other women and that obviously is not true.

 

[Tae]

Marrying up occurs on an individual basis i.e. marrying someone with a higher income and better prospects than yourself. Those household income levels are for the spouses combined but do not show the distribution of income between the two spouses. It isn't a stretch to consider that a good number of the black women in these unions are marrying white men with lower income than themselves. Its not hard to work out brehette
Black women just like black men place a premium on "whiteness", I'm tired of seeing just black men called out for this shyt while nobody calls black women out on it. Just like a black man may be happy to get involved with a busted white chick but would require a black woman to be attractive, a black woman may be happy to get involved with a white male who is below her level in terms of education/income but would require a black man to be strictly above it.

The average combined income for a bw+ww marriage is $65+. Seeing as wm make more money on average compared to both black men and black women why is it so hard to come to the conclusion that the wm would be the breadwinner or making about the same as his wife on average.

 

[TMNT4000]

Of course not, it is the average, but you said most bw date down when the date outside their race compared to other women and that obviously is not true.

This chart you posted did not say it was the average, also did not say which ir income class they base there study on.

This study easily nitpick certain couples for there study because no race couple or ir is richer than WM+WW.

The graph only showed that Asian-White couples have higher incomes - not, in fact, that they are wealthier . And did the study even consider investment income, or just salary? Was this taken from an employment/salary site?

Higher income workers (e.g. highly educated, upper mid class) are often saddled with high debt (e.g. student loans, consumer debt, high tax rate w/few write-offs, higher living expenses, etc.) which lowers their net worth. The top income earners are not necessarily the top net worth individuals ("the richest"). Inequality in this country is most extreme in net worth levels, not income.

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

Never rely on the media to paint black men in a positive light. They obviously have an agenda

This should close this thread, but unfortunately you know it wont.

straight up and down...for real y'all.

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

No woman wants to date down.

No woman wants marry below her class.

I don't blame em.

Sadly the American dream has f*cked up our people. As they chase a lifestyle of materialism and BS that's not realistic for many given our current state and our history.

A black man got to be some gotdamn superhuman to even be accepted as a prospect for a relationship or marriage. By any race of women.

That's why I gotta sulk when I see black women dating out and black men with no women whatsoever.

We're being left out in the cold and I hate feeling like that. For many reasons it sucks to feel like we're just "disappearing" from the fabric of America.

I don't blame people for being caught up in a fantasy...but I can blame them for avoiding reality.

 

[The ADD]

Welp

 

[mamba]

Black women are not good cooks now. Breh GTFOH
You want black women to be soft and dainty like white and Asian women, well guess what most Asian and white women have that black women don't.....intact households where men are the bread winners. Those women can be soft and dainty because they have a society that uplifts them and less to worry about including things like systematic racism holding them back.

Tell that to women from around the world who have it just as hard as Black women, yet still maintain their femininity. Even women in Sri Lanka, who take up arms and fight alongside their men, still maintain their femininity. Women in Afghanistan, Iraq, and other places who've lost husbands, fathers, sons, etc. still maintain their femininity despite all that horrific shyt.

I know cac women who are VPs, managers, and other shyt by day, but embrace their roles as wives at night. A lot of Black women, on the other hand, have embraced being hard 24/7. They wear it as a badge of honor.

That shyt turns most men off. No man wants to deal with a hard woman unless he's a closet fakkit. fukk he look like coming home from a hard day's work to chill with a man-like creature in terms of personality and attitude. Average Black man just wants peace when he comes home. Most Black women who can provide that get wifed up.

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

black men are set up to fail in this country. a systematic sabotage. we have to work harder to succeed.

This.

Sadly with this, I feel like there are many of us that just can't even compete.

We need to work hard to build black solidarity, black unity, community, wealth and improve our own condition instead of trying to keep up with the jonseses in more futile attempts to become "westernized" and "americanized". Cause we'll fail everytime.

You can't build a house with no foundation. It'll just fall apart.

I feel like this is the black modus operandi in America...and the reason more successful black people are about "I" and "Me" instead of "we".

 

[mamba]

No woman wants to date down.

No woman wants marry below her class.

I don't blame em.

Sadly the American dream has f*cked up our people. As they chase a lifestyle of materialism and BS that's not realistic for many given our current state and our history.

A black man got to be some gotdamn superhuman to even be accepted as a prospect for a relationship or marriage. By any race of women.

That's why I gotta sulk when I see black women dating out and black men with no women whatsoever.

We're being left out in the cold and I hate feeling like that. For many reasons it sucks to feel like we're just "disappearing" from the fabric of America.

I don't blame people for being caught up in a fantasy...but I can blame them for avoiding reality.

You're right, breh. Black man is being left out. Once these white Latinos get educated and start making moves, it's really going to be tough for us. You already see whites giving their kids Hispanic-sounding names and more and more Latinos checking the "white" box. We all we got as Black people. We need to stop living in a fantasy world and deal with reality. We are about to be made irrelevant in the next 25 years.

Black men and women need to cut the bullshyt and get serious about building families, wealth, and power. There is not going to be any Black/Brown coalition. We all we got.

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

Never said they weren't, but you don't see as many men complaining about that shyt as women

I have noticed a lot of dudes on here getting mad whenever an attractive female gets posted It's either she's a bed wench, only fukks nikkas with money, or only want thugs. low self esteem is a bytch :brehwow:

I've noticed this too.

One such poster had a racist meltdown over some pics of miss india...talking about how she probably doesn't fukk with black men and started going into a tirade about how dirty indians were. He was banned.

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

CNN doesn't cover any other dating statics on other races. When will people learn that the media is fashioned to be as negative as possible towards blacks?

They want to dissect us under their microscope so other races can feel better about themselves.

Sick fukking racist propaganda.

 

[GiGi]

I agree. It's all about money. "Good" Black man means a nikka with money. The aren't enough "good" Black men to go around means there aren't enough "nikkas making money to enable me to enjoy the lifestyle of my non-Black counterparts" to go around.

Let's keep it all the way real.

But its about money (or more accurately financial stability) with ALL women. Black men need to stop vilifying black women for making the exact same demands that white, Asian and Hispanic women ALL make on men.