i have a friend. Here’s some brief info on her: 36 years old, 2 daughters from previous relationships, makes six figures, just bought a big ass house last year, slim, attractive, nice girl, immature though imo(you’ll see why below), Christian, is submissive in relationships.
Here’s some brief info on the guy: he’s in his mid forties, has 4 kids, lives in an apartment, is working a couple of manual labor jobs to make ends meet—he doesn’t have a degree or trade, so he’s been struggling lately with finances, is nice and hardworking, I guess traditional, and he’s
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Situation: they were in a relationship for a year. The entire year they broke up three times. It was always her dumping him. The last break up they had, they took a 3 month break from each other. she realized she loved him, etc.
He recently came back in the picture. She said they are going to take it slow. But already they are talking about him moving into her house with her. She even talked to her two daughters about it.
She said she would write out a lease for him to protect him in case she dumps him again, that way he isn’t ass out.
I asked if they would be splitting the house payment. She lied and said he was going to pay for everything. I know she lied, because earlier she said that he is barely making ends meet with his apartment situation, and that it’s hard because he doesn’t have a degree. So I know he won’t be paying for everything like she said.
Now she asked me and my group of friends what we thought... Everyone was on board with her plan. One even said, “maybe he can go to college so he can make more money....”
And I’m not saying that’s a bad idea in theory, but i feel like it’s dumb to be entertaining this with her. Like first y’all need to actually manage to stay together long enough for that to take place smh.
I told her I thought the whole situation was stupid asf. Why would she move the man she broke up with three times, into the house she shares with her two daughters?(one of them is 15) that’s not a good look.
she says he treats her good... as if that makes up for everything else.
So my question is it just me or is she dumb asf? All of my friends are on her side and I don’t get it...
she’s talking about they’re taking it slow this time—but they fukked already, and are talking about him moving in already. That’s not slow.
She’s mad at me for not supporting her on this.
Here’s some brief info on the guy: he’s in his mid forties, has 4 kids, lives in an apartment, is working a couple of manual labor jobs to make ends meet—he doesn’t have a degree or trade, so he’s been struggling lately with finances, is nice and hardworking, I guess traditional, and he’s
.Situation: they were in a relationship for a year. The entire year they broke up three times. It was always her dumping him. The last break up they had, they took a 3 month break from each other. she realized she loved him, etc.
He recently came back in the picture. She said they are going to take it slow. But already they are talking about him moving into her house with her. She even talked to her two daughters about it.
She said she would write out a lease for him to protect him in case she dumps him again, that way he isn’t ass out.
I asked if they would be splitting the house payment. She lied and said he was going to pay for everything. I know she lied, because earlier she said that he is barely making ends meet with his apartment situation, and that it’s hard because he doesn’t have a degree. So I know he won’t be paying for everything like she said.
Now she asked me and my group of friends what we thought... Everyone was on board with her plan. One even said, “maybe he can go to college so he can make more money....”
And I’m not saying that’s a bad idea in theory, but i feel like it’s dumb to be entertaining this with her. Like first y’all need to actually manage to stay together long enough for that to take place smh.
I told her I thought the whole situation was stupid asf. Why would she move the man she broke up with three times, into the house she shares with her two daughters?(one of them is 15) that’s not a good look.
she says he treats her good... as if that makes up for everything else.
So my question is it just me or is she dumb asf? All of my friends are on her side and I don’t get it...
she’s talking about they’re taking it slow this time—but they fukked already, and are talking about him moving in already. That’s not slow.
She’s mad at me for not supporting her on this.
wherever their man I think is trash comes up. I'm just prepared to offer support when it comes tumbling down and 1 girl i had to cut the friendship because she wouldn't stop dealing with an alcoholic AND wanted to discuss him every second. I had helped her through her divorce the previous year, and I was just done.
