Is she dumb or is it just me?

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Thank you everyone for the input. She has a history of getting involved in these type of relationships. I think she likes men that have less than her, and is destructive in relationships. I guess I just thought that a grown woman would start moving differently. She has two impressionable daughters that are watching her. *sigh*

There is no way in the history of hell that she should be moving a man that is not their father into her home to live, with her teenage daughters. Not saying that all man are sus when it comes to that or would try anything but it's not worth the risk or leaving them exposed with a man that is clearly unstable in all aspects of his life. It's also not a good example that she's setting for her daughters - they look to her as the primary example of how to conduct themselves. Wrong message is being sent.

How many red flags does she need to see how this is a bad decision. Desperation on her part to say that she has a "man" or "in a relationship"?? Dude has 4 kids and struggling financially; how is it a benefit to her to move him in other than access- he has instant access to her cash flow and sex, their living arrangement - she has the benefit of taking money away from her own household and kids to use on him. She's given him 3 chances already - that's a sign they don't belong together for a reason. Not only that, he has 4 KIDS... all those kids are going to be visiting, running all up and through her house. That would drive me mental. Idc if all 4 kids are all by the same mother - that's poor planning if he's not in a position to take care of them and living in an apt. To me it seems like she wants a needy type of dude- control issues and wants the comfort or security knowing that a dude is dependent on her. That he's always going to run back to her but she's clouding her mind mistaking emotional connection with convenience; he's taking advantage of her. He's going to use her until she has nothing more to give and deplete her resources, ending worse than they started; while having the next option on the back burner. Both of them are insecure and looking for security in the wrong places. But I guess like attracts like. Rather be alone that deal with that ish - gmb-ette 4 life. Mess around and end up getting maryjbliged.. nah; he's not worth it.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

@carmel Barbie if you have anymore SLIM ATTRACTIVE friends that are JUST AS STUPID AS SHE IS, send them to west Charlotte(the upper side) and let me eat. Thanks

You're funny looking af, no taller than a door handle; you like to pose for pics on male message boards while modeling your hairstyles and headful of starving skinny struggle locs, have a shyt obsessive attention whoring personality and the mindset of coli c00n con - no one is checking for your basic bussy brokeback buck showing ass. You eat dikk and white chicks- wtf would she want or do with you?? Her friend needs a MAN, not a gender neutral fawging faggit who looks like he twerks in the mirror to Lil Nas X for his xxx onlymalefans. stfu and sit down somewhere, you're low enough to the floor- no one wants you, that's why you stay flexing online.

 

[Sonny Bonds]

What city does she live in?

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

There is no way in the history of hell that she should be moving a man that is not their father into her home to live, with her teenage daughters. Not saying that all man are sus when it comes to that or would try anything but it's not worth the risk or leaving them exposed with a man that is clearly unstable in all aspects of his life. It's also not a good example that she's setting for her daughters - they look to her as the primary example of how to conduct themselves. Wrong message is being sent.

How many red flags does she need to see how this is a bad decision. Desperation on her part to say that she has a "man" or "in a relationship"?? Dude has 4 kids and struggling financially; how is it a benefit to her to move him in other than access- he has instant access to her cash flow and sex, their living arrangement - she has the benefit of taking money away from her own household and kids to use on him. She's given him 3 chances already - that's a sign they don't belong together for a reason. Not only that, he has 4 KIDS... all those kids are going to be visiting, running all up and through her house. That would drive me mental. Idc if all 4 kids are all by the same mother - that's poor planning if he's not in a position to take care of them and living in an apt. To me it seems like she wants a needy type of dude- control issues and wants the comfort or security knowing that a dude is dependent on her. That he's always going to run back to her but she's clouding her mind mistaking emotional connection with convenience; he's taking advantage of her. He's going to use her until she has nothing more to give and deplete her resources, ending worse than they started; while having the next option on the back burner. Both of them are insecure and looking for security in the wrong places. But I guess like attracts like. Rather be alone that deal with that ish - gmb-ette 4 life. Mess around and end up getting maryjbliged.. nah; he's not worth it.

real spit

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

If he treats her good than what's wrong ?

She kept leaving cause she thought she could do better

And comes back to him cause the dating scene sucks

He's not treating her "good" which is why she is so indecisive and keeps leaving or breaking up in the first place.
She could do better, she just doesn't have the confidence in herself to know that she deserves more. He knows this and uses it for his own benefits.
The "dating" scene sucks for you online dating app ass chasers and chatroom roamers bc you lack the ability to interact or approach offline, in real life with the conversational skills of a 9th grader on an I.E.P. program..you can't troll or bandwagon bully your way into a woman's heart.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

she isn't dumb. she likes the control aspect of it. It is similar to men who like women who don't have much going for themselves. She likes that he is kinda dependent on her and uses her as a first option. Maybe even over his own children.

How do you know if she is his "first option" though? sounds like he uses her as an "option only" for financial backing, convenience and easy access sex, when things don't work out with whatever other woman that he's seeing. She is dumb bc a fool keeps repeating the same pattern of mistakes without changing the behavior leading up to it. A person will treat you how they allow you to. Dude is all talk with the finesse game. Her friend is putting a random number in first place position when he shouldn't even be on the practice squad.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Why u love desperate women

Because any woman with self worth and things going on- is not giving him looks, time or attention.
Desperate women are easy to manipulate and kick game to. No assembly required.

 

[Elle Seven]

Thank you everyone for the input. She has a history of getting involved in these type of relationships. I think she likes men that have less than her, and is destructive in relationships. I guess I just thought that a grown woman would start moving differently. She has two impressionable daughters that are watching her. *sigh*

Is it that she consciously likes men who are doing less than she is or does she subconsciously not believe she is worthy of a man who can be her equal? What did her own mama model for her when she was a little girl? She might just be repeating the cycle with her own daughters, which is the real tragedy here, in my opinion.

My first reaction was to call this lady dumb as hell, but to be honest, it’s just because my perspective is different. I grew up watching my mother accept nothing less than she she asked for, and she grew up watching her mama do the same. When it’s what you are used to seeing - commanding respect and correctness from a man - even as a young girl, I imagine it would be hard to even end up in a situation like your friend...unless this is what she was seeing with the matriarchs in her life.

She can turn it around but she needs to be single and working on herself first.

 

[Dwolf]

But frfr @CarmelBarbie hook me up with your friend. I will treat her right

 

[mag357]

Women be having the WOAT type friends lol

U might as well just stay in ur house or go out by urself...

I'm sitting here trying to imagine one of my homeboys talking some stupid shyt like this...

Hit him wit the
nikka iz you aiight

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

Because any woman with self worth and things going on- is not giving him looks, time or attention.
Desperate women are easy to manipulate and kick game to. No assembly required.

Yea desperate women isnt always the best option.

And it nikkaz who struggle to get real women who love them

 

[KyokushinKarateMan]

You're funny looking af, no taller than a door handle; you like to pose for pics on male message boards while modeling your hairstyles and headful of starving skinny struggle locs, have a shyt obsessive attention whoring personality and the mindset of coli c00n con - no one is checking for your basic bussy brokeback buck showing ass. You eat dikk and white chicks- wtf would she want or do with you?? Her friend needs a MAN, not a gender neutral fawging faggit who looks like he twerks in the mirror to Lil Nas X for his xxx onlymalefans. stfu and sit down somewhere, you're low enough to the floor- no one wants you, that's why you stay flexing online.

I’m 6ft in shoes, and my d*ck could wrap around your fat stubby neck and strangle the life out of you, if I felt like getting it dirty. Now go fantasize about it and play with yourself til you fall asleep. In here mad because I don’t want you. B*tch you could never.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

There is no way in the history of hell that she should be moving a man that is not their father into her home to live, with her teenage daughters. Not saying that all man are sus when it comes to that or would try anything but it's not worth the risk or leaving them exposed with a man that is clearly unstable in all aspects of his life. It's also not a good example that she's setting for her daughters - they look to her as the primary example of how to conduct themselves. Wrong message is being sent.

How many red flags does she need to see how this is a bad decision. Desperation on her part to say that she has a "man" or "in a relationship"?? Dude has 4 kids and struggling financially; how is it a benefit to her to move him in other than access- he has instant access to her cash flow and sex, their living arrangement - she has the benefit of taking money away from her own household and kids to use on him. She's given him 3 chances already - that's a sign they don't belong together for a reason. Not only that, he has 4 KIDS... all those kids are going to be visiting, running all up and through her house. That would drive me mental. Idc if all 4 kids are all by the same mother - that's poor planning if he's not in a position to take care of them and living in an apt. To me it seems like she wants a needy type of dude- control issues and wants the comfort or security knowing that a dude is dependent on her. That he's always going to run back to her but she's clouding her mind mistaking emotional connection with convenience; he's taking advantage of her. He's going to use her until she has nothing more to give and deplete her resources, ending worse than they started; while having the next option on the back burner. Both of them are insecure and looking for security in the wrong places. But I guess like attracts like. Rather be alone that deal with that ish - gmb-ette 4 life. Mess around and end up getting maryjbliged.. nah; he's not worth it.

I just kicked it with my girlies tonight. Lol. And yeah he spent the entire week at her house this week. They fukked so much she said her body hurts but she said they’re still not together yet and taking it slow. I think it’s inappropriate to be having week long sleep overs with this man that’s not even your man yet, when you got a 10 and 15 year old daughter walking around seeing the whole thing take place. As a parent I can’t respect it. But she says she loves him.
Love makes some women stupid, so needless to say he’ll probably move in soon.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Women be having the WOAT type friends lol

U might as well just stay in ur house or go out by urself...

I'm sitting here trying to imagine one of my homeboys talking some stupid shyt like this...

Hit him wit the
nikka iz you aiight

Nah they’re stupid as fukk when it comes to men, no lie, but they’re my girls. I can’t even explain all the ways they been there when I needed them—like truly been there. I can always count on them, even before my own fam which is crazy to admit but.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Why did they break up 3 times?