Is Fatherlessness A Black Women's Problem, or A Black Males' Problem?

[MikelArteta]

Damn. Some of these chicks are hard headed.

most people male and female dig their own holes, just that women aren't held accountable.

Oh poor single mother like she was conned by a dude. I can spot a dead beat nikka a mile away

 

[Blackout]

Of course it doesn't make sense. A woman being accountable for her actions will never make sense to you.

Explain why many black women go onto have more kids out of wedlock.....If you had one kid and experienced what it is like to be pregnant, broke, having to work at a fast food joint because the man you slept with bounced, not knowing who will help you babysit while you work, not knowing how you're going to get to your baby's doctors appointment,and etc. Why do some go on to have more kids out of wedlock? Did they not learn the first time?

When I was in my second semester of college I had two classes with a young lady. She would always come to class late, tired, her hair would be a mess, and etc. I later got to know her (she is a nice person) and found out that she has a child (a 2 year old daughter). The father has an expired visa (he's from Jamaica) and he has been living here four years. He can only get an under the table job. He is currently unemployed and doesn't try to find a job. They were renting a room in someone's house. Since he doesn't have a car when she allowed herself to get pregnant she had to take the metro bus or walk. That is pathetic. She works 45+ hours a week, while trying to be a full time student (she failed her classes).I asked how does he help out. She said by watching the daughter. She also said that he hits her and he is verbally abusive towards her. She later broke up with him, and decided that she wants a good man. She is 21 years old. She is a nice young lady, but why are you letting a man who does not want to work get you pregnant? The man doesn't even have his residency documentation in order. I do not feel sorry for those women.

There are a lot of black women who do not think of fatherhood and understand the importance of picking a good husband/good father.My sister and I are very into reading and writing. Growing up I rarely came across normal romance novels involving black people. The type of black romance novels I would come across involved thug love, or convincing a man to do better. My sister uses something called wattpad. She told me that there aren't a lot of normal romance stories involving black people. Most of the stories are interracial OR the black man is not a normal brother. The vast majority of those stories are written by young black women. Too many black women want a Tupac in a business suit or pay no attention to who they enter a relationship with.

Good to know that there are sistas like you who are talking to these women and trying to set them straight

 

[MikelArteta]

Of course it doesn't make sense. A woman being accountable for her actions will never make sense to you.
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Explain why many black women go onto have more kids out of wedlock.....If you had one kid and experienced what it is like to be pregnant, broke, having to work at a fast food joint because that you slept bounced, not knowing who will help you babysit while you work, not knowing how you're going to get to your baby's doctors appointment,and etc. Why do some go on to have more kids out of wedlock? Did they not learn the first time?

When I was in my second semester of college I had two classes with a young lad. She would always come to class late, tired, her hair would be a mess, and etc. I later got to know her (she is a nice person) and found out that she has a child (a 2 year old daughter). The father has an expired visa (he's from Jamaica) and he has been living here four years. He can only get an under the table job. He is currently unemployed and doesn't try to find a job. They were renting a room in someone's house. Since he doesn't have a car when she allowed herself to get pregnant she had to take the metro bus or walk. That is pathetic. She works 45+ hours a week, while trying to be a full time student (she failed her classes).I asked how does he help out. She said by watching the daughter. She also said that he hits her and he is verbally abusive towards her. She later broke up with him, and decided that she wants a good man. She is 21 years old. She is a nice young lady, but why are you letting a man who does not want to work get you pregnant? The man doesn't even have his residency documentation in order. I do not feel sorry for those women.

There are a lot of black women who do not think of fatherhood and understand the importance of picking a good husband/good father.My sister and I are very into reading and writing. Growing up I rarely came across normal romance novels involving black people. The type of black romance novels I would come across.involved thug love, or convincing a man to do better. My sister uses something called wattpad. She told me that there aren't a lot of normal romance stories involving black people. Most of the stories are interracial OR the black man is not a normal brother. Too many black women want a Tupac in a business suit or pay no attention to who they enter a relationship with.

second time will be different

if women were smarter they wouldnt allow a nikka to go raw UNLESS she has the security of a ring or marriage, or unless he was vetted.

If you meet the nikkas parents, his friends his family, build a rapport the odds are if he knocks you up he won't gasp jet.

 

[MikelArteta]

Of course it doesn't make sense. A woman being accountable for her actions will never make sense to you.

Explain why many black women go onto have more kids out of wedlock.....If you had one kid and experienced what it is like to be pregnant, broke, having to work at a fast food joint because the man you slept with bounced, not knowing who will help you babysit while you work, not knowing how you're going to get to your baby's doctors appointment,and etc. Why do some go on to have more kids out of wedlock? Did they not learn the first time?

When I was in my second semester of college I had two classes with a young lady. She would always come to class late, tired, her hair would be a mess, and etc. I later got to know her (she is a nice person) and found out that she has a child (a 2 year old daughter). The father has an expired visa (he's from Jamaica) and he has been living here four years. He can only get an under the table job. He is currently unemployed and doesn't try to find a job. They were renting a room in someone's house. Since he doesn't have a car when she allowed herself to get pregnant she had to take the metro bus or walk. That is pathetic. She works 45+ hours a week, while trying to be a full time student (she failed her classes).I asked how does he help out. She said by watching the daughter. She also said that he hits her and he is verbally abusive towards her. She later broke up with him, and decided that she wants a good man. She is 21 years old. She is a nice young lady, but why are you letting a man who does not want to work get you pregnant? The man doesn't even have his residency documentation in order. I do not feel sorry for those women.

There are a lot of black women who do not think of fatherhood and understand the importance of picking a good husband/good father.My sister and I are very into reading and writing. Growing up I rarely came across normal romance novels involving black people. The type of black romance novels I would come across involved thug love, or convincing a man to do better. My sister uses something called wattpad. She told me that there aren't a lot of normal romance stories involving black people. Most of the stories are interracial OR the black man is not a normal brother. The vast majority of those stories are written by young black women. Too many black women want a Tupac in a business suit or pay no attention to who they enter a relationship with.

 

[mamba]

@bcrusaderw @Elle Driver

Why are these books so popular among Black women?

 

[MikelArteta]

@bcrusaderw @Elle Driver

Why are these books so popular among Black women?

Jeremy knew his life seemed to have changed over night. He never thought he would ever leave the drug-game. It's a very addicting lifestyle. He was a heartless and calculating person. A savage. But then she came along and the rest is history.

He cut off the engine of his Nissan 370z and just sat there for a moment, soaking it all up. He didn't understand how.

How could he have met someone as perfect as her? How could he have fallen in love with her? How could he actually turn in his player's card? How could he end up in prison? How could he finally settle down? They are all firsts for him. Everything that's ever happen to him is because of her and he'd have to thank her for it.

 

[bcrusaderw]

Of course it doesn't make sense. A woman being accountable for her actions will never make sense to you.

Explain why many black women go onto have more kids out of wedlock.....If you had one kid and experienced what it is like to be pregnant, broke, having to work at a fast food joint because the man you slept with bounced, not knowing who will help you babysit while you work, not knowing how you're going to get to your baby's doctors appointment,and etc. Why do some go on to have more kids out of wedlock? Did they not learn the first time?

When I was in my second semester of college I had two classes with a young lady. She would always come to class late, tired, her hair would be a mess, and etc. I later got to know her (she is a nice person) and found out that she has a child (a 2 year old daughter). The father has an expired visa (he's from Jamaica) and he has been living here four years. He can only get an under the table job. He is currently unemployed and doesn't try to find a job. They were renting a room in someone's house. Since he doesn't have a car when she allowed herself to get pregnant she had to take the metro bus or walk. That is pathetic. She works 45+ hours a week, while trying to be a full time student (she failed her classes).I asked how does he help out. She said by watching the daughter. She also said that he hits her and he is verbally abusive towards her. She later broke up with him, and decided that she wants a good man. She is 21 years old. She is a nice young lady, but why are you letting a man who does not want to work get you pregnant? The man doesn't even have his residency documentation in order. I do not feel sorry for those women.

There are a lot of black women who do not think of fatherhood and understand the importance of picking a good husband/good father.My sister and I are very into reading and writing. Growing up I rarely came across normal romance novels involving black people. The type of black romance novels I would come across involved thug love, or convincing a man to do better. My sister uses something called wattpad. She told me that there aren't a lot of normal romance stories involving black people. Most of the stories are interracial OR the black man is not a normal brother. The vast majority of those stories are written by young black women. Too many black women want a Tupac in a business suit or pay no attention to who they enter a relationship with.

If that wasn't the most clichéd nonsense ever written.

 

[bcrusaderw]

I see we're all just going to skirt around the fatherless problem seen in biracial children with black fathers.

 

[MikelArteta]

I see we're all just going to skirt around the fatherless problem seen in biracial children with black fathers.

again where are the receipts?

THe author has NEVER written another article, the author has as much clout as a coli poster in the red. This article isn't backed by anyone not a magazine, not a school, not anyone

 

[bcrusaderw]

again where are the receipts?

THe author has NEVER written another article, the author has as much clout as a coli poster in the red. This article isn't backed by anyone not a magazine, not a school, not anyone

The US Census also backs this data. Along with data from the UK that has one of the largest black/white populations in the world.

 

[agnosticlady]

If that wasn't the most clichéd nonsense ever written.

LOL of course you and your feminist/womanist sisterhood would never believe that a black woman is stupid enough to put herself in a dumb situation. Oh no it's never the black woman's fault. She does absolutely no wrong at all.

 

[MikelArteta]

The US Census also backs this data. Along with data from the UK that has one of the largest black/white populations in the world.

links?

 

[MikelArteta]

LOL of course you and your feminist/womanist sisterhood would never believe that a black woman is stupid enough to put herself in a dumb situation. Oh no it's never the black woman's fault. She does absolutely no wrong at all.

amazing that gasp quality black women wont fnind themselves in this situation, black women who gasp wait til marriage to have kids dont find themselves in this situation

 

[agnosticlady]

If that wasn't the most clichéd nonsense ever written.

Why do many black women go and have more kids out of wedlock after having one kid out of wedlock and seeing how hard it is? You saw how hard it is, so why do it again?

 

[agnosticlady]

amazing that gasp quality black women wont fnind themselves in this situation, black women who gasp wait til marriage to have kids don't find themselves in this situation

Exactly....None of the women in my family have their kids out of wedlock. All of them are married. The fathers are also in their lives, so I don't understand why we should expecting worthless men to be great fathers. I can spot a worthless man form a mile away. Too many black women look at superficial stuff when picking a mate.