1. Is she Healthy, and if she can have children.
a) This is very important to me, you can get tests nowadays that can look at your genes and tell if you are at a high risk to develop certain type of cancers, dementia, alzheimer etc.
But but i love her, yeah but let's say she has a strain that leads to ALS or early symptoms, do you love her enough to be there when she is stricken in a wheelchair, can't communicate and needs you to wait on her hand and foot for the rest of her life?
b) Can she have children......you see it couples married for year and years, trying to have a child but the results are not happening, it's important to make sure that if you want children that your wife doesn't have a scarred womb etc., because one of the major reasons men get married is to have children of their own.
2. Is she from a strong loving family.
A woman from a strong loving family knows what makes a family, knows the sacrifices her dad and mom made. The fights how they stayed together, how important communication is, the ups and downs of marriages and not to bail when in a rut. As well they were brought up in a loving environment and actually know the meaning of love.
Compared to a woman from a broken family, or raised by a single mom. Hasn't seen what makes a family, hasn't seen the strong bond and love between a dad and a mom, how to keep a healthy relationships etc. Marrying a broad from a broken family you are headed for disaster.
3. Dig into her past.
Yes dig into her past, find out everything. If you were to buy a car, a house you would want to know the history of it. If the car has been in a accident, if the house was a grow up. So why would you not dig extremely deep and find out everything whether it hurts you or not about the women you want to spend your life with.
I would go as far as to hire a private investigator let him tail her for a few weeks or a month, let him dig into her history, find out her credit rating, find out if she has a criminal record, find out about her exes, her old places of employment EVERYTHING.
Nothing can be worse than marrying a women then finding out she owes 100,000, has trouble keeping a job, or gasp is cheating on you, I would take these steps and more.
4. No prior kids
There are many reasons for this and I will try to go through all of them
a) A woman with a child who is not married to me shows carelessness. I do not care that the rates are so high with children born out of wedlock, as a man would this be the type of women you want to marry? A women who had a child out of wedlock who made a horrible choice, is that what you want to wake up every day for the rest of your life to?
Is that who you would trust your finances with? your home with? be careful brehs
b) Instead of just being you and her growing in love together, travelling together, enjoying life together. It becomes you, her, baby daddy, and her child. Great you already have a 4 person family and drama every day till you croak.
c) Why save her? There are millions and millions of single childless women out there, don't give up your happiness for baggage.
5. Don't concentrate on looks, concentrate on what she offers.
This is very important, ever seen a chick's mom and your like eek how did she ever produce a daughter that looks so beautiful, then you look around their house and you see a wedding picture, and your like wow that looks exactly like my girlfriend. Because that's how it goes, women depreciate in looks very fast, just because everything is great now doesn't mean in 5-10-15 years or after kids she will look just as dashing.
So ask yourself this, if your only wifing, ringing, marrying this girl because shes a 10/10 what if she falls off, what if she can't lose the baby weight, what if she chops off her hair and everything starts to sag will you still be around? That's why you have to concentrate on more than looks, how is her personality, how does she treat others, does she nag a lot. Remember you will be stuck with her for the rest of your life, choose wisely.
6. Does she submit to you in your relationship
You are the man and the head of the household, a woman who will not realize this and try to test you and think she is in charge will make a horrible horrible wife.
7. Make sure she is 24-28
24-28 is the age range your wife should be around, not to young and not to old. Marry to young and get hit with the "im sorry but i was so young, i did not get to do everything I wanted", to old like 30, 31, 32 you are just the 2 bdrm bungalow for 110k on the outskirts of the city, aka the starter husband. 24-28 you get a women in her prime, whose graduated and has previous experience in relationships.
8. Make sure your family approves of her as a person.
Sometimes you get so caught up in love etc. that you don't see all the red flags and flaws those who really care about (your family) see. From my own observations, many times when the family doesn't approve not including race or religion the marriage will end in divorce.
9. Don't be unequally yoked.
What I mean if she is Jewish and you are christian your ideologies will clash. If she is a atheist and you are a christian, if she is even semi religious and you are hardcore again the clashes will destroy your marriage.
10. Willing to sign a pre-nup
but I'm broke with only a minimum wage job, so are you telling me your going to broke and working a minimum wage job 5, 10, 15 years down the line? You have car insurance on your car but don't expect to be in a accident right?
Protect everything you have..
But yeah if I were to ever get married and wanted children these 10 things I listed are what I base my initial search on.[/quoute]
