Sounds sad to me. I'm not busting my ass at school so I can sit at home and be the eternal housewife. Absolutely not! Would I like to have children and stay at home with them until they go to kindergarten? Yes. But that's why I'm purposely taking the route I'm on right now. Thinking about my future husband and family (provided I'm blessed) right now. Making sure that I'm smart about my money, my time, where/in whom/how I dedicate my energy.
I want a man with whom I can build something great. Show our children (whether daughters or sons) how a partnership works. Balance is necessary and beneficial to the individual and to the unit. I learned this while growing up with a mom who stayed at home while my dad more than provided for us. It's nice, but it also caused a lot of tension and stress, and trust me, the children pick up on that. I'm 28, single, no children, and I learned enough from having been in that environment to know that's not what I want.
This isn't a case of GMB, but of choosing better and being honest enough with yourself about what you want out of life, what a successful relationship and marriage looks like to you, and not "settling" just because of where society says you "should be."
If that were the case, I'd be going on 6 years of marriage now and thoroughly unfulfilled as an individual. What kind of wife and mother would that make me? Miserable. I refuse to be that woman for my spouse or kids. Yeah it's annoying being told "you're marriage material!" "You're not getting any younger!" "When are you gonna settle down?!" But I know what I'm doing and why I'm doing it. I'm not out in the streets, not wasting my or his time, and I will make sure that I'm complete within myself so that when I am in a relationship, it's real but it's an enhancement to both of our lives. Better together, not codependent, and not based off of a "you complete me" fairytale. "You complement me" sounds so much better.
I understand that for some couples, this dynamic of him being the provider outside of the home, and she providing from inside the home is the best fit for them. That's great, but for me, I wouldn't feel fulfilled solely staying at home. I don't think that's my fullest potential and it has never been my heart's desire. Some women dream about that life from the time they're children. I'm very nurturing, and I know how to keep a home, but I also need to be able to use my intellect and be productive in a career. That's my best me, which allows me to give my husband and my children the best of me. I honestly would only want to stay home while the children are young. Once they can talk (and be able to tell me if something were wrong) and are in grade school, I see nothing wrong with contributing monetarily to my household. In fact, the career I'm working towards (front end web development) would allow me flexibility, and that wasn't an incidental decision. I'm always thinking ahead.
Temporary sacrifice, long term gains. Choose wisely.
