I fu©ked up extra heavily and accepted an invitation to an event I have no business attending. Help.

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Thank you, but I don't think you make that claim without actually knowing what I look like .

That's sad that you would put yourself down. sheeeshhh.. Don't be so hard on yourself. Why would you say that??? Appearance is subjective... what you may not consider attractive may be to someone else, and so on. But why would you demean yourself like that? Is it feedback that you get from other people? or a bad experience?

 

[﹏﹏⛴﹏﹏﹏﹏﹏]

Stop watching porn and masterbating breh

I mean......Ay, hold up.

Don't be derailing my thread breh . Keep to the reception advice.

 

[﹏﹏⛴﹏﹏﹏﹏﹏]

It’s messed up, but it can be true in some cases.



Okay. That’s good to know. Will any of your other teammates be there? Perhaps you can catch up with them & leave early.

Yeah, plenty of teammates will be there as well. Keep in mind, the large majority are married or have girlfriends. I would anticipate they would be socializing amongst other couples.

 

[﹏﹏⛴﹏﹏﹏﹏﹏]

That's sad that you would put yourself down. sheeeshhh.. Don't be so hard on yourself. Why would you say that??? Appearance is subjective... what you may not consider attractive may be to someone else, and so on. But why would you demean yourself like that? Is it feedback that you get from other people? or a bad experience?

Demeaning? How so? I don't view it as demeaning. Just being realistic.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Demeaning? How so? I don't view it as demeaning. Just being realistic.

Because you talked down about yourself - there has to be good qualities about you that outweigh what you consider as negative. Like you said, that I wouldn't claim that you would be alright if I knew what you looked like in person... Looks are not the all deciding factor - there's lot of other characteristics that factor in. And you're right, I don't know what you look like, but you assume that if I did know what you looked like, I wouldn't have the same response. That's what I would consider to be demeaning to yourself. Because you come off as level-headed from what I initially thought in reading your posts on this thread (which proved my initial assumption wrong) and your personality seems on point.

 

[Masenko]

What is it you need advice for breh?

Are you asking how to have a good time?

If so then mindset is the #1 thing to get right.

Actually put it into your mind that this is something to look forward to.

Free food, potential hookups, maybe some contacts that might be useful in the future.

I know you don't drink but try some nice tasting ones like a Long Island Ice Tea or something rather than just looking at it like a high. A lot of people put the emphasis on getting drunk but drink what tastes nice while getting your buzz on breh.

You saying you don't wanna make small talk. That's cool breh, try introducing topics that have more substance. Not poitics or religion or any of that crap but actual fun shyt.

And lastly try and figure the peeps there out. Like you say you don't think it'll be worth it but try not to write off peeps so quickly. There might be something there.

That's it breh, try and fun otherwise why else would you go there?

 

[sanityovar8ted]

I should have included I'm not desirable .

Y r u not desirable ¿¿¿¿ do u look like @IbucciMane!

 

[﹏﹏⛴﹏﹏﹏﹏﹏]

Because you talked down about yourself - there has to be good qualities about you that outweigh what you consider as negative. Like you said, that I wouldn't claim that you would be alright if I knew what you looked like in person... Looks are not the all deciding factor - there's lot of other characteristics that factor in. And you're right, I don't know what you look like, but you assume that if I did know what you looked like, I wouldn't have the same response. That's what I would consider to be demeaning to yourself. Because you come off as level-headed from what I initially thought in reading your posts on this thread (which proved my initial assumption wrong) and your personality seems on point.

I consider demeaning or degrading behavior a lot more extreme, I guess. And desirability is not all looks, just as you stated, but it is heavily weighted towards looks, don't you agree?

 

[Roid Jones]

I'll attempt to keep this brief. Former teammate is getting married and since I'm unable to make the wedding, I agreed to make the reception. I don't know anything about receptions so any tips, pointers, and general/basic advice would be appreciated.

General info about the situation:
I don't dance
I don't drink
I'm asocial/apathetic
I don't expect very many black people to be there.

Are you really asocial/apathetic or is this just a cover for underlying insecurity and cowardice? I'm not calling you out at all I just genuinely want to know why you label yourself as such

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

I would claim I'm more of a cynic than a self-defeatist. At the end of the day, I have self-confidence and I believe there's a fine line between self-confidence and delusion. I don't have any entitlement or expectation towards being seen as desirable.

Your cynicism is self-defeating. You don't have to be delusional to feel you may be desirable to some people. But once you decide you are undesirable, you will make it an eventual reality, even when you ARE desirable to someone initially.

You need to stop overthinking things and just learn how to be. This is a good opportunity for you.

 

[LurkMoar]

get your pawg on

 

[Roid Jones]

I don't drink meaning I've never consumed alcohol. And I don't intend on drinking ever.

Nor should you have too, I'm not a drinker myself and have enjoyed many functions without it besides needing to be intoxicated to socialise is weak to me

 

[sanityovar8ted]

I consider demeaning or degrading behavior a lot more extreme, I guess. And desirability is not all looks, just as you stated, but it is heavily weighted towards looks, don't you agree?

Lemme c if u undesirable......u can't look that bad

 

[Copy Ninja]

Breh it's really not that big of a deal. Everyone will be concentrating on the bride and groom. Plus people get drunk on these functions so there will be others acting a fool.

Like everyone has said, get a suit, show up, eat some food and if you're having fun stick around. If not, bounce after an hour.

 

[Eastside Get The Money]

Grown ass man asking for help for a simple situation

2 options bro bro

1) Show up, bring a gift, shake hands and then dip. If you aren’t in the wedding you’re not important and will be forgotten about once the drinking starts.

2) Bring a date, stay have fun