I fu©ked up extra heavily and accepted an invitation to an event I have no business attending. Help.

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OP props for this post. Dapped + Repped.

My ideas:

Could you bring someone along? That should lower the ‘pressure’ a bit.

All attention will be on them, so don’t stress.

Clothes: ideally a suit (tuxedo is not needed), at least ‘business casual’ (google it for inspiration).

Go up to them at the right time - ideally while ppl are arriving so it won’t be crowded.

Give him a handshake/hug, her a handshake. Congratulate them.

For a gift: an envelope would be just fine. “For your honeymoon!” you could say jokingly when you give it.

Then: enjoy the free food. Watch a parent address the couple. Clap.

At one point leave if you don’t feel like hanging out. I’d encourage you to stay though but it’s on you.

After you leave, shoot him a text the next day like “Hey (name), thank you again for the invitation! Really enjoyed the reception. Congrats again, you both looked amazing. My best to (name of bride) and let’s talk soon!”

And that’s it.

Don’t stress if you’re not talking to someone at the reception. You’ll likely easily find people to make small chat with but if it’s too much anxiety - don’t sweat it. You could make small talk with the bartender to warm up if you’d want though. Any questions about work (is it usually this busy at these? When do these usually end? etc are easy conversation starters)

You got this!

Thanks, mane. Yo my man told me "if you have a plus one, bring them along".

Meanwhile, I'm thinking to myself " Sure. Right."

Also I am aware and know how to make small talk. I just don't feel like it honestly.

 

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Like everyone else said.... Get fly & show love.

Get high in anticipation for the food.

Dead serious.

I get high before boring family events to keep my mind occupied & get my appetite jumping for the plates of food

Never been under the influence.

 

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This should be a non issue in reference to your attendance - and you shouldn't refer to white people as your "friends". What makes you consider him your "friend"?

Be careful who you associate with in social settings. Never know with them.

I understand your perspective. This a teammate who extended an invitation to me. We have put in work over years in games, practices, off-season workouts. And grew a friendship.

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

He's white.

this should make all advice null and void breh.

I've never attended a cac reception. Good luck breh, you gon need it

 

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If you a grown man, dont show up at a wedding dressed like your mom picked your clothes...put a damn sport coat on...some of yall nikkas are like lil kids

Free food, drinks and horny women and you’re not in the wedding party? That’s a decent night. You could possibly leave with your belly full and your “you knows” empty. Are you any good at talking to random women OP?

Below average to decent. Like I mentioned prior, I know small talk, I just feel the output is not worth the input, if you will.

 

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The fukk? Dress up and take advantage of the free food and alcohol.

Holla at some single broads.

One of the easiest events to pull hoes.

As I said before, I'm not desirable. So this doesn't apply to me.

 

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Get a crisp lineup, get suited and booted and shoot your shot, breh.

I ain't been to a barber in 2.5 years, breh. Curly fro with curls in all directions.

 

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This is social behavior 101

I hope you dont shoot the spot up

This is a Dylan Roof thread

 

[Fletch]

Suit up, boot up, and show up. There’s going to probably more than a few others there that don’t drink or dance. Just shoot the shyt and holler at the most sober bridesmaid.

 

[onthereal]

You can be in and out of this joint in an hour. You're overthinking it. Free food and no expectations. Easy game

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

I should have included I'm not desirable .

Self defeating attitudes become a self fulfilling prophecy. Get out of your own head for once in your life and live in the moment.

 

[P90]

So about attire? Nice blazer, shirt, and pants or more?

This would be good, wouldn’t go without a jacket and button up.

 

[ndthentherewasx]

enjoy the food and try to scoop a honey.

Say hello and congratulations


Then this

 

[GreenGrass]

chill.
maybe say a hi to a few people.
drink some wine..
and then bounce

 

[MikeyC]

Just have fun.