I fu©ked up extra heavily and accepted an invitation to an event I have no business attending. Help.

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Y r u not desirable ¿¿¿¿ do u look like @IbucciMane!

Ay yo, why you insert breh into this?

Are you really asocial/apathetic or is this just a cover for underlying insecurity and cowardice? I'm not calling you out at all I just genuinely want to know why you label yourself as such

I would describe myself as asocial/apathetic. Aloof, distant, etc. What insecurities would you say I suppress?

Your cynicism is self-defeating. You don't have to be delusional to feel you may be desirable to some people. But once you decide you are undesirable, you will make it an eventual reality, even when you ARE desirable to someone initially.

You need to stop overthinking things and just learn how to be. This is a good opportunity for you.

I would disagree. In my eyes, to enter anywhere and just expect random people to find you desirable? To have that entitlement? That doesn't make sense to me.

My first thread in like five years and the script got flipped on me.

 

[﹏﹏⛴﹏﹏﹏﹏﹏]

Lemme c if u undesirable......u can't look that bad

"It's gonna be no from me, dawg." <Randy Jackson>

 

[poppastoppa]

I'll attempt to keep this brief. Former teammate is getting married and since I'm unable to make the wedding, I agreed to make the reception. I don't know anything about receptions so any tips, pointers, and general/basic advice would be appreciated.

General info about the situation:
I don't dance
I don't drink
I'm asocial/apathetic
I don't expect very many black people to be there.

Sit in the back, eat food, and the bounce. Why simple shyt like this so hard?

 

[MJ Truth]

I'll attempt to keep this brief. Former teammate is getting married and since I'm unable to make the wedding, I agreed to make the reception. I don't know anything about receptions so any tips, pointers, and general/basic advice would be appreciated.

General info about the situation:
I don't dance
I don't drink
I'm asocial/apathetic
I don't expect very many black people to be there.

Keeping it 1000, the event literally has NOTHING to do with you. Nobody is there checking for you, it’s about the couple. Just show up to show your respects, make sure the couple sees you and you acknowledge them (and probably praise her) and then keep it pushing.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

I consider demeaning or degrading behavior a lot more extreme, I guess. And desirability is not all looks, just as you stated, but it is heavily weighted towards looks, don't you agree?

Depends.... it depends on the person. I've commented here before that I put up with a man's negative behavior more because he was more than average in terms of attractiveness. In a past situation, I looked over negative qualities because of the physical attractiveness. But eventually that was not the primary factor that kept me interested because I ended up cutting him off anyway. Looking back, I didn't like him that much but I liked the idea of him fitting into certain categories that I wanted him to be in. But his personality was on some bullshyt and those physical qualities didn't make a difference. To me he was nothing but false advertising - looked good on the outside, but after I started seeing things for what they are; his whole vibe was misleading.

Now I'm a lot more substantive in that I look at the overall person, their character, what they're about, their personality, similar interests, similar mindset etc. For example, if I knew you in real life, and we were to have a convo like this in person; and you come across like you do in here - your personality makes you more intriguing as opposed to someone who may consider themselves attractive, but they're being arrogant, obnoxious, loud, or rude or has to be the center of attention is annoying to me. If a man of that type were to try to talk to me, I would look at him like he was stupid and keep it moving. Whereas you seem laid back, you would be in the cut, being respectful.... you seem nice enough, even though you may not think you look good, or you're not the "it" guy.. you may have qualities that are appealing.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

delete- misquote

 

[poppastoppa]

Depends.... it depends on the person. I've commented here before that I put up with a man's negative behavior more because he was more than average in terms of attractiveness. In a past situation, I looked over negative qualities because of the physical attractiveness. But eventually that was not the primary factor that kept me interested because I ended up cutting him off anyway. Looking back, I didn't like him that much but I liked the idea of him fitting into certain categories that I wanted him to be in. But his personality was on some bullshyt and those physical qualities didn't make a difference. To me he was nothing but false advertising - looked good on the outside, but after I started seeing things for what they are; his whole vibe was misleading.

Now I'm a lot more substantive in that I look at the overall person, their character, what they're about, their personality, similar interests, similar mindset etc. For example, if I knew you in real life, and we were to have a convo like this in person; and you come across like you do in here - your personality makes you more intriguing as opposed to someone who may consider themselves attractive, but they're being arrogant, obnoxious, loud, or rude or has to be the center of attention is annoying to me. If a man of that type were to try to talk to me, I would look at him like he was stupid and keep it moving. Whereas you seem laid back, you would be in the cut, being respectful.... you seem nice enough, even though you may not think you look good, or you're not the "it" guy.. you may have qualities that are appealing.

Gave him a good "pat on the head" talk. Breh may have needed that.

 

[Roid Jones]

I would describe myself as asocial/apathetic. Aloof, distant, etc. What insecurities would you say I suppress?

I don't know if you have any, it's just that the people who I have encountered that labelled themselves as such, did so because it was cool and edgy, when pressed more it became clear they were insecure about things such as looks, height, weight, career status.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Y r u not desirable ¿¿¿¿ do u look like @IbucciMane!

word @Fourth Wall
as long as you don't look like him ^^^ and have his bum ass personality to match..

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Gave him a good "pat on the head" talk. Breh may have needed that.

That's not a pat on the head.. lol. That's how I feel. . He needs a self esteem boost, pat on the head is condescending , you give dogs pats - white people shyt..

 

[﹏﹏⛴﹏﹏﹏﹏﹏]

Depends.... it depends on the person. I've commented here before that I put up with a man's negative behavior more because he was more than average in terms of attractiveness. In a past situation, I looked over negative qualities because of the physical attractiveness. But eventually that was not the primary factor that kept me interested because I ended up cutting him off anyway. Looking back, I didn't like him that much but I liked the idea of him fitting into certain categories that I wanted him to be in. But his personality was on some bullshyt and those physical qualities didn't make a difference. To me he was nothing but false advertising - looked good on the outside, but after I started seeing things for what they are; his whole vibe was misleading.

Now I'm a lot more substantive in that I look at the overall person, their character, what they're about, their personality, similar interests, similar mindset etc. For example, if I knew you in real life, and we were to have a convo like this in person; and you come across like you do in here - your personality makes you more intriguing as opposed to someone who may consider themselves attractive, but they're being arrogant, obnoxious, loud, or rude or has to be the center of attention is annoying to me. If a man of that type were to try to talk to me, I would look at him like he was stupid and keep it moving. Whereas you seem laid back, you would be in the cut, being respectful.... you seem nice enough, even though you may not think you look good, or you're not the "it" guy.. you may have qualities that are appealing.

Yo, I have to rep you again when I get the chance. You've softened my stance.
















By like .001% , but you've softened it nonetheless.

Truth be told, this conversation probably wouldn't happen. Like I said, I'm asocial.

 

[poppastoppa]

That's not a pat on the head.. lol. That's how I feel. . He needs a self esteem boost, pat on the head is condescending , you give dogs pats - white people shyt..

No not like a dog, like you would your son or little brother.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Sit in the back, eat food, and the bounce. Why simple shyt like this so hard?

Because introverts... I can relate. Not very inclusive - asocial or antisocial types, it's an energy drain and we have to mentally prepare for this type of shyt. I'm famous for backing out of things at the last minute, if I don't feel like it. There's only select people or personalities that I like to associate with depending on the mood too... (this wedding/reception stuff... blahhhhh, I don't do those)

 

[﹏﹏⛴﹏﹏﹏﹏﹏]

I don't know if you have any, it's just that the people who I have encountered that labelled themselves as such, did so because it was cool and edgy, when pressed more it became clear they were insecure about things such as looks, height, weight, career status.

Being asocial is not cool or edgy. At all. In fact, it is incredibly detrimental to many aspects in life. I'm fully aware of these disadvantages and I completely accept the repercussions due to this mindset and demeanor.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Yo, I have to rep you again when I get the chance. You've softened my stance.
















By like .001% , but you've softened it nonetheless.

Truth be told, this conversation probably wouldn't happen. Like I said, I'm asocial.

.. I'm a mood dependent semi-social introvert with extrovert qualities so who knows.. we probably would get along.. . If this convo is happening on here, I understand where you're coming from. you seem nice enough to me... not giving off any weird vibes