Make sure you eat 3 plates of food
I fu©ked up extra heavily and accepted an invitation to an event I have no business attending. Help.
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Your’re probably not social because you don’t drink.
Take two shots before the reception. It should loosen your inhibitions to where it would be easier to socialize.
For events like this, I always have a drink or two to get a nice slight buzz so that I am relaxed and able to socialize better but not enough to where I’m sloppy.
Naturally, I’m a bit aloof and stand-offish so a drink helps me become more personable and gregarious at social functions.
Take two shots before the reception. It should loosen your inhibitions to where it would be easier to socialize.
For events like this, I always have a drink or two to get a nice slight buzz so that I am relaxed and able to socialize better but not enough to where I’m sloppy.
Naturally, I’m a bit aloof and stand-offish so a drink helps me become more personable and gregarious at social functions.
2 hours?!Bring a friend and gift. The friend will help keep you occupied. You don't have to stay the whole reception. Make sure the bride and groom see you and have a chat and Congratulate them. Get some food and cake. Then dip out. So I would say stay for 2 hours or so. When the dancing starts it's easier for you to slide out cause no one is paying attention.
.I was contemplating one hour, max
.He's white.
This! I've been to countless weddings/receptions. If you show your face to the couple at least twice they won't even know you left. It's so much going on and too many people to "care" about one.
2 hours?!
I was contemplating one hour, max
. I guess 1 hour is fine. Just make sure people know you were there and the bride and groom see you and remember you. They not gonna keep track of whose leaving, they're too in the moment. I've only ever been to weddings with my family. Honestly after the wedding I would rather dip out. But my parents stay till the end of the reception. My mom loves helping to clean up. shyt was annoying.
you gonna have to sit down and make small talk for hours. That's all there is to it
this situation would have been balanced out by drinking but now you gotta be bored out ya mind and sober
Flywin Lannister
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OP props for this post. Dapped + Repped.
My ideas:
Could you bring someone along? That should lower the ‘pressure’ a bit.
All attention will be on them, so don’t stress.
Clothes: ideally a suit (tuxedo is not needed), at least ‘business casual’ (google it for inspiration).
Go up to them at the right time - ideally while ppl are arriving so it won’t be crowded.
Give him a handshake/hug, her a handshake. Congratulate them.
For a gift: an envelope would be just fine. “For your honeymoon!” you could say jokingly when you give it.
Then: enjoy the free food. Watch a parent address the couple. Clap.
At one point leave if you don’t feel like hanging out. I’d encourage you to stay though but it’s on you.
After you leave, shoot him a text the next day like “Hey (name), thank you again for the invitation! Really enjoyed the reception. Congrats again, you both looked amazing. My best to (name of bride) and let’s talk soon!”
And that’s it.
Don’t stress if you’re not talking to someone at the reception. You’ll likely easily find people to make small chat with but if it’s too much anxiety - don’t sweat it. You could make small talk with the bartender to warm up if you’d want though. Any questions about work (is it usually this busy at these? When do these usually end? etc are easy conversation starters)
You got this!
My ideas:
Could you bring someone along? That should lower the ‘pressure’ a bit.
All attention will be on them, so don’t stress.
Clothes: ideally a suit (tuxedo is not needed), at least ‘business casual’ (google it for inspiration).
Go up to them at the right time - ideally while ppl are arriving so it won’t be crowded.
Give him a handshake/hug, her a handshake. Congratulate them.
For a gift: an envelope would be just fine. “For your honeymoon!” you could say jokingly when you give it.
Then: enjoy the free food. Watch a parent address the couple. Clap.
At one point leave if you don’t feel like hanging out. I’d encourage you to stay though but it’s on you.
After you leave, shoot him a text the next day like “Hey (name), thank you again for the invitation! Really enjoyed the reception. Congrats again, you both looked amazing. My best to (name of bride) and let’s talk soon!”
And that’s it.
Don’t stress if you’re not talking to someone at the reception. You’ll likely easily find people to make small chat with but if it’s too much anxiety - don’t sweat it. You could make small talk with the bartender to warm up if you’d want though. Any questions about work (is it usually this busy at these? When do these usually end? etc are easy conversation starters)
You got this!
Silver Surfer
Veteran
what kind of nikka are you?
Henri Christophe
Son Of Afrika
Like everyone else said.... Get fly & show love.
Get high in anticipation for the food.
Dead serious.
I get high before boring family events to keep my mind occupied & get my appetite jumping for the plates of food
Get high in anticipation for the food.
Dead serious.
I get high before boring family events to keep my mind occupied & get my appetite jumping for the plates of food
This should be a non issue in reference to your attendance - and you shouldn't refer to white people as your "friends". What makes you consider him your "friend"?
Be careful who you associate with in social settings. Never know with them.
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shadowking
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Get a domestic gift?I should have included I'm not desirable.
Do they have an amazon wishlist?
Use the chance to practise networking
it's white people food though
I can mess with this. I hate formal attire.