I Don't Enjoy Being Married
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I just reread the op and you really should log off the Coli and write a song using those words. Its like a cross between Regulate, Because I Got High, I Wish and I Want You.
A light rain faaaaaaallllliiiiinnnnnnnnn
I'm contemplaaaaaaaatttiiiiinnnnnnnnnn
In the park
Its dark
I'm alone
But married
With kids
And I haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaate it
I don't enjoy being maaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrieeeeeeeed
I don't enjoy being maaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrieeeeeeeed
I don't enjoy being maaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrieeeeeeeed
I don't enjoy being maaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrieeeeeeeed noooooooo moooooooorreeeee (I don't think I ever did)
I can already hear it. Beat, lyrics and the visual too. Even the adlibs and runs. Smash hit written all over it because everyone can relate.
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A light rain faaaaaaallllliiiiinnnnnnnnn
I'm contemplaaaaaaaatttiiiiinnnnnnnnnn
In the park
Its dark
I'm alone
But married
With kids
And I haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaate it
I don't enjoy being maaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrieeeeeeeed
I don't enjoy being maaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrieeeeeeeed
I don't enjoy being maaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrieeeeeeeed
I don't enjoy being maaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrieeeeeeeed noooooooo moooooooorreeeee (I don't think I ever did)
I can already hear it. Beat, lyrics and the visual too. Even the adlibs and runs. Smash hit written all over it because everyone can relate.
From the production team that bought you the unexpected smash hit sitcom Jadas Kids we present the new debut album from Hathaway called R&B: Rhythm and Bruises. Not available on any streaming services, just dusty 12s to keep it all the way real. Served fresh with a bad attitude and tinged with regret at the life not lived. In stores now!
you tagged me for something someone else said, and they insinuated the govt is god
The bolded is the issue brother.
I know everyone is gonna disagree lol
But there is no such thing as lonely.
You ever been by yourself having fun and a feeling of "lonely" comes over you?
No, because you're busy doing whatever the hell makes you happy.
Lonely just means "bored by yourself".
The secondary issue is you not getting women/having sex.
That also, will mess up your energy because subconsciously, as men, we equate the ability to get women with our self worth.
Too much of this, and this is where the low self esteem, hating yourself, hating other people, (sometimes hating women) starts to happen.
I'm not saying go have sex... I'm saying this is where my first point is even more important.
You need to immerse yourself in something that makes you happy
IIVI
Superstar
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yall crazy on here
xXOGLEGENDXx
Superstar
You have four options
1. Divorce and break the family, but have your freedom.
2. Start fukking other women. Feel alive again, but ultimately break the family
3. Start swinging with your wife.
4. Continue like this and probably die early.
Follow the gospel to a tee and wonder why you're miserable brehs
1. Divorce and break the family, but have your freedom.
2. Start fukking other women. Feel alive again, but ultimately break the family
3. Start swinging with your wife.
4. Continue like this and probably die early.
Follow the gospel to a tee and wonder why you're miserable brehs
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whenever you feel down @Hathaway just remember that in an alternate universe, somewhere out there, you are married to lawyer, crip and coli-poster extraordinaire @Nicole0416_718_929_646212 
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that'll pep you right back up
.that'll pep you right back up
Lord_nikon
Veteran
What freedom do you lack?
The God Poster
LWO representa
@Hathaway my brother confused on what you feel is missing? You said “free”.
Do you not feel you can be yourself around her anymore? Or is this more sex based & wanting to step out? Need more details.
I’ve been in a situation where I felt I could no longer be myself. Constant arguing etc
If that’s the case y’all need to talk as it’s on both of you.
Do you not feel you can be yourself around her anymore? Or is this more sex based & wanting to step out? Need more details.
I’ve been in a situation where I felt I could no longer be myself. Constant arguing etc
If that’s the case y’all need to talk as it’s on both of you.
I mean, I know single men that would kill for a home-cooked meal
I know married men that'll kill for a quiet house
Haha shyt it's just, it's just all depend on your perspective
Youknahmean? Ain't nothin' perfect
-Phonte
Elle Seven
Superstar
I hope things start to get clearer for you @Hathaway
You're in the "valley of the tigers", as the chaplain who gave me pre-martial counseling years ago called it: those first 5-7 years of marriage. He described it as the period where most marriages fail because that's when the reality of what you committed to really starts taking hold and you and your spouse really start to see each other. You already have children, so it amplifies the growing pains you and your wife are experiencing.
From experience, I can tell you the period feels long, but it does not last. One way or another, you will find yourself on the other side of this situation eventually, and you will be wiser.
Just wanted to say you are not the only to experience this and won't be the last.
My marriage is hitting 20 years soon, and I remember trying to bail right around the time we officially hit year 4. In retrospect, my reasons were shallow and selfish, especially since we didn't even have children then. For a time, though, they really seemed justified.
We ended up going to church group marriage counseling shortly thereafter to address the problem, and that is when I realized how dumb I was for what I tried to do. We were amongst couples who were experiencing physical abuse, alcohol and drug abuse, interference from extended family, infidelity and illegitimate children, and other fukkery. None of this was our situation, and I was shocked at just how dumb my reasons for wanting to leave truly were. There were people out there really going thru it...
Years later, I look back at that whole period and what stands out the most is realizing my husband could have just as easily said he was going to leave me for his own reasons, too. It never occurred to me at any point then he might have his own feelings of frustration and dissatisfaction...like, seriously. I was just thinking of my own feelings. And over the years, he has divulged times where he actually has had similar thoughts, and they've helped me look at things a couple of ways. For instance, on one hand, I would examine myself to see how I could be a better wife to him. On another hand, it helped me see he is an individual all of his own (not just my husband) who has his own God-given path to walk and lessons to learn. You might be surprised what comes to you if you take a similar stance. Do you and your wife ever talk about these issues? Did y'all make the agreement when you got married to ever have such a conversation if these feelings ever came up for one of you?
I think what has given me some level of contentment is that I never came into marriage with romantic notions anyway; the thought of tying yourself to another person and that person's family is a sobering one I made peace with long ago. I'm not sure what other way people can come into marriage besides knowing it will involve a certain level of pain at times. I would encourage you to make peace with what you've done. You've committed to a life of learning, teaching, growing and changing through an environment you created by taking a wife and having children. It can be just as challenging as it is rewarding.
I don't know definitively if the grass is greener - for any of us. I only know that life has shown me that is usually not the case and that you are always trading one thing for another. By being married, you have traded one life for another. Some times will be better than others. I would ask you what it is you are seeking. What is it you think being married is keeping you from and what is it you think being free of it might truly give you?
Sit with your feelings and feel them and truly consider these questions. I definitely won't tell you you're wrong. I'd just tell you to examine these feelings all the way to the bottom and see what answers you get.
Someone earlier made a suggestion I completely co-sign - it is necessary to maintain an identity and interests that are SOLELY your own, apart from your family. Your wife will change over time and your children will eventually grow up. Make sure you have carved out something solely for yourself though.
Everything else adds to your life but if one who makes a spouse and children they center of his/her happiness is in for a rude awakening. It is not the role of a spouse or children to bring us happiness or contentment; it truly does exist within us. Find a way to continue consistently pouring into yourself because, if not, you won't have anything else to offer anyone else.
You're in the "valley of the tigers", as the chaplain who gave me pre-martial counseling years ago called it: those first 5-7 years of marriage. He described it as the period where most marriages fail because that's when the reality of what you committed to really starts taking hold and you and your spouse really start to see each other. You already have children, so it amplifies the growing pains you and your wife are experiencing.
From experience, I can tell you the period feels long, but it does not last. One way or another, you will find yourself on the other side of this situation eventually, and you will be wiser.
Just wanted to say you are not the only to experience this and won't be the last.
My marriage is hitting 20 years soon, and I remember trying to bail right around the time we officially hit year 4. In retrospect, my reasons were shallow and selfish, especially since we didn't even have children then. For a time, though, they really seemed justified.
We ended up going to church group marriage counseling shortly thereafter to address the problem, and that is when I realized how dumb I was for what I tried to do. We were amongst couples who were experiencing physical abuse, alcohol and drug abuse, interference from extended family, infidelity and illegitimate children, and other fukkery. None of this was our situation, and I was shocked at just how dumb my reasons for wanting to leave truly were. There were people out there really going thru it...
Years later, I look back at that whole period and what stands out the most is realizing my husband could have just as easily said he was going to leave me for his own reasons, too. It never occurred to me at any point then he might have his own feelings of frustration and dissatisfaction...like, seriously. I was just thinking of my own feelings. And over the years, he has divulged times where he actually has had similar thoughts, and they've helped me look at things a couple of ways. For instance, on one hand, I would examine myself to see how I could be a better wife to him. On another hand, it helped me see he is an individual all of his own (not just my husband) who has his own God-given path to walk and lessons to learn. You might be surprised what comes to you if you take a similar stance. Do you and your wife ever talk about these issues? Did y'all make the agreement when you got married to ever have such a conversation if these feelings ever came up for one of you?
I think what has given me some level of contentment is that I never came into marriage with romantic notions anyway; the thought of tying yourself to another person and that person's family is a sobering one I made peace with long ago. I'm not sure what other way people can come into marriage besides knowing it will involve a certain level of pain at times. I would encourage you to make peace with what you've done. You've committed to a life of learning, teaching, growing and changing through an environment you created by taking a wife and having children. It can be just as challenging as it is rewarding.
I don't know definitively if the grass is greener - for any of us. I only know that life has shown me that is usually not the case and that you are always trading one thing for another. By being married, you have traded one life for another. Some times will be better than others. I would ask you what it is you are seeking. What is it you think being married is keeping you from and what is it you think being free of it might truly give you?
Sit with your feelings and feel them and truly consider these questions. I definitely won't tell you you're wrong. I'd just tell you to examine these feelings all the way to the bottom and see what answers you get.
Someone earlier made a suggestion I completely co-sign - it is necessary to maintain an identity and interests that are SOLELY your own, apart from your family. Your wife will change over time and your children will eventually grow up. Make sure you have carved out something solely for yourself though.
Everything else adds to your life but if one who makes a spouse and children they center of his/her happiness is in for a rude awakening. It is not the role of a spouse or children to bring us happiness or contentment; it truly does exist within us. Find a way to continue consistently pouring into yourself because, if not, you won't have anything else to offer anyone else.
Nah lolHave your girl perform on dancing bear brehs
Gotta send them the ones where they suckin' on cucumbers, zucchini, bananas & dildos & shyt lol
