I Don't Enjoy Being Married

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

Goddamn

"A million things run through my mind. You aint gotta be in jail to be doing time."

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

whenever you feel down @Hathaway just remember that in an alternate universe, somewhere out there, you are married to lawyer, crip and coli-poster extraordinaire @Nicole0416_718_929_646212 .


that'll pep you right back up

She's a super blood

 

[Dave24]

My wife knows these things. Not in much detail but she knows. To protect the health of my home, I cannot express these things in great detail for it will ruin her mentally. We both can't be miserable. I am much better at handling my emotions then she is so I choose peace in my home over peace in my mind.

@Hathaway last post on the coli, hasn't posted since this post

 

[BuckFilly]

I mean, I know single men that would kill for a home-cooked meal
I know married men that'll kill for a quiet house
Haha shyt it's just, it's just all depend on your perspective
Youknahmean? Ain't nothin' perfect

-Phonte

 

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Original post started off like a mediocre novel

 

[Bigblackted4]

Original post started off like a mediocre novel

Lmao

 

[Hawala Man]

There are a lot of men just like OP in this world who suffer in silence and feel the same way but keep going for the sake of kids. Unfortunately the demons come around and it's a basically over. Those who laugh or make slick comments have no understanding of how serious situations like this can be.

 

[3rdWorld]

Marriage is a duty..

Coming from a guy whose not married

 

[Nighthawk]

It's a light rain fall tonight. I'm at this dark park alone just walking ; contemplating. Getting fresh air. My mother in law has the kids. I finally get a moment alone. Peace.

I've made alot of mistakes in my life. Marriage ranks chief among them. It's a weird situation to be in. I am madly in love with her. I would give my life for her. I want to see her happy among all things. I strive for that. I've been married since I was 27. It'll be 6 years this year.

I stick it out for my kids. They deserve a complete home. A father and mother. Structure, guidance and discipline. Happiness. I want that for them. But the more I watch these years pass by, the more I realize I value my freedom over everything. I suppress those thoughts.

I was a different man when I married. I was a minister. I followed the god of the Bible and it's doctrines. I married and started a family, excited in raising a family in the gospel. "He who findeths a wife finds a good thing". "Children are a gift from the Lord". However, a fierce and chaotic whirlwind freed me from those chains. But now, I am left with the remnants of a man no longer here: a family. A wife & 2 children.

Any man would give up his half to have such precious things. A woman who loves you. Boys who adore you. I gave up my life for the gospel. I left it behind but cannot restore those lost years. 10 years. So much time wasted. So many dreams unconquered. So much land undiscovered. Nothing to show for it all. I continually give up my life for the prosperity of my family.

I can never abandon them liked my father did me. So I sit here. I stay and wallow in unhappiness. I embody it. I cry when I'm alone. I'm crying right now. I feel stuck. My pride as a man won't allow me to refuse my responsibilities. My longing for peace of mind and freedom will ultimately eat away at my mind until I am nothing but a hollow shell of a man who once was.

I appreciate your honesty. I'm a bachelor in my early 30's and i firmly know that i wouldn't be happy with wife and kids. I'm just finna be a player until i die

 

[Gloxina]

There are a lot of men just like OP in this world who suffer in silence and feel the same way but keep going for the sake of kids. Unfortunately the demons come around and it's a basically over. Those who laugh or make slick comments have no understanding of how serious situations like this can be.

Women too, but when men feel like this it’s % easier to run and find some new young chick.


Which is why ppl need to be very careful before getting married because I know I’d prefer not marrying and having kids if my husband felt like having a family was holding him back and didn’t realize it until AFTER I popped out a kid

 

[Gloxina]

I appreciate your honesty. I'm a bachelor in my early 30's and i firmly know that i wouldn't be happy with wife and kids. I'm just finna be a player until i die

^^^ totally respect you understanding yourself and what you want before taking the plunge.

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

^^^ totally respect you understanding yourself and what you want before taking the plunge.

A lot of women don't. I've had a vasectomy for years and been telling women since my 20's I wasn't getting married or having kids. I still get into issues because of them having false expectations despite me being up front about that shyt day one.

 

[AtomicUse]

A lot of women don't. I've had a vasectomy for years and been telling women since my 20's I wasn't getting married or having kids. I still get into issues because of them having false expectations despite me being up front about that shyt day one.

@ba'al

 

[Michael's Black Son]

I appreciate your honesty. I'm a bachelor in my early 30's and i firmly know that i wouldn't be happy with wife and kids. I'm just finna be a player until i die

Breh i don’t know how these cats do it. Last week I was with like 25-30 family members for a gathering and a few were asking me about marriage/kids (since I brought my married/soon to be divorced homegirl with me who has kids with me)

I deadass told them I’d only wife il Beyoncé and be her kids stepdad because I don’t wanna deal with some regular chick’s baggage NOR do I wanna create my own. Just can’t do it. Rather have a rotating cast of chicks forever and ever.

 

[BigTyme Records]

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