I Don't Enjoy Being Married

[Dont@Me]

A lot of women don't. I've had a vasectomy for years and been telling women since my 20's I wasn't getting married or having kids. I still get into issues because of them having false expectations despite me being up front about that shyt day one.

They really don't believe you when you tell 'em either huh?

 

[Dont@Me]

All I gotta say is that Drill rap, Autotune Nikkas (future , NBA YB , gunna ect)

Are fukkin trash. Literally any nikka that fall into that category is complete ass to me

 

[BigTyme Records]

Wrong thread

 

[Cakebatter]

We live in a time where everyone is still expected to get married and most still want to get married, but the vast majority of advice is what NOT to do, rather than HOW TO find the right spouse. If all you heard were car buying horror stories, and to look out for sleazy car salesman, a veteran car salesman is going to have a field day with you, if you haven't learned the actual process of how to buy a car. Also young dudes are focused on looking out for a woman lying to them, that they never figure out what they want for themselves and end up falling prey to the lies they tell themselves. For all the dudes wanting to live that bachelor life, I got a pro tip for you: The vast majority of top tier single ladies are expecting to get a ring out of someone, and won't fuq with you if you tell them, they ain't getting one from you. How great really is your love life if you spend the majority of it leading women on?


Here is what I tell every person thinking of marriage. Google "Top reason couples divorce". Make a list of 20 questions based on what you read, then hash them out with the girl you are interested in. "What do we do if your mother wants to visit us unannounced and I don't like it?", "Your brother wants to borrow $5k from us to start his lawncare business. Do we give it to him?", "How many children do you want to have, and do you believe in spanking?", "How often will we have sex per month, and what to do if one of us wants more than the other?" "I got a job offer in another state. Its my dream job, do we move?" See that covers Money, Family, Sex, Careers. Hash out enough questions and the many of the issues in marriage that will definitely arise have already been discussed.

 

[raoulduke187]

I don't know if you'll read this, seeing there's already 9 pages worth of comments but in case you do:

it ain't that deep bruh

doing the right thing doesn't mean you will feel right all the time

marriage is a drag but trust me alone out on these streets is no fun either

you just got a bad case of the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence

love always fades no matter how strong it was, don't lie to yourself and try to force it

just stick it out until the kids are grown and can fend for themselves, then you are free to do as you please

you will have time to compensate in whatever department you feel you are lacking

but you ARE doing what's right and I respect you for it - cut yourself some slack, these days people don't even get in relationships anymore and you're out here with a wife and two kids handling it like a champ

 

[moorfeus]

It's a light rain fall tonight. I'm at this dark park alone just walking ; contemplating. Getting fresh air. My mother in law has the kids. I finally get a moment alone. Peace.

I've made alot of mistakes in my life. Marriage ranks chief among them. It's a weird situation to be in. I am madly in love with her. I would give my life for her. I want to see her happy among all things. I strive for that. I've been married since I was 27. It'll be 6 years this year.

I stick it out for my kids. They deserve a complete home. A father and mother. Structure, guidance and discipline. Happiness. I want that for them. But the more I watch these years pass by, the more I realize I value my freedom over everything. I suppress those thoughts.

I was a different man when I married. I was a minister. I followed the god of the Bible and it's doctrines. I married and started a family, excited in raising a family in the gospel. "He who findeths a wife finds a good thing". "Children are a gift from the Lord". However, a fierce and chaotic whirlwind freed me from those chains. But now, I am left with the remnants of a man no longer here: a family. A wife & 2 children.

Any man would give up his half to have such precious things. A woman who loves you. Boys who adore you. I gave up my life for the gospel. I left it behind but cannot restore those lost years. 10 years. So much time wasted. So many dreams unconquered. So much land undiscovered. Nothing to show for it all. I continually give up my life for the prosperity of my family.

I can never abandon them liked my father did me. So I sit here. I stay and wallow in unhappiness. I embody it. I cry when I'm alone. I'm crying right now. I feel stuck. My pride as a man won't allow me to refuse my responsibilities. My longing for peace of mind and freedom will ultimately eat away at my mind until I am nothing but a hollow shell of a man who once was.

You need to practice GRATITUDE Bro.
Stop complaining and start giving thanks for everything at least once a day. Nah, you need to do it when you wake and before going to sleep.
You have a wife and children that love you AND you're complaining about losing your freedom????
Meanwhile its probably someone here on the coli using a burner phone that's locked up in prison and wishing they had what you are complaining about.
Please tell me this is a joke.

edit: Is your wife white?

 

[BuckFilly]

edit: Is your wife white?

 

[Hawala Man]

Women too, but when men feel like this it’s % easier to run and find some new young chick.


Which is why ppl need to be very careful before getting married because I know I’d prefer not marrying and having kids if my husband felt like having a family was holding him back and didn’t realize it until AFTER I popped out a kid

OPs post did not point to any signs of running and finding a new young chick though. We can't generalize based off the info he posted. The facts and details are there he was a church man who enjoyed life and sacrificed several things.

There is a line where he said he didn't want his kids to go through what his father put him through. That to me shows character.

Some women change when they "pop out a kid" it's like they accomplished what they wanted all along. Hence why many divorces or separations come after kids.She prioritizes the kids before the husband and the dynamics change. You can do yoir homework and notice 80 percent of divorces are filed by women. OPs posting illustrates he was heavily invested and disappointed with returns.

 

[Sad Bunny]

I appreciate your honesty. I'm a bachelor in my early 30's and i firmly know that i wouldn't be happy with wife and kids. I'm just finna be a player until i die

This is me. I enjoy my life without kids. I have a life partner though. But yeah. Kids wouldn’t work with my get up and go lifestyle at all. Traveling is too much fun for me.

 

[Geek Nasty]

Breh crying about 6 year stint like he was in Vietnam