I Don't Enjoy Being Married

[The Realist Perspective]

Any dude that says he’s happy in a relationship is lying. Previously I had 3-4 on the team and they all loved me. I had them taking turns. I had to fill my calendar. And I wasn’t expected to hear them talk incessantly about absolutely nothing.

This all started back on the plantation...let's use my lineage for example. Under French rule Louisiana was a very hostile environment for slaves. The plantation was ruled and governed by the "Le Code Noir". One of the rules of Le Code Noir was to break us into submission of christianity via order of King Louis. Thus on this plantation you are told your old religion was demonic. And when breaking us the women got to see the black men as weak. Thus when christ bytch ass was introduced these grown women flocked to him like how a small black child flocks to Tchalla. A superhero was born in their eyes.

You see...women are easily manipulated by words and not reality. Men don't have that luxury of always being susceptible to fiction. We run on reality. That's why pimps use the tactic of mixing a hoe head up like a blender. Thus every religion relies on breaking a woman down. Except for black folk, our women have been in such despair from rapes, seeing their children sold off and that most of the men (yes there were revolts and uprisings. But we not talking about that.) didn't fight back all the time. So the black women took comfort in fiction cause their reality was hell literally. PTSD can make your reality skewed to the point its malleable and thus that what religion did.

That's why Black women are the jesus freaks of the black community. And notice Gay men are just as bad at being a jesus freak as women. That's because it's a feminine trait to be in submission to a deity or religion. This as always been the case even outside christianity. You see it with Vodou, and traditional African Religions. The women are always more hard-core with their beliefs vs their men counterparts.

So knowing this the women chastise the men and forced us to believe in fiction because if we didn't, we wouldn't be able to get along with the woman the way we should be. Look at how the black community treats Atheists as a whole or other religions that are not christianity...hell look at West Africans. They were colonized. They had diet slavery, yet all of them who come here will be on Jesus heavy esp the women.

if you got more, keep on going.

 

[Kenny West]

I don't have anything positive to contribute to this thread

My negative contribution is that you sound bytchmade giving up on your dreams/making your life fulfilling & blaming it on your family. Lots of men manage to be fufilled in life while having a family, generations before us were getting married before they got out their teenage years.

Idk what your dream is but its possible a you from a different life pulled it off with a different investment of time. You're still alive and you still have time. You got a good woman and a supportive family it sounds like, there are really much worse hands that could've been dealt.

If this is simply about "freedom" in the sense of fukking bytches then

 

[Mensch Fontana]

It's a light rain fall tonight. I'm at this dark park alone just walking ; contemplating. Getting fresh air. My mother in law has the kids. I finally get a moment alone. Peace.

I've made alot of mistakes in my life. Marriage ranks chief among them. It's a weird situation to be in. I am madly in love with her. I would give my life for her. I want to see her happy among all things. I strive for that. I've been married since I was 27. It'll be 6 years this year.

I stick it out for my kids. They deserve a complete home. A father and mother. Structure, guidance and discipline. Happiness. I want that for them. But the more I watch these years pass by, the more I realize I value my freedom over everything. I suppress those thoughts.

I was a different man when I married. I was a minister. I followed the god of the Bible and it's doctrines. I married and started a family, excited in raising a family in the gospel. "He who findeths a wife finds a good thing". "Children are a gift from the Lord". However, a fierce and chaotic whirlwind freed me from those chains. But now, I am left with the remnants of a man no longer here: a family. A wife & 2 children.

Any man would give up his half to have such precious things. A woman who loves you. Boys who adore you. I gave up my life for the gospel. I left it behind but cannot restore those lost years. 10 years. So much time wasted. So many dreams unconquered. So much land undiscovered. Nothing to show for it all. I continually give up my life for the prosperity of my family.

I can never abandon them liked my father did me. So I sit here. I stay and wallow in unhappiness. I embody it. I cry when I'm alone. I'm crying right now. I feel stuck. My pride as a man won't allow me to refuse my responsibilities. My longing for peace of mind and freedom will ultimately eat away at my mind until I am nothing but a hollow shell of a man who once was.

It's the seven year itch, your wife is probably unhappy and cheating on you too. Better check on your queen. #gmb

 

[GreenGhxst]

Pride is the devil

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

I don't have anything positive to contribute to this thread

My negative contribution is that you sound bytchmade giving up on your dreams/making your life fulfilling & blaming it on your family. Lots of men manage to be fufilled in life while having a family, generations before us were getting married before they got out their teenage years.

Idk what your dream is but its possible a you from a different life pulled it off with a different investment of time. You're still alive and you still have time. You got a good woman and a supportive family it sounds like, there are really much worse hands that could've been dealt.

If this is simply about "freedom" in the sense of fukking bytches then

he didnt even have a single legit reason to be sad.. like the grass is always greener type of shyt

sounds like his wife deserves better honestly

 

[GreenGhxst]

OP you gotta bust a move or try to improve your marriage

That bytch ass passive subdued energy will rub off on your son, and your daughter will seek out weak men

Bust a move breh, do what you gotta do for your happiness

Figure it out, you gotta start somewhere.. and that somewhere ain't a park bench

 

[cheek100]

I stick it out for my kids.

and that’s it pal make the best of it

 

[King Harlem]

I hear where you are coming from. I can tell some of my friends would long for the freedom that I have.
I'm single with no kids, a good career and a small roster of women to go out with.
And I met someone recently, that I'm willing to give all that up for to start a family with her.
All that to say, the grass is always greener on the other side.
My opinion is for you to look to achieve some of those things that you are longing for while still maintaining your family.
It doesn't necessarily have to be either or.

 

[Ty Daniels]

Breh,

I'm a be real, if you legit have a GOOD WIFE, in these times...
Then you are already WINNING!

Don't fukk it up, let the regret go.

Find something that you can feel passionate about, that can give you a sense of accomplishment.
Set small goals that get you closer to your larger goal(s).

Never loose sight of the fact that you have something, many people in this life NEVER WILL!

Love your Wife, Love your Children, Love YOURSELF!


Change your perception of your current circumstance(s).

Work on YOURSELF.

The Number One Obstacle, in MOST peoples lives is THEMSELVES.



You're a talented Breh, blessed with a family, and musical gifts.

Keep your head up!

 

[King_Kamala61]

Any dude that says he’s happy in a relationship is lying. Previously I had 3-4 on the team and they all loved me. I had them taking turns. I had to fill my calendar. And I wasn’t expected to hear them talk incessantly about absolutely nothing.


if you got more, keep on going.

That's pretty much it. It's hard tryna find a beautiful atheist...most of the pretty women are jesus freaks.

 

[Sad Bunny]

Sorry to hear that. 🥹

 

[Mindfield333]

What is the true religion then? I’ve been searching and I’ve come to find out Jesus wasn’t the messiah then I found out exodus is filled with mad contradictions. Both old and New Testament not thorough.

I go back and fourth on this. The more research I do, it’s crazy the lengths they went through to hide things. Like the calendar we currently go by… it’s supposed to be 13 months/28 days. With the first of April being the new year, birth of The Christ and ironically April fools day

 

[Cakebatter]

The key question is what is it that you want to accomplish in life that marriage and kids are stopping you from doing? Not much out there I can think of that isn't completely selfish. My guess is you have issues with your wife. If both spouses agree on what the problem is and both are honestly willing to do what it takes to remedy it, then marriage counseling can work.
Sadly, I'm starting to see more couples where one spouse is unhappy, while the other is fine with the status quo, and refuses to acknowledge that there is a problem in the marriage until divorce papers are served. I've yet to find ANY marriage advice for those situations.

 

[KamikazePilot]

A lot of these nikkas gonna tell you “suck it you have a good wife” and “Be a man seek counseling” and all that other bullshyt but the truth is some people (A lot of people) are not meant to be in marriage or have children but do it because society and maybe what you see around you makes you think it’s the best idea.

My advice would be to divorce because eventually your bitterness and resentment will show it’s ugly head and who knows what happens from there.

But if you’re so Adamant on Sacrificing yourself for your Wife and Kids then you need to take time for yourself like take vacations alone, find hobbies you can do alone or with your boys and while I don’t condone cheating if the wife ain’t giving you none then

 

[It's been real]

he didnt even have a single legit reason to be sad.. like the grass is always greener type of shyt

sounds like his wife deserves better honestly

Breh let religion dictate his life and is having regrets, I sympathize bc I've known people who've done the same and came out of it very miserable. Honestly @CouldntBeMeTho

I left religion behind, and have been better for it. Out of respect for coli brehs I don't argue religion, if they're actually happy with it I'm happy for them