I Don't Enjoy Being Married

[Silkk]

Sucks to be you

 

[jdubnyce]

I am much better at handling my emotions then she is so I choose peace in my home over peace in my mind.

Goddamn

 

[ItsPeople]

if only it was normal to be married but live in separate homes.

 

[69 others]

Listen

Any man would give up his half to have such precious things. A woman who loves you. Boys who adore you. I gave up my life for the gospel. I left it behind but cannot restore those lost years. 10 years. So much time wasted. So many dreams unconquered. So much land undiscovered. Nothing to show for it all. I continually give up my life for the prosperity of my family.

Listen breh, you're weak for this.
Nothing is stopping you from conquering dreams except you. It's shameful to blame your family for not going out there and doing what you have to.

With that mindset even if you lost them today you still won't accomplish any of your fantasies

 

[The Realist Perspective]

Reality. Listen. Nothing came from nothing...if you wanna consider whatever that created the cosmos and galaxies a god then cool. But that creator does not have an personality and does not judge. If you look closely at God in scripture he is literally a govt entity. That doesn't exist, except only with humanity. Thus the govt is God.

Again research how religion has caused psychological damage to the psyche of black folks. It's been studied enough. I wish all black folks get off of the imaginary bullshyt and focus on reality....you see how much religion has destroyed black women psychologically. That's all these single mothers talk about. You know why???? Because they are mentally ill. I can explain it further if need be. Also every black American has a jesus freak in their family and it's always an elder black woman...you know why???? I can explain later. Thus they push this imaginary bullshyt on to the children and it psychologically damages us. Poison The well..destroy the town.

speak more on it

 

[13473]

10 years. So much time wasted. So many dreams unconquered. So much land undiscovered. Nothing to show for it all

this sounds like you are blaming your lack of progress in other areas on your family. you could have traveled, had fun, pursued dreams etc while married.

 

[The Radiant One]

OP how much do you make?

My married friends go on trips and meet up with friends I am glad that I’m not married. I do have a girlfriend, but being 35 and having a lot of money also only working half the month it really helps.

 

[Sniper]

It's a light rain fall tonight. I'm at this dark park alone just walking ; contemplating. Getting fresh air. My mother in law has the kids. I finally get a moment alone. Peace.

I've made alot of mistakes in my life. Marriage ranks chief among them. It's a weird situation to be in. I am madly in love with her. I would give my life for her. I want to see her happy among all things. I strive for that. I've been married since I was 27. It'll be 6 years this year.

I stick it out for my kids. They deserve a complete home. A father and mother. Structure, guidance and discipline. Happiness. I want that for them. But the more I watch these years pass by, the more I realize I value my freedom over everything. I suppress those thoughts.

I was a different man when I married. I was a minister. I followed the god of the Bible and it's doctrines. I married and started a family, excited in raising a family in the gospel. "He who findeths a wife finds a good thing". "Children are a gift from the Lord". However, a fierce and chaotic whirlwind freed me from those chains. But now, I am left with the remnants of a man no longer here: a family. A wife & 2 children.

Any man would give up his half to have such precious things. A woman who loves you. Boys who adore you. I gave up my life for the gospel. I left it behind but cannot restore those lost years. 10 years. So much time wasted. So many dreams unconquered. So much land undiscovered. Nothing to show for it all. I continually give up my life for the prosperity of my family.

I can never abandon them liked my father did me. So I sit here. I stay and wallow in unhappiness. I embody it. I cry when I'm alone. I'm crying right now. I feel stuck. My pride as a man won't allow me to refuse my responsibilities. My longing for peace of mind and freedom will ultimately eat away at my mind until I am nothing but a hollow shell of a man who once was.

I laughed at the thread title but was saddened to read your words.

With that said I have question, what do you want?

What do you want right now that’ll make you truly happy? Only you know the answer to that.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

There are actual marriage counselors available.

Use them.

Swallow your pride and ask THEM for help.

You won't get good advice on this board from anonymous people who've never been married, don't have children, and don't care.​

 

[King_Kamala61]

speak more on it

This all started back on the plantation...let's use my lineage for example. Under French rule Louisiana was a very hostile environment for slaves. The plantation was ruled and governed by the "Le Code Noir". One of the rules of Le Code Noir was to break us into submission of christianity via order of King Louis. Thus on this plantation you are told your old religion was demonic. And when breaking us the women got to see the black men as weak. Thus when christ bytch ass was introduced these grown women flocked to him like how a small black child flocks to Tchalla. A superhero was born in their eyes.

You see...women are easily manipulated by words and not reality. Men don't have that luxury of always being susceptible to fiction. We run on reality. That's why pimps use the tactic of mixing a hoe head up like a blender. Thus every religion relies on breaking a woman down. Except for black folk, our women have been in such despair from rapes, seeing their children sold off and that most of the men (yes there were revolts and uprisings. But we not talking about that.) didn't fight back all the time. So the black women took comfort in fiction cause their reality was hell literally. PTSD can make your reality skewed to the point its malleable and thus that what religion did.

That's why Black women are the jesus freaks of the black community. And notice Gay men are just as bad at being a jesus freak as women. That's because it's a feminine trait to be in submission to a deity or religion. This as always been the case even outside christianity. You see it with Vodou, and traditional African Religions. The women are always more hard-core with their beliefs vs their men counterparts.

So knowing this the women chastise the men and forced us to believe in fiction because if we didn't, we wouldn't be able to get along with the woman the way we should be. Look at how the black community treats Atheists as a whole or other religions that are not christianity...hell look at West Africans. They were colonized. They had diet slavery, yet all of them who come here will be on Jesus heavy esp the women.

 

[TEH]

I got you mad devil. Mission accomplished



@kp404

 

[TELL ME YA CHEESIN FAM?]

@NotAnFBIagent add this nikka on the watchlist

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

You will be more powerful and happy once you realize you got the power to change your own life.

That regret and despair you feeling is something every breh goes through with or without kids and wife....its up to you to decide if you want to continue living a life of misery or chase your dreams.....don't use your wife and kids as excuse because you weren't chasing your dreams for 27 years before that.

Good advice

 

[BaggerofTea]

You and the Ole lady need to fukk a lot more