Because basically, to you, she’s the woman that you’re like “hey…yea whenever we get there (marriage), if we get there, we’ll get there”. <— carefree
There’s going to be some woman you encounter where you say “Aw yea, nah. Lemme lock this down”.
She has realized that she isn’t that woman who inspires that thought, motivation, or desire in your mind or your heart. So it’s best she cuts her losses.
Like you said, she’s a good woman and she’s demonstrated that she was down for you during health issues. But that still isn’t enough for you to think about marrying her WHILE YOU CONTINUE INVESTING AND BUILDING because deep down you aren’t thinking about a future with HER, you’re thinking about your own future and if she happens to still be around when you do accomplish what you want to accomplish, cool. If not,
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That’s the exact vibe you’re giving her.
And then when you come across another nice woman you’ll be like “aw damn she reminds me of _____. Yea lemme go head and lock this one down”. Lmao
And she’ll come across another guy who was “carefree” and lost his chick and that guy will say “aw man yea lemme get this one right”.
The story never changes. Just the people.*
*I say this as someone with more men than women in my family so I watched a bunch of nice, perfectly fine girls pass through my cousins’ hands when I was a kid until one by one they were like “aw damn. Yea lemme get married”. Lmao
Just to have a real moment— this story is pretty common, and when y’all encounter women who are “jaded”, etc it isn’t always because they were left a “babymomma”. Many times there are women who try to show and prove that they are down for a guy and this is the result of their time investment.
And then society will say “well, you let him waste your time, etc”. But she had to invest that time and care into a man to even get to the point of a serious relationship and considering marriage.
Even got some of the brehs in here saying she sounds like a keeper (of course only you know that for sure).
Y’all simply aren’t on the same timeline and she just figured that out.
You could’ve quelled her fears and had a serious conversation with her about where you see things going and the timeline- “later this year”, but instead you let her go.
This is why some chicks are strictly after the money or just say fukk it and date guys who are older who don’t have time to waste.
Most men don’t get it unless they have a sister, daughter, cousins, etc.
Sounds like a nice girl .Hope she didn’t waste too many years
. Her biggest issue is that she feels like I don't set personal goals. Marriage, kids and home buying. To her things have to be perfect on her time.