How much should the man pay?

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When I started to call my wife "girlfriend" I payed for 100% of everything

it's not a big deal if you love the woman
 

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If you want to be king of your castle you must earn it.

A man should pay all the rent/mortgage, electric, and provide food at the least.

That way you can absolutely run your house. If you're splitting 50/50, your woman has just as much say as you.
 

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just accept that ether brehette :sas1:

I cried in the car :mjgrin:


If you want to be king of your castle you must earn it.

A man should pay all the rent/mortgage, electric, and provide food at the least.

That way you can absolutely run your house. If you're splitting 50/50, your woman has just as much say as you.
That law! :banderas:
 

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The correct answer is:

It's circumstantial.

It simply depends on the mutual understanding both parties agreed upon before they we're in the relationship. So if you're involved with a S/O who understood that both of you preferred to live out a more traditional man/woman relationship dynamic - then you'll have to pay at least the majority of it or maybe all of it because you're the man (aka the provider). On the other hand, if you and your S/O subscribe to a more modern idea of a relationship where you both build together, respect each other's role as equals and as self-sufficient individuals before you both met, then you'll likely pay half or whatever you & your woman agree that is fair.

Most intelligent answer in this silly ass thread.
 

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I'm paying all $1350 if she's my wife, that's how my parents raised me, my father was the man of the house.

However if we aren't married it's 50/50.

Homie this the thing folks on here ain't taking into account. Shacking up and being married the rules are different....there are perks when you the husband and perks when you the wife. Problem is these jokers expect these perks without being a husband or a wife.
 
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If you want to be king of your castle you must earn it.

A man should pay all the rent/mortgage, electric, and provide food at the least.

That way you can absolutely run your house. If you're splitting 50/50, your woman has just as much say as you.
Ok so that means that the "king" will be spending all his money paying for everything and the "queen" is just paying cable/internet (if that) and maybe water/sanitation and pocketing the rest of her money. When shyt goes south due to irreconcilable differences or she cheating because she found another man attractive or she bored because u always working and need to be entertained...u gonna be fuked cuz u damn near broke paying for nearly everything and she will be well off cuz of all she saved by her having such little if any bills and some other sucka/simp will be her sponsor. Yeah OK...:stopitslime:
 
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I'm on record here for being against default gender roles but seriously, some of y'all brehettes really have it twisted:
  • Half and Half is equal
  • Men should know how to cook for himself and others
  • Men should know how to clean and take care of a house
What's wrong with the bulleted? :mindblown:

Edit: If paying half and half means she has a say in how things are run/doesn't make me king of the castle so be it, she lives there too, she has a voice :manny:
 

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I'm on record here for being against default gender roles but seriously, some of y'all brehettes really have it twisted:
  • Half and Half is equal
  • Men should know how to cook for himself and others
  • Men should know how to clean and take care of a house
What's wrong with the bulleted? :mindblown:

Edit: If paying half and half means she has a say in how things are run/doesn't make me king of the castle so be it, she lives there too, she has a voice :manny:

Nothing wrong with it at all. Some male posters just got in their feelings for whatever reason when the response to them saying 50/50 for finances was basically "don't expect submission or to not hold down traditionally female obligations 50/50 too". I know I've said if you're ok with that, Im not talking to you, but they're still mad and calling women posters names :yeshrug:
 

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Great. No need to get so irate and emotional then. if you're willing to do 50% of the household chores and child rearing and not demand a woman submit if she's paying for half, why did my post make you so mad?



I guess for the same reason that your potential partner would be in the same position of self sufficiency alone and then decide to add an extra person to cook for and clean up after while submitting and giving them more say and importance than them in their own households.


Oh so you're going the pretend it doesnt happen or you dont see it route. cool. I only debate when people are at least willing to be intellectually honest, so no need to engage further.

:mjlol: I cook and clean for myself
 

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Pay for "everything" for women who ain't ya wife and mother of your children brehs.......

You know how many silly nikkas I know who let women shack up with them and took care of most of the bills, rent, paid for vacations, gifts, etc , thousands of dollars wasted once the they broke up and the chicks moved on and shacked up with another dude. These dudes did this cause they wanted to be seen as "the man" :mjlol: only to be left crying when the relationship didn't work out and in more debt with less money saved over 2-3 year period.

If she's your "girl", you pay half of everything. If you want to be nice because you make more money and want to take care of more bills or pay for more things, that's up to you but just know if she's working full time, she's pocketing a lot and saving maybe more than you if she's good with money.

I know a lot of nikkas like to play house and act like they girlfriends they wife only to be shattered when it doesn't work out after 2 or 3 years.

If we are talking about your WIFE and the woman who had your children that you honour, then you are a family and you work out a dynamic that works out for the FAMILY between your incomes. It's a selfless thing in this case if you built with the right woman properly.

Hell, it's 2017. Women get to go around and fukk whoever they want and we are not allowed to say shyt about it! If we do, we are slut shaming and that they are just like men and have needs too. Perfect! You work full time just like us, you make 40-70K per year (or more, many women now a days do), you better believe you paying for some of this shyt.

Like I said man these jokers want the benefits of a marriage without a marriage. That is your wife and your kids your job is to take care of them period.

Now jokers out here shacking up with girls that is some roomate shyt. I tell my female cousins this shyt all the time. They will say ooooh look I love how you take care of your wife and kids. I need my boyfriend to take care of me like that.

I am like girl that is my wife I made a promise to myself, god, my family and her family that I would take care of her. That shyt you got is a relationship with a dude you knew for 6 months and your dumb ass moved in with him without asking for a ring playing house......your silly ass hustling backwards.
 
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