How much should the man pay?

[RedCloakBlackWraithe]

675. half of rent n erythang

 

[PartyHeart]

It is difficult if not impossible to own or rent a decent home, pay associated bills, car notes and maintenances, other miscellaneous bills and make it off one income unless you are making six figures. Most homes are designed for TWO INCOMES. Supposed if unplanned shyt arises like car repairs, health issues, dental issues, home repairs, etc....what you gonna do? Some people just have a warped sense of reality. If a woman wants a man to pay for everything, she needs to find one that is in the military or is making 6 figures. Oh, and lots of women want a man to entertain her and take her out...how he gonna do all that and struggling to pay for everything. And lets not talk about if the couple have any habits like shopping, drinking, smoking, gambling, traveling, eating out, etc....how can they fund all that off one income. Hell u got couples who are struggling off 2 incomes and some even got part time jobs and cant do everything they want to do as far as entertainment and other shyt.

Thats all well and good. Point is you cannot ask for compromise to ease the burden of your gender role, then insist on it for women. Again, if you're not that type of man (or are going to claim not to be for the sake of not being called out on your hypocrisy in his thread lol) then it doesn't apply to you.

You want a woman who takes on 50% of the man's traditional duties because "we no longer live in that type of society", know that you cannot demand to not take on 50% of hers. Thats trying to have your cake and eat it too.

 

[OfTheCross]

Boy that feminism and equality left this thread with the quickness.

 

[PartyHeart]

50/50

This isn't the 1950s. Household duties are not as difficult to complete we got dishwashers, washing machines , those Rumba floor sleeping robots, etc. so I'm busting my ass everyday working and paying all the bills and this chic pocketing her money and barely doing anything in my house ?

fukk I look like?

If its that easy maybe you should contribute your 50% and do all that too instead of asking her to. Fair?

 

[Weaver31]

The reality is most men are paying for everything and not getting anything in return.
And women need to stop using the lie that women of the past did not work. most poor families had 2 income the mans might have been more but it was 2 incomes.

Also women back in the day who stayed at home worked hard because families were larger and they actually had to cook from scratch...not this shyt nowadays where you take processed crap from a bag or box and just throw it in a pan or oven or fry it and bam. Women had to wash clothes manually and hang them to dry and shyt. That was a lot of work back in the day. Actual moping and sweeping and not this Swiffer spot mop shyt. People just out of touch as fuk and don't realize times changed.

 

[capt_saveahoe]

He should pay all of the rent. I would pay the "everything else".




Your gf/wife isn't your roomate, y'all are a team.

Half and half is for roommates.

The cognitive dissonance in this post is highlarious!

I am not saying you are stupid but you sound stupid

 

[JahFocus CS]

Half of everything, unless she's taking on some other responsibilities that could justify paying more than half.

I believe in as close to an equal distribution of chores and home labor as possible

 

[SadimirPutin]

Bc he is the male and is supposed to and makes more money than me. Splitting is for roommates.

He pays for all or majority of everything and I'll cook and clean.

I find this amusing but if you find a dude who is okay with this then live happy and flourish

I could likely just get a housekeeper

 

[Patrick Kane]

Pay for "everything" for women who ain't ya wife and mother of your children brehs.......

You know how many silly nikkas I know who let women shack up with them and took care of most of the bills, rent, paid for vacations, gifts, etc , thousands of dollars wasted once the they broke up and the chicks moved on and shacked up with another dude. These dudes did this cause they wanted to be seen as "the man" only to be left crying when the relationship didn't work out and in more debt with less money saved over 2-3 year period.

If she's your "girl", you pay half of everything. If you want to be nice because you make more money and want to take care of more bills or pay for more things, that's up to you but just know if she's working full time, she's pocketing a lot and saving maybe more than you if she's good with money.

I know a lot of nikkas like to play house and act like they girlfriends they wife only to be shattered when it doesn't work out after 2 or 3 years.

If we are talking about your WIFE and the woman who had your children that you honour, then you are a family and you work out a dynamic that works out for the FAMILY between your incomes. It's a selfless thing in this case if you built with the right woman properly.

Hell, it's 2017. Women get to go around and fukk whoever they want and we are not allowed to say shyt about it! If we do, we are slut shaming and that they are just like men and have needs too. Perfect! You work full time just like us, you make 40-70K per year (or more, many women now a days do), you better believe you paying for some of this shyt.

 

[SadimirPutin]

This she pays everything else idea is fukking hilarious

So my guess is thateverything else is utilities, household supplies, miscellaneous expenses, food, emergencies, and random splurges right?

 

[the artist known az]

If its that easy maybe you should contribute your 50% and do all that too instead of asking her to. Fair?

I haven't seen any male who said pay half also said they need a woman to cook & clean for them. Why that keeps getting brought up is beyond me

 

[Yesterday]

If you aren't traditional in the sense of wanting to be the head of household, or aren't one of these types beating your chest about needing submission, being the final decision maker, having the woman doing the majority of the cooking, cleaning, and child rearing, etc. then of course.

But if you are, you're in for a big surprise. What I'm saying is true. Women aren't signing up for all that extra work for just the pleasure of being with you. If you don't want an overburdened wife who will eventually file or mentally check out of the marriage, you need to be okay adding to her life the way you are demanding she add to yours.

That is, if she's going to continue to be stressed at work to pay 50% of the bills, be prepared to take on 50% of the cleaning, cooking, child rearing, and other 24/7 household responsibilities that traditional wives did full time because they didn't have to do anything else.

This idea of women being these maids in the name of being traditional is a cop out and a flat out lie.

I've rarely witnessed black households where the woman plays Susie homemaker despite if the man paid for everything or not. Even with stay at home moms that father is still a big part of the kids lives and most of the men I know are very domesticated. Nowadays I think you're even more likely to met women who can't cook rather than the opposite.

All this shyt is irrelevant. Being the head of the household means more than paying, women intentionally want to play the support role because you guys despite accountability and making decisions. Y'all can't even decide what to cook for dinner let alone cook it, let alone make decisions for the family. You don't want to be held accountable for when things go haywire, don't want to have other rely on your for anything other than ordering take out. THAT'S the reason men are the head of household. Because you fail at it, not because you're trying to endear us for paying your bills. You want nothing more than to sit back and be useless for the rest of your lives.

 

[ill_will82]

After reading the first 2 pages of this thread I just don't have the energy to respond to the topic. This is a low-key battle of the sexes thread.

 

[J.E.T.S]

I'm embarrassed to admit this, but it'll serve as a lesson to you young and dumb fellas that's "in love" with a dimepiece or pretty chick...

I once paid ALL the bills. She only had to pay her insurance and car note. Guess where she's at now?...

Back living at home with her mother, on Facebook, getting slayed by other nikkas.

NEVER cohabitate or try to save a female based off her looks or sex. You taking care of her means absolutely NOTHING.

 

[J.E.T.S]

This doesn't make sense to me. Wife and I have shared bank accounts but I pay ALL the bills simply because I'm better at handling money/budgeting.

None of this 50/50 bullshyt. Whatever is in the accounts is used to pay bills.

You cats 'shacking-up' instead of getting hitched have to worry about all this nonsense and drama.​

This is correct and how it should be done.

Alot of guys can't handle this because either he feels as if he's powerless or he's doing dirt and cannot afford for his chick to monitor his spending habits.