How much should the man pay?

Paradise

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incentive not to get married :mjlol:
so he marrys you and has to pay more:gucci: I dont get it :pachaha:
My parents do it this way... And it works. He pays the mortgage and she pay some of the other small bills.

Most old school men believe that it's his duty to care for his wife and child (ren).... That includes paying the bills.

I understand that things are expensive these days and alot of times it takes both pay checks to survive. If my husband has a good job I would expect that he would carry more of the load.

Most of you millennials have this warped way of seeing things. Most of y'all don't even want a 50/50 relationship... Y'all want some ol sugar daddy/mama situation were you can lay up for free or damn near it.
 

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My parents do it this way... And it works. He pays the mortgage and she pay some of the other small bills.

Most old school men believe that it's his duty to care for his wife and child (ren).... That includes paying the bills.

I understand that things are expensive these days and alot of times it takes both pay checks to survive. If my husband has a good job I would expect that he would carry more of the load.

Most of you millennials have this warped way of seeing things. Most of y'all don't even want a 50/50 relationship... Y'all want some ol sugar daddy/mama situation were you can lay up for free or damn near it.
Have no issue with your view on it :manny:
but why change the 50/50 when we married now:dwillhuh:
 

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Have no issue with your view on it :manny:
but why change the 50/50 when we married now:dwillhuh:
After we are married I wouldn't mind it being 50/50 at all. I'm just saying that now I'm his wife and we are not just shackin up. If he paid the mortgage... I would pay all of the utilities and buy groceries.

It may not be completely equal... But I'm doing my part in helping.
 
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Doesn't matter, just pay that shyt on time.

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People worrying about whose going to pay what but if the rent ain't paid yall both living in the street :heh:

Also I would assume if both of our names is on the lease then we'll both handle it responsibly. It sounds like the people afraid to pay more than the other don't feel secure in their relationship. Functioning couples assess their financial situation before moving in. You should only move in if you're serious and if it's serious business will be taken care of.
 

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He should pay all of the rent. I would pay the "everything else".




Your gf/wife isn't your roomate, y'all are a team.

Half and half is for roommates.
What about when it comes to mortgage? And what if the taxes and everything else included in mortgage? Like if your mortgage is $1200 but with taxes and escrow it totals up to $1600+. Should u cover the taxes and everything that's associated with escrow?
 

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After we are married I wouldn't mind it being 50/50 at all. I'm just saying that now I'm his wife and we are not just shackin up. If he paid the mortgage... I would pay all of the utilities and buy groceries.

It's may not be completely equal... But I'm doing my part in helping.
Bait n switch and why dudes fear marriage
He married u now u dont want to pay half the bills want to get fat after having his kids and he trapped :pachaha:
Its that I got this nygga now lol and shyt switch up :smh:
 

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Tired of this shyt

I only date or associate with women who are either FOB from another country or 2nd generation at most. I certainly would never marry an American women
 

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I don't care, I'm used to taking care of myself. I have a hard time depending on people so him paying half and me paying half is fine with me. As long as the shyt gets paid I'm happy.
 

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To answer the question though I'd be fine with paying most or even all of everything if I had to financial means to easily do it but if I'm paying most or all of everything than this women would have to be completely traditional and submissive to me. She would have to cook and clean daily. She would have to greet me with a massage and/or sex when I came home and if we had any children she would have to handle any petty kid stuff.
 
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