How do I eliminate my growing resentment towards women?

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That’s all I needed to hear. Females owe me nothing and I don’t owe them anything, not time, not respect, not kindness and the same goes in reverse

Cool date men and be happy.

 

[AuntAnniesPretzels]

Cool date men and be happy.

Why don’t you have this attitude for the females who apparently don’t owe men anything?

 

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Why don’t you have this attitude for the females who apparently don’t owe men anything?

They do date women and are bitter people just like you. Your talking in circles.

 

[How Sway?]

@DarianaGrande if I were you I'd start learning martial arts or a combat sport.

You wont have bytches falling on your lap off default
but theres no feeling like knowing you could fukk some shyt up if shyt hits the fan.

That alone will have you confident then a mfer

 

[AuntAnniesPretzels]

They do date women and are bitter people just like you. Your talking in circles.

I’m not bitter, lol...

I’m agreeing with you, nobody owes anybody anything. I accept and embrace that. No bitterness here

 

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@DarianaGrande if I were you I'd start learning martial arts or a combat sport.

You wont have bytches falling on your lap off default
but theres no feeling like knowing you could fukk some shyt up if shyt hits the fan.

That alone will have you confident then a mfer

Lol idk about all this, but it gives you a hobby and best believe, bytches love dudes who have hobbies.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

I would say this is where you're going wrong.

The secret to life is this. Nobody else can make you happy. It has to come from within. The second part (the unspoken part) of this knowledge, is that while someone else can't bring you happiness, they can absolutely take your happiness away. Nobody talks about that part.

If you're miserable now, adding someone else's insecurities and the endless obligations that come with a relationship surely won't get you there.

I know you think I don't know what I'm talking about.

But I know what I'm talking about.

Seek your own happiness first, otherwise you're just going to drag some poor girl down with you.

I feel you.

I could be wrong but I just feel like if I could find one woman who actually liked me and we dated it would make me feel worth in the one aspect of my life I don't.

I'm almost 30 and never experienced any of the things men are supposed to experience in their teens.

Hell my first kiss was with a hooker.

I had seen a couple of hookers but I never kissed them.

I seen this one girl who turned me out and starts making out with me after I already paid and busted a nut.

In a weird way it was the most confidence boosting thing I ever experienced with a woman because:

I did not initiate it.

We were done. My clothes were on, I paid and I was walking out.

She stops me gets up off the bed and starts making out with me.

It made me think

"Well maybe I'm not as ugly as I think if a woman I am paying is doing shyt to me I didn't ask for after I already gave her money"

I know it's weird/disgusting but I have to tell my truth.

I don't have time for a therapist anytime soon.

 

[How Sway?]

Lol idk about all this, but it gives you a hobby and best believe, bytches love dudes who have hobbies.

Breh, why do you think boxers or combat veterans for instance are so arrogant? They had to go through the suck and persevere.

But it doesn't have to be a combat sport. Even distance running will have feeling like a boss. OP needs confidence!

Edit: but I reccomend combat since it's a great way of letting your frustration.

 

[1LurkerChick9]

I feel you.

I could be wrong but I just feel like if I could find one woman who actually liked me and we dated it would make me feel worth in the one aspect of my life I don't.

I'm almost 30 and never experienced any of the things men are supposed to experience in their teens.

Hell my first kiss was with a hooker.

I had seen a couple of hookers but I never kissed them.

I seen this one girl who turned me out and starts making out with me after I already paid and busted a nut.

In a weird way it was the most confidence boosting thing I ever experienced with a woman because:

I did not initiate it.

We were done. My clothes were on, I paid and I was walking out.

She stops me gets up off the bed and starts making out with me.

It made me think

"Well maybe I'm not as ugly as I think if a woman I am paying is doing shyt to me I didn't ask for after I already gave her money"

I know it's weird/disgusting but I have to tell my truth.

I don't have time for a therapist anytime soon.

I realized recently, that we often see ourselves differently than other people do. You're probably being really hard on yourself and actually are attractive. So remember that.

You don't have time for a therapist? You're lying to yourself, resisting change.
Therapy is very good for you, I've been multiple times. They'll listen to you without judgement and probably give you little assignments- like go to the grocery store and chat it up with someone,etc.
A good therapist can point you in the right direction and it sounds like you really need that.
There has to be something in your life that you can sacrifice for it.
Don't go to just anyone tho, make sure you like them.

Also, you have to start believing on some level that you WILL find someone, that there is hope for you.Improve your attitude.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

I realized recently, that we often see ourselves differently than other people do. You're probably being really hard on yourself and actually are attractive. So remember that.

You don't have time for a therapist? You're lying to yourself, resisting change.
Therapy is very good for you, I've been multiple times. They'll listen to you without judgement and probably give you little assignments- like go to the grocery store and chat it up with someone,etc.
A good therapist can point you in the right direction and it sounds like you really need that.
There has to be something in your life that you can sacrifice for it.
Don't go to just anyone tho, make sure you like them.

Also, you have to start believing on some level that you WILL find someone, that there is hope for you.Improve your attitude.

I can't take any of your advice seriously when you're a woman and the first thing you do is say I'm frightening.

Even random female posters who've never seen me find me repulsive

I swear if I didn't have the ability to laugh at myself

 

[ISO]

I'm 6'1 and yeah people have called me ugly throughout my whole life.

I was that kid that when I walked by girls would say "look there's your boyfriend" just to clown their other friends.

"Ugly" nikkas are eating out here. So are fat nikkas. So are short nikkas.

I see bytches raving about "medium ugly" nikkas all the time on Twitter

You acting like you look like a deformed monster or Martin after he got fukked up by Tommy Hearns

If you in shape and 6'1 and stay with a clean cut you should be straight. Can you grow a beard? How do you style/groom yourself? Lil changes can completely change everything.

 

[ISO]

Well first of all you gotta realize they're different. That doesn't mean they're unequal.

You're probably putting male values on them. Want them to be funny, thought provoking, lead conversations? Not happening

Second, stop giving a fukk what external forces are doing if you can't control them. Resent them all you want, but they won't change. So you better figure out how YOU can work on yourself to achieve your goals with them.

Those aren't male values. Women are perfectly capable of being funny, thought provoking, some can lead conversations and be chatty. Women are not a monolith and again no different from men.

 

[Black Bolt]

I haven't gone out with friends in years

This is your real problem not women. Take up a sport/find something on meetup etc

 

[Mandarin Duck]

This is your real problem not women. Take up a sport/find something on meetup etc

What's meetup?

 

[Mandarin Duck]

I grew up in a majority non-black town.

I'm the opposite of those dudes who grew up around black women not liking them and then dating white girls when they get older.

I think if I grew up around black women I would've done better growing up.