You're talking like an elitist and unrealistic.
Most people in earth, black people in particular are poor so to say only good africans have good jobs and deserve to get married isnt reality because poor people are getting married working together to come up around the planet.
The idea of a ready made financial foundation for the black woman based on the black man's earnings is not reality, its an ideal. We have to be power couples.
The primary source of criticism for black people in america comes from white media and the white male uses the black woman and gay black men as the primary agents against a black men. Black people can only be destroyed by the black woman giving birth to non black children.
You just a happend to find a small corner of the world where black men have a voice and aren't largely censored by cacs and have chosen these places as the peer groups you interact with but the loudest voice comes from the white man and his puppet sponsors not social media sites like thecoli.
The issues of sexuality in the black community stem from the irresponsibility of black men and women who dont know what a family is and having no clue how to choose a mate, the drawback of this being the woman is forced to mature sooner then the man since she is the one carrying the child. Realistically and ideally you shouldn't be having sex before marriage and shouldn't be coming to a man for.marriage with multiple partners under your belt but it's not reality.
These things are also happening in africa where in places like Kenya over half the women are alleged to statistically be single mothers by the time theyre in their 40s. This is a result of most developing nations not some flaw in black culture in america.
Let you tell it the issues are due to black men being cheap..... just stop. Be real. It's hard to struggle together so alot of you forsake love and sell out for status so you can get a divorce and cop that alimony welfare, like the white woman taught you.