Going to quote Kola Boof but it seems like black women are the only flowers who are expected to grow without water or sunlight. I.e. this self esteem and self confidence is supposed to develop in a society who devalues you and a community that also devalues you. Still dark skinned black women especially are supposed to rise up and prosper. Black women are supposed to be great in a vacuum.
This is the shyt a lot of black men tell black women to do not because its good advice but because they certainly arent going to be the ones to water those flowers and care for them. Meanwhile these same men who tell black women to ignore the haters and "love yourself" (in the most trite way possible) are on social media talking about PAWGs Latinas and Exotical greatness and Asians with Phatties.
you really need to stop "SISTA"
Your sounding very angry and pathetic right now...
I AM A DARK SKINNED MAN WHO CAME TO THE SOUTH DURING THE EARLY 90s when it was hardly any diversity and sistas for the most part wanted a guy who looked like AL B SURE or DEBARGE with the good hair...........
YOU THINK MY BLACK AZZ HAD IT ANY EASIER???
THIS IS WHAT I TRIED TO GET ACROSS TO MY EX FIANCE...U GOT NO CHOICE BUT TO LOVE YOURSELF ...
ITS NOT ONLY ADVICE...IT'S THE MOST RATIONAL THING YOU CAN DO...
AND U CAN MISS ME WITH THAT I WASN'T TRYING TO "WATER" OR CARE FOR HER....
I WAS WILLING TO WIFE HER UP.....DID ALL I COULD FOR HER...TILL I GOT EXAUSTED CAUSE I REALIZE SHE WASN'T WILLING TO DO FOR SELF
But im not suprised cause she like most sistas and probally yourself have been INSTITUTIONALIZED BY RELIGION AND SOCIETY INTO THINKING THAT HAPPINESS LIES OUTSIDE OF YOURSELF..........
AND THAT IS WRONG.........
i was taught
"know thyself..and thy shall know the lord"
so STOP WHINING ABOUT "DARK SKINNED BLACK WOMEN" are the ONLY ONES GOING THRU A IDENTITY STRUGGLE...
your full of shyt..and you know it......letting your insecurites get to you
I CAUGHT HELL AND STILL CATCH HELL AS A DARK SKINNED BLACK MAN..BUT I STILL MANAGE TO NOT LET IT SUPRESS MY SELF CONFIDENCE AND DRIVE...
cause i ain't out here looking for VALIDATION......
u up here tripping about the dudes seeking PAWGS ..LATINAS AND EXOTIC ASIANS..yet im pretty sure YOU IGNORED OR CURVED A LOT OF GOOD BLACK BROTHERS WHO DID SEE THE BEAUTY IN YOU
but i guess it didn't matter caused its coming from "nikkas"....so it dont count
you got some serious SELF HATRED ISSUES SISTA......and it's only gonna get worst IF YOU YOURSELF DON'T ADDRESS IT AND STOP BLAMING OTHERS
CAUSE IT'S NOT THE BLACK MAN'S FAULT THAT YOU DON'T SEE THE VALUE WITHIN...