Hate the assumption that quiet men are insecure or shy
- Thread starter john goodman
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I came in to say the same thing.
PortCityProphet
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innocentdevil
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avon barksdale
i want my corners
i peep my surroundings around new people...dont trust everyone
Shugg84
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I just tell people that they seem like they like to talk, I let people talk who like to talk, it makes it easier to find out how full of shyt they are.
Many people view shyness in a black-and-white context, thinking a quiet person is shy and a talkative person is bold/confident. Like most topics, there is a gray area. Being quiet doesn't automatically mean you're shy or insecure, and being talkative doesn't automatically mean you're full of confidence. Shyness has more to do with a lack of confidence and feeling awkward in social situations.
You can be a quiet/introverted person who has plenty of confidence and no feelings of shyness/insecurity. On the flip side, you can be a shy and insecure person who talks way too much. There are two people in my office who are extra timid, insecure, and shy, but if they get into a conversation with someone then you can expect them to talk forever. I'm sure most people know at least one timid/nervous person who will talk your ear off.
I'm a fairly quiet dude in general but I have no problem initiating conversations or joking with other staff members at work. I'm usually quiet because I get caught up in my own thoughts and I enjoy listening to other people's opinions. I add my input when I feel like it, but I see no reason to force my way into a conversation. Two of my close friends are quiet guys too, and they have no confidence issues either.
That's really all there is to it, but I can see why talkative/extroverted people have a hard time understanding the difference.
You can be a quiet/introverted person who has plenty of confidence and no feelings of shyness/insecurity. On the flip side, you can be a shy and insecure person who talks way too much. There are two people in my office who are extra timid, insecure, and shy, but if they get into a conversation with someone then you can expect them to talk forever. I'm sure most people know at least one timid/nervous person who will talk your ear off.
I'm a fairly quiet dude in general but I have no problem initiating conversations or joking with other staff members at work. I'm usually quiet because I get caught up in my own thoughts and I enjoy listening to other people's opinions. I add my input when I feel like it, but I see no reason to force my way into a conversation. Two of my close friends are quiet guys too, and they have no confidence issues either.
That's really all there is to it, but I can see why talkative/extroverted people have a hard time understanding the difference.
This is my whole thing. People on here will post up all day...
... but then say they just like to keep their thoughts to themselves, don't feel the need to say what's on their mind, etc.
Y'all not foolin' anyone. You're shy. You're free and open on here because the "intimidation" factor is low because no one can see/knows you. In real life when these factors do apply, you're quiet because of your circumstances, not because you want to be..
PortCityProphet
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Lmao...I knew you were going to say that.
cause you know me so well. i think we're soulmates
Is this one of those threads where all the quiet people act like they too good and too smart to talk about nonsense even tho they do it on hear all day
....nikka I just seen you in a thread talkin bout fightin kangaroos but when you get to work and in real life its "I'm too deep for that
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....nikka I just seen you in a thread talkin bout fightin kangaroos but when you get to work and in real life its "I'm too deep for that"