Happily Married Men of The Coli: Why Did You Get Married?

[mcdivit85]

Wow, a lot of dudes on here married young....some very young

Peace

 

[Mike Ock]

I'm gonna propose in between christmas and new years eve. Scheduled to go to Mexico with her fam for Christmas to New Year's. Been together about 3 yrs. I've been thru my whoring phase. We've been looking to purchase a spot together (and its been stressful). My fam likes her, her fam rocks with me....so it only makes sense. I'm 32 by the way.

 

[Verbal Kint]

I'll be honest. The only thing I miss about being single is the game itself. The process of meeting a female, chopping it up, trying to get at her, etc. Even being on the lookout in general. I'm not a cheater so I've never stepped out but I still get the urge to flirt and all that

 

[Dirty Mcdrawz]

i've been with my wife since i was 20 and we got married when i was 26. i married her because she's the one i wanted to marry. for me being married is no different from when were dating i didn't magically love her more after i said "i do". i love her more because we have a child and built something together. there are new relationship struggles because of the kid but generally if i feel unhappy about something it has nothing to do with them.

i don't really take what the brehs or brehettes say on here seriously so #gmb is to me. i'm confused about them claiming to be undefeated though. especially when there's millions of successful marriages, but it's the internet so logic isn't important

 

[Verbal Kint]

Had a convo with my homie the other day about why real men get married. Cats waiting for an R&B song to happen in real life or something but a man's life ain't ruled by feelings. Get a good woman, take care of her, treat her right, make it plain what you need and what you're looking for and keep it moving. Me and mine have been through some things but we've both stayed committed and made it through. Teamwork makes the dream work baby

 

[beenz]

i've been with my wife since i was 20 and we got married when i was 26. i married her because she's the one i wanted to marry. for me being married is no different from when were dating i didn't magically love her more after i said "i do". i love her more because we have a child and built something together. there are new relationship struggles because of the kid but generally if i feel unhappy about something it has nothing to do with them.

i don't really take what the brehs or brehettes say on here seriously so #gmb is to me. i'm confused about them claiming to be undefeated though. especially when there's millions of successful marriages, but it's the internet so logic isn't important

cats on here just take the phrase and run with it. my parents been married 40+ years. my in laws been married 40+ years. so I didn't grow up seeing a bunch of unsuccesful marriages. I been in the game 11 years myself, so you gotta take the GMB shyt with a grain of salt on here.

 

[Steve Piffler]

i'm happily married and i love my wife and family very much and would do anything for them...

....that being said, if i could press the reset button and go back to when i bought the ring for my wife, i probably would just say to the sales clerk "nevermind...." and walk out. although my wife and i were together for about 4 years when i proposed, she was my first and only real relationship. everyone else was 3 month flings or booty calls. i didn't really know what i wanted in a woman. i had never had my heart broken, i never truly been in love with someone. i married my wife for all the wrong reasons. eventually, after years of fighting, separation, trust issues, etc., we finally got it right. but it shouldn't have taken so much effort. i'm married right now and i hope i stay married until i die, but if we ever get a divorce for whatever reason, i would NEVER get married again (EVER) my brother in law (wife's brother) is getting married next month, and lowkey i'm

 

[Maddmike]

I been married happily for 10 years. I got married because I don't believe there is another female like her on this planet. She's like a 50s housewife with the ambition of Miranda Priestly. She believes that we are a team, but understands that I am the team lead. It's really rare to find a woman like that.

I enjoyed life before I was married and after, the same. I'm just thay kind of guy tho because I just enjoy life.

I was broke when we got married but I'm pretty well off now (not rich but I'm working on it)
I believe that's part of the reason our bond is strong. We had to grow together. For a year, we survived off ramen noddles and Betty crocker boxes. No tv, no money to go anywhere, just me and her. 550 credit scores etc. (Rock bottom)I feel like us going through that made us appreciate each other so much more.

My situation is unique tho sooooo
However:

I don't recommend marriage until you are at least 35 plus.

I also feel GMB is a honest movement backed up by facts.

There really is no long term benefit for a man that is doing well for himself to get married at all. I blame it all on the system

 

[Verbal Kint]

i'm happily married and i love my wife and family very much and would do anything for them...

....that being said, if i could press the reset button and go back to when i bought the ring for my wife, i probably would just say to the sales clerk "nevermind...." and walk out. although my wife and i were together for about 4 years when i proposed, she was my first and only real relationship. everyone else was 3 month flings or booty calls. i didn't really know what i wanted in a woman. i had never had my heart broken, i never truly been in love with someone. i married my wife for all the wrong reasons. eventually, after years of fighting, separation, trust issues, etc., we finally got it right. but it shouldn't have taken so much effort. i'm married right now and i hope i stay married until i die, but if we ever get a divorce for whatever reason, i would NEVER get married again (EVER) my brother in law (wife's brother) is getting married next month, and lowkey i'm

None of those things are prerequisites for having a good marriage. Matter of fact it doesn't really make any sense. You don't have to be miserable to be happy and you don't have to run through a bunch of hoes to decide you want a woman with a brain and a future. Yea there's personality issues but its not like the more women you date the better you are at determining what type you need, it just means you suck at picking women. I only dealt with females that were about something so all the chicks I kicked it with were marriage material. If you can't tell within a few conversations if a female has her head on straight that's your problem

 

[Steve Piffler]

None of those things are prerequisites for having a good marriage. Matter of fact it doesn't really make any sense. You don't have to be miserable to be happy and you don't have to run through a bunch of hoes to decide you want a woman with a brain and a future. Yea there's personality issues but its not like the more women you date the better you are at determining what type you need, it just means you suck at picking women. I only dealt with females that were about something so all the chicks I kicked it with were marriage material. If you can't tell within a few conversations if a female has her head on straight that's your problem

i was 21 when i met my wife breh. she had a fat ass and a pretty face and was feeling the kid. that's all i needed then to wife her up. i was young and stupid. as you grow older, you require different things from a potential mate. had i waited until my late 20s to decide to get married, i probably would have had a better understanding on what i wanted a woman to bring to the table to be placed in the wife category. not saying she would be the one if she checked all of the boxes, but at least i would have had some boxes for her to check. i had no standards besides superficial beauty back then.

 

[Verbal Kint]

i was 21 when i met my wife breh. she had a fat ass and a pretty face and was feeling the kid. that's all i needed then to wife her up. i was young and stupid. as you grow older, you require different things from a potential mate. had i waited until my late 20s to decide to get married, i probably would have had a better understanding on what i wanted a woman to bring to the table to be placed in the wife category. not saying she would be the one if she checked all of the boxes, but at least i would have had some boxes for her to check. i had no standards besides superficial beauty back then.

I get that but seems like that's more a you thing than some general rule. I was 19 when I met my wife. Wasn't planning on wifing her then and wasn't trying to get married any time soon but I already knew what I wanted in a wife and that hasn't changed even though I'm older. 21 is only young if you want it to be. But my point is that cats can figure out 'yo I need a woman that's smart, loyal and bout her biz' before they hit their 30's.

 

[Steve Piffler]

I get that but seems like that's more a you thing than some general rule. I was 19 when I met my wife. Wasn't planning on wifing her then and wasn't trying to get married any time soon but I already knew what I wanted in a wife and that hasn't changed even though I'm older. 21 is only young if you want it to be. But my point is that cats can figure out 'yo I need a woman that's smart, loyal and bout her biz' before they hit their 30's.

you right breh. my head wasn't there tho. so as an individual, i wasn't ready. i should have waited.

 

[The_Sheff]

.....hate to break it to you...no man is happily married.... Reason being you have no time to enjoy the happiness.... Marriage is work...a whole lot of work... You can't just dip back to your crib when y'all have disagreements...you have to go home..... In marriage your love and bond is going to be continuously tested...you can't enjoy the fruits of your labor if you know a battle is always on the horizon..you can never get comfortable because of the amount of responsibility you have...bills, children, making time for each other...not to mention the randomness life loves to throw at you...sometimes one partner is stronger than other for a particular period of time...sometimes your woman might have to lead when your weak...then there will be times you carrying the load 100%….She might not feel like having sex not because she cheating , because she's drained, she work like you work....most dudes aren't mature enough to actually look at a woman like a person....if you been yelling bytches ain't shyt since you a teenager your gonna take mentality into your marriage...its ingrained in you....with all that being said the bond you have with your wife will only be strong after its been tested time and time again....look at it like a car...they don't just put a car on the road when they make the prototype... They run it thru a gauntlet of test for durability, safety etc....marriage is no different..

Thats the biggest crock of shyt i have read here in a while.

 

[Verbal Kint]

you right breh. my head wasn't there tho. so as an individual, i wasn't ready. i should have waited.

But real talk you doing what a man does. You chose her, so she's your responsibility and youre manning up and making it work. To many of these dudes are weak and run off like 'she doesn't make me feel good about myself
Ain't no perfect women so you gotta take whatever dough you working with and make yourself some bread you wanna eat

 

[King Jae]

Thats the biggest crock of shyt i have read here in a while.

More power to ya.....enjoy your misery.....