Happily Married Men of The Coli: Why Did You Get Married?

[Giselle]

Will be married next year. At 28.

Don't want no other girls, barely even notice these hoes.

I can trust my girl 100%, we are best friends, she makes me laugh, I make her laugh, I can't see myself with anyone else that accepts me for me like she does.

We have arguments and periods where I question things, but I just know I would rather go through this all with her.

We actually are home together today. We called out together

Aww

knocked my BM up at 19 in college. Broke up with her, tried to keep it moving. Realized she's a good woman, good mom, intelligent, bout her biz, not about dumb games, not a hoe, etc. Plus I didn't want my son being raised by no other man so I made that move to get back with her a few years later. Been married 6 years, got one more son and twins on the way. Best choice I ever made.

How many years later?

Are your twins a boy and a girl or 2 boys or 2 girls. Does your wife have bad stretchmarks?

I want twins (a boy and a girl) but I don't want my stomach to look nasty afterwards.

Did she get pregnant with twins naturally?

My lady is someone I can build with enjoys and celebrates me for who I am. She does what it takes to make it work. She's the kinda of person that I want to be with long term.

I'm a one woman man. I tried the casual thing juggling beezys and it was fun for a time but I wasn't happy.

Me and my lady were friends for 4 years before we started dating. I knew everything about her already so there were no suprises.

Let's be real though.this marriage sh*t is real work and most people ain't built for it. Most people aren't willing to put someone else's needs ahead of there own and do what it takes to make a family grow. They see a romaticized version of marriage and think that's normal and it's not.

Why? Who wanted to start dating first? Were you seeing other people during those years? How do you go from friends to dating?

i'm happily married and i love my wife and family very much and would do anything for them...

....that being said, if i could press the reset button and go back to when i bought the ring for my wife, i probably would just say to the sales clerk "nevermind...." and walk out. although my wife and i were together for about 4 years when i proposed, she was my first and only real relationship. everyone else was 3 month flings or booty calls. i didn't really know what i wanted in a woman. i had never had my heart broken, i never truly been in love with someone. i married my wife for all the wrong reasons. eventually, after years of fighting, separation, trust issues, etc., we finally got it right. but it shouldn't have taken so much effort. i'm married right now and i hope i stay married until i die, but if we ever get a divorce for whatever reason, i would NEVER get married again (EVER) my brother in law (wife's brother) is getting married next month, and lowkey i'm

That doesn't sound happy at all.

I been married happily for 10 years. I got married because I don't believe there is another female like her on this planet. She's like a 50s housewife with the ambition of Miranda Priestly. She believes that we are a team, but understands that I am the team lead. It's really rare to find a woman like that.

I enjoyed life before I was married and after, the same. I'm just thay kind of guy tho because I just enjoy life.

I was broke when we got married but I'm pretty well off now (not rich but I'm working on it)
I believe that's part of the reason our bond is strong. We had to grow together. For a year, we survived off ramen noddles and Betty crocker boxes. No tv, no money to go anywhere, just me and her. 550 credit scores etc. (Rock bottom)I feel like us going through that made us appreciate each other so much more.

My situation is unique tho sooooo
However:

I don't recommend marriage until you are at least 35 plus.

I also feel GMB is a honest movement backed up by facts.

There really is no long term benefit for a man that is doing well for himself to get married at all. I blame it all on the system

I liked your post until I got to the end.

I get that but seems like that's more a you thing than some general rule. I was 19 when I met my wife. Wasn't planning on wifing her then and wasn't trying to get married any time soon but I already knew what I wanted in a wife and that hasn't changed even though I'm older. 21 is only young if you want it to be. But my point is that cats can figure out 'yo I need a woman that's smart, loyal and bout her biz' before they hit their 30's.

I agree. This reminds me of when people always call young people young, dumb and immature. It's not true for everyone. I mostly hear it when people try to use it as an excuse.

 

[Verbal Kint]

How many years later?

Are your twins a boy and a girl or 2 boys or 2 girls. Does your wife have bad stretchmarks?

I want twins (a boy and a girl) but I don't want my stomach to look nasty afterwards.

Did she get pregnant with twins naturally?

Got married at 25 when lil man was 5.
Don't know what they are yet but they're all natural. So natural they were conceived in Africa (true story).
She got a few marks but she still in shape and like Kat Williams said real ninjas aint trippin on that

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

Why did you get married?

How do you feel about the excuses that single males over 30 on here are using to say why they aren't married?
Some are understandable but lots of them sound ridiculous to me.
http://www.thecoli.com/threads/single-men-over-30-why-arent-you-married.364685/

Were you rich when before you got married? Did you enjoy life less after you got married? Did you marry because you were lonely or because you didn't want to be lonely? Were you unfulfiled with your single life?

How do you feel about #GMB

How old were you when you got married & what made you choose the woman you chose?


Tell us please

Were you rich when before you got married?

not rich yet...plan to be soon

Did you enjoy life less after you got married?

nope..


Did you marry because you were lonely or because you didn't want to be lonely?

no...before i could married i had a decent rotation going....wasnt lonely

Were you unfulfiled with your single life?

yes...dealing with one woman is hard enough...dealing with the everyday problems of 3-4 ....got tired of it....

How do you feel about #GMB

its nothing new....i know the young generation likes to feel that theyve invented something....but theres been men against marriage for a very long time

How old were you when you got married & what made you choose the woman you chose?

been married twice....1st time? 25....2nd time? 37
was in love the 1st time or thought i was....but i was too young and not ready for commitment....cheated....and ruined it
2nd: was more thought out...love her....we get along pretty well most of the time...but you never know

 

[Maddmike]

I liked your post until I got to the end.

Lol. Yea I know.

I don't agree with everything they talk about, but you can't disagree that marriage (legally) is a bit one sided, right?

In the end it all boils down to being careful who you marry.

 

[the bossman]

Will be married next year. At 28.

Don't want no other girls, barely even notice these hoes.

I can trust my girl 100%, we are best friends, she makes me laugh, I make her laugh, I can't see myself with anyone else that accepts me for me like she does.

We have arguments and periods where I question things, but I just know I would rather go through this all with her.

We actually are home together today. We called out together

damn thats real spit bruh. I'm a have something like that one day