The thing is these shows lean way too into American values, compare something like Gomorra to all these narco shows.
We like our stories safe and comfortable, with a good guy and a bad guy, and a worse guy. Woman, whatever. That's why all these shows depicting essentially Mexican and Latin stories come off so cheesy and fake, and edgeless
they insert American values into worlds that don't really share them. The idea of a Griselda where she she is one in a million mastermind queenpin, rather then one of a dozens and dozens of Colombians who ran wild in Miami in the 1980's, and two where she is squeamish about murders, that's laughable. She was known to be recklessly violent, and not follow the rules of Miami, and instead she was playing by Colombian rules, broad daylight executions.
and yes reframing all these stories of women queenpins as some kind of feminist narrative is also laughable. You can tell a woman's story without making it a story for "all women".
and all it ends up being like a Blow lite, which as good as it was, suffers from those same kind of storytelling conventions.