Getting a Divorce Brehs...

[Lavish]

How is going from a paralegal to law school hustling backwards?

If that's hustling backwards, what's working at Best Buy, quitting to join the army, then coming back home to work at Best Buy?

 

[Ziggiy]

Brother...you're a fukking moron. You seem like the type of "man" to tally and keep track of what you do for your woman and other people. Do you keep a spreadsheet of everything you've done for her over the years. You don't deserve any special accolades for doing what a man is supposed to do for the person that he is building with. It's called building for a reason nikka.

I put my wife through school when I was 22 years old and didn't have a pot to piss in because she's who I wanted to build a life with. When you love someone and value them shyt like that just comes with the territory. I didn't get a cookie or a pat on the back for doing that and neither should you. I didn't hold none of that shyt over her head and neither should you. That little sacrifice that I made pales in comparison to how much it has paid off. Lots of men and women make sacrifices for the person that they are looking to spend their life with. You ain't special and you don't deserve any recognition or props for it.

In the summer of 2011 I started a business. In the Spring of 2012 I told my wife I was going to quit my $85,000 a year job with benefits to work on my business full time. Her response to me was similar to your wife's response to you. Not because she didn't believe in me but because I was making a risky move that could threaten our security. I went ahead and quit my job anyways inspite of her reservations and by the summer of 2012 she quit her job to work with me full time on our business.

The issue is that you've invested so much time and energy into working a retail job which is very volatile, insecure, and risky. You don't own shyt. You're at the mercy of external forces you have zero control over. You're lucky your wife only made that comment instead of going upside your head with a frying pan for being a jackass.That would have been a more appropriate response.

In a few weeks once you realize how much of an idiot you've been and the reality of your bytchassness begins to creep in you're going to wish you could hop in a time machine. The problem now is that you've demonstrated to your wife and her family, friends, etc that you're a petty, egotistical, weak, and emotionally fragile man. You've shown her and them that you're disloyal. Hopefully your wife has a support network in place that will keep her from returning to you when you inevitability try to slither your way back into her life.

bytch nikka man up.

You sound sensitive as fukk. Just the same type of behavior your accusing me of being.

I didn't ASK for any special accolades for doing what I did for her. I didn't expect her to bow, scrape, and call me King. What I EXPECTED and what I will expect from every single woman I have a "romantic" relationship with is that she respect me, as I will respect her. I would NEVER have looked her in the face when she told me she wanted to quit her job and go to law school full time that she was "going to be 35 still trying figure her life out". I had too much RESPECT for her and her track record of educational excellence to even think such a thing about her. Again, just as she knew me for 10 years previously so too had I known her. I remember her being up all night studying for her degree. I remember her forgoing parties, and a good time with her college friends to cram before tests. She graduated on time and with honors. I was proud of her for that. Gave her all the praise in the world, and appreciated her drive.

So when she told me that she was going to forgoe being a Paralegal and go to law school, because of her PROVEN track record, I supported her, provided her with what she needed, and encouraged her. Financially it put a little strain on me, but I believed in her.


Now again, while she was going to school and studying. I was working at Best Buy. Lets at LEAST TRY to set aside your obvious disdain and ignorance towards the profession for a moment. I worked my ass off. I went in early, stayed late, learned the business and the mastered the art of customer centricity. I put just as much hard work and effort into working there as she did in school. She witnessed it all first hand and ALSO benefited from it directly (hence when I explained going on romantic trips, paying for her car brakes, gifts, etc.)

Now we fast forward to my turn. I'm coming out of the Army. I decide that the reasons I want to go back to Best Buy is because (A) Its something I'm good at and truly enjoy and I wanted to finish what I initially started by making my way to General Manager and running my own store (with a longterm goal towards becoming the District Geek Squad Manager. This a corporate level job) and (B) It can indeed, despite many of your misgivings, be a viable career path if you are willing to WORK FOR IT.

Now did I receive the same consideration for past success, the support, and the understanding that I exhibited towards her? NO

What I got was "You are going to be 35 making 12.50"

Meaning her EXPECTATION for me wasn't a hard working husband who was going to make absolutely sure that he moved heaven and earth to provide for her and keep our living situation comfortable. A man who was willing to work tooth and nail to make sure that this was a successful endeavor. No what her expectation was was that her husband in seven years would be nothing more than a mediocre underachiever. Zero support, Zero understanding and worst of all ZERO RESPECT.


Again I say fukk NO




So you've got your own business and are successful? Congratulations and fantastic. I wish you nothing but success. I applaud you for following your heart and quitting your job and making it work. That's what MEN do when they are absolutely dedicated to their own success. Again, I am not expecting you to understand or even agree that Best Buy is a viable career path. That is for me to continually prove to myself over the next several years. However I have to seriously question ANY man who says that a woman has the right to go "upside my head" with a frying pan. If your wife doesn't believe in you enough to RESPECT you then that doesn't need to be your wife. PERIOD. Respect is what I DEMAND because it is what I will GIVE in a serious relationship. Once a woman has shown she has no respect for you then its done and over with.

 

[Lavish]

I'm starting to wonder if the real reason dude left his girl is because he's affraid to see her be more successful than him.. That lawyer status was creeping up and the thought of ur girl being a lawyer while you working at best buy hurt ur ego. You saw her comment as a possible slight ready to come and u bytched out.



I now know why your "story " doesn't make sense

 

[Ziggiy]

@CHILLL

To answer your question I was referring to living with her for two years, supporting her through and through, only to be disrespected so thoroughly and completely. She LIVED with me for two years and KNEW that I would never have put ourselves in a situation to fail.

 

[The Mad Titan]

sorry my dude aint no way you can spin this, hope you come across a wife that wont question your choices in life. Especially at 35, I mean she should be asking those type of questions, if yall was 20 ok... but 35. Nah son


I'd hope my wife would go:hmmm?: "you gonna be 35 make 12 dollars" I'd be pissed for a awhile, I'd let her know it and not to disrespect me like that again its what I want to do and enjoy.



But divorce


Mad overkill


But you know what, I'm pretty sure she gonna be ok

 

[Chill]

@Chill

To answer your question I was referring to living with her for two years, supporting her through and through, only to be disrespected so thoroughly and completely. She LIVED with me for two years and KNEW that I would never have put ourselves in a situation to fail.

Sorry to hear about what you are going thru but you mentioned the wrong breh.

Good luck .

@CHILLL

 

[Ziggiy]

sorry my dude aint no way you can spin this, hope you come across a wife that wont question your choices in life. Especially at 35, I mean she should be asking those type of questions, if yall was 20 ok... but 35. Nah son


I'd hope my wife would go:hmmm?: "you gonna be 35 make 12 dollars" I'd be pissed for a awhile, I'd let her know it and not to disrespect me like that again its what I want to do and enjoy.



But divorce


Mad overkill


But you know what, I'm pretty sure she gonna be ok

breh you haven't been paying attention..

I am NOT 35. I'm 28. her comment was that I was GOING to be 35 making 12.50. Which means her expectation for me was that in seven years I would be a amediocre underachiever content making that much....

She had such little faith in me that she PREDICTED that several years from now i'd be a failure. 5 months later I proved that bullshyt WRONG and threw her to the curve....

 

[The Mad Titan]

I'm starting to wonder if the real reason dude left his girl is because he's affraid to see her be more successful than him.. That lawyer status was creeping up and the thought of ur girl being a lawyer while you working at best buy hurt ur ego. You saw her comment as a possible slight ready to come and u bytched out.



I now know why your "story " doesn't make sense

Pretty much,
Him: I'm going back to bestbuy

Her:

Her: "You gonna be 35 making 12 dollars"


Him: "I'm the reason you even able to go to school and you gonna disrespect me like that!"

Her:


Her:

Him: "We are done, I'm getting a divorce"

Her:

 

[Arianne Martell]

just asked my coworker about this: he is married and same age as you and I believe same amount of years married too.

he said that there is something more going on because that can easily be solved with having a discussion and that you are being judgmental...and that your wife has every right to question your decision. and then he asked my why would anyone quit the army to join best buy??

 

[The Mad Titan]

breh you haven't been paying attention..

I am NOT 35. I'm 28. her comment was that I was GOING to be 25 making 12.50. Which means her expectation for me was that in seven years I would be a amediocre underachiever content making that much....

She had such little faith in me that she PREDICTED that several years from now i'd be a failure. 5 months later I proved that bullshyt WRONG and threw her to the curve....

yeah I got the age wrong, still tho

You coulda proved her wrong and stayed with her.... I'm just saying

 

[Ziggiy]

yeah I got the age wrong, still tho

You coulda proved her wrong and stayed with her.... I'm just saying

That's where our opinions differ.

I will NOT stay with a woman who had such little faith in me. Especially a WIFE.

 

[Ukbrotha]

Sounds tough. It seems quite drastic but only you and your mrs can know what you truly feel in the relationship and if you feel its over then I guess it is. I can only imagine what its like to feel so let down by your wife not having your back when its needed the most.

I'm pretty fortunate, I helped my mrs build her career to where she now earns even more than I do. It hasnt changed her attitude towards me and hopefully it wont so I cant really imagine how hurt I would feel if she started to disrespect me just because she earns more money than me now.

Good luck whatever you decide, only thing I'll add is that I think you owe her a chance to talk things through if she wants to.

 

[OG Talk]

Brother...you're a fukking moron. You seem like the type of "man" to tally and keep track of what you do for your woman and other people. Do you keep a spreadsheet of everything you've done for her over the years? You don't deserve any special accolades for doing what a man is supposed to do for the person that he is building with. It's called building for a reason nikka.

I put my wife through school when I was 22 years old and didn't have a pot to piss in because she's who I wanted to build a life with. When you love someone and value them shyt like that just comes with the territory. I didn't get a cookie or a pat on the back for doing that and neither should you. I didn't hold none of that shyt over her head and neither should you. That little sacrifice that I made pales in comparison to how much it has paid off over the years we've been together. Lots of men and women make sacrifices for the person that they are looking to spend their life with. You ain't special and you don't deserve any recognition or props for it.

In the summer of 2011 I started a business. In the Spring of 2012 I told my wife I was going to quit my $85,000 a year job with benefits to work on my business full time. Her response to me was similar to your wife's response to you. Not because she didn't believe in me but because I was making a risky move that could threaten our security. I went ahead and quit my job anyways inspite of her reservations and by the summer of 2012 she quit her job to work with me full time on our business.

The issue is that you've invested so much time and energy into working a retail job which is very volatile, insecure, and risky. You don't own shyt. You're at the mercy of external forces you have zero control over. You're lucky your wife only made that comment instead of going upside your head with a frying pan for being a jackass.That would have been a more appropriate response.

In a few weeks once you realize how much of an idiot you've been and the reality of your bytchassness begins to creep in you're going to wish you could hop in a time machine. The problem now is that you've demonstrated to your wife and her family, friends, etc that you're a petty, egotistical, weak, and emotionally fragile man. You've shown her and them that you're disloyal. Hopefully your wife has a support network in place that will keep her from returning to you when you inevitability try to slither your way back into her life.

To summarize, bytch nikka man up.

Got damn

 

[Goat poster]

That's where our opinions differ.

I will NOT stay with a woman who had such little faith in me. Especially a WIFE.

Please don't get married again.

Your ego is not gonna let you EVER have a successful marriage.

 

[Ziggiy]

Would you guys be with a woman who disrespeted you?

Apparent;y most of them would