Getting a Divorce Brehs...

[CHILLL]

first time i seen thecoli give good advice tbh
rather than the usual hard on hoes bullshyt
smack a bytch get married brehs...you guys growing up
im proud
i am proud

 

[The Mad Titan]

pretty much what @DaChampIsHere said, I dont understand how anyone can cosign this. Man if nikka's up and left they wifes every time they felt disrespected no one would be married or in a relationship. Same thing with women.


If she was coming at you like "your nothing, you'll never be nothing" over and over day after day.....ok


The only good thing about this is you wont be wasting her time, nothing worse than thinking you got a ride or die partner only to find out they ghost at the 1st sign of discomfort.

 

[CHILLL]

you obviously cherry picked through this thread and all I said in order to make your "point".

Where did I say, imply, or implicate that my wife had to "obey my word"? YOU said that not me. What I said is that I do not tolerate disrespect, especially from someone whose supposed to be so close to me. What she said was the epitome of disrespect, and undermined all that I had worked for up until this point. If you would tolerate such behavior from your SPOUSE then it is YOU who is the dumbass. But that's entirely on you breh...

Who am I "blaming" for anything? Who the fukk is "everyone"? You sounding real sensitive about this. I didn't place blame on anything or anyone. I simply made the decision that living with, and being married to an unsupportive woman who thought the very worst of me was something I will not tolerate. Hence the divorce.

And your getting the story wrong, hence your ignorance to the heart of the subject. She wasn't my wife when I paid for the brakes to get fixed. We were dating. The point was that while I was working for Best Buy PREVIOUS to joining the Army and getting married, I was able to live comfortably and also provide for the things she needed. This wasn't a "working at Mcdonalds" situation that many of you incorrectly draw parallels to.

As for my goals, I already stated what my primary goals were regarding the company. They do not END with being the Geek Squad Manager. The reason I am proud of making it to Manager in 5 months was because I worked my ass for that, it took me 3 years previously (pre-army) I have a clear vision of Short and Longterm goals regarding the company and how best to achieve that.

will you answer my question on how she changed when u guys moved in bruh bruh?

 

[Family Man]

I find it absolutely comical how people who know absolutely NOTHING about the profession, the salary, opportunities, etc. that come from the career path can say with confidence how "terrible" of a decision it is


It's also funny how, indirectly, most of you are proving my exact point. You judge, you clown, you look down upon it, you DOUBT it as a viable career path. Your sheer ignorance blinds you and leads to believe that I've chosen something that somehow makes me "unworthy" of demanding respect from my relationship. The same respect that I showed her when she HAD no concrete plans in life and was attempting to find her niche in life....


And yet think about it for a second. None of you all know me personally, you obviously have no knowledge whatsoever of the profession, and yet you have such clear disdain. Now imagine that EXACT attitude coming from one of your wives. Not your girlfriend, side piece, mistress, or some bytch you fukkin. Your own WIFE. The woman whom you have NEVER failed to support financially. Bills paid on time. Food on the table. Car running. Lights on. It's her birthday and she wants a new iPhone. Done. It's Christmas and she wants to spend a week in Florida. Done. She decides she wants to go to Law School and needs books and tutoring. DONE.

Two years of marriage and basically whatever she wanted (within reason) she got. She came out of pocket for almost NOTHING in Two years....


Now again, imagine THAT woman looking you in the face with the same disdain, judgement, and ignorance that all of you, posters on a MESSAGE BOARD, complete strangers have shown me.

"Your going to be 35 Making 12.50""

That's what she said to her husband. She was no better, no more informed, no more supportive than some strangers on the Internet. A woman who for YEARS beforehand watched me succeed that the very profession in question. Paid bills, brought her gifts, once paid for her car breaks to get fixed, went on trips, ALL paid by Best Buy money.

THAT woman looked me in the face and proved that she had such little respect for me as a man, a husband, and provider that she thought I would fail. Just as all of you seem to think.


And I proved her wrong. Yes I DID work my ass off. Yes I did sacrifice. And yes I did make it to Manager in 5 months. That is no lie and no exaggeration. I am proud of it. Prouder of myself than I'd ever been at accomplishing something within a short period of time. My first go around with Best Buy it took me three years. This time it took 5 months. And @DMP can attest to this as he met me during the iPhone launch.

And then I threw her ass in the bushes. Just as any of you MEN would a woman who disrespected you so utterly and completely. Counseling was nothing more than another individual siting across from you giving his opinion how you should think or feel. Her tears and begging for another chance was simply the apologies of a woman who watched a man make it despite her efforts to destroy his resolve.


I have more respect for myself and my decision making than to allow a woman to EVER question my goals. One of you tried to equate it to being a rapper or ball player which simply is the definition of stupidity. You need talent, luck, timing, co-signs and a host of other factors to line up JUST right for anybody to make those viable careers. The ground is littered with the souls of talented rappers, actors, ball players or singers who never got their "shot". Working at Best Buy was about dedication, hard work, and BELIEF that I could make it happen.

She couldn't continue being my wife. I would have been LESS of a man to myself to allow such an individual to remain in such an important and integral position of my life. An unsupportive woman who is no better than posters on the internet? THAT is with whom I was going to place my faith?


fukk NO
#TPC

Brother...you're a fukking moron. You seem like the type of "man" to tally and keep track of what you do for your woman and other people. Do you keep a spreadsheet of everything you've done for her over the years? You don't deserve any special accolades for doing what a man is supposed to do for the person that he is building with. It's called building for a reason nikka.

I put my wife through school when I was 22 years old and didn't have a pot to piss in because she's who I wanted to build a life with. When you love someone and value them shyt like that just comes with the territory. I didn't get a cookie or a pat on the back for doing that and neither should you. I didn't hold none of that shyt over her head and neither should you. That little sacrifice that I made pales in comparison to how much it has paid off over the years we've been together. Lots of men and women make sacrifices for the person that they are looking to spend their life with. You ain't special and you don't deserve any recognition or props for it.

In the summer of 2011 I started a business. In the Spring of 2012 I told my wife I was going to quit my $85,000 a year job with benefits to work on my business full time. Her response to me was similar to your wife's response to you. Not because she didn't believe in me but because I was making a risky move that could threaten our security. I went ahead and quit my job anyways inspite of her reservations and by the summer of 2012 she quit her job to work with me full time on our business.

The issue is that you've invested so much time and energy into working a retail job which is very volatile, insecure, and risky. You don't own shyt. You're at the mercy of external forces you have zero control over. You're lucky your wife only made that comment instead of going upside your head with a frying pan for being a jackass.That would have been a more appropriate response.

In a few weeks once you realize how much of an idiot you've been and the reality of your bytchassness begins to creep in you're going to wish you could hop in a time machine. The problem now is that you've demonstrated to your wife and her family, friends, etc that you're a petty, egotistical, weak, and emotionally fragile man. You've shown her and them that you're disloyal. Hopefully your wife has a support network in place that will keep her from returning to you when you inevitability try to slither your way back into her life.

To summarize, bytch nikka man up.

 

[CHILLL]

Brother...you're a fukking moron. You seem like the type of "man" to tally and keep track of what you do for your woman and other people. You don't deserve any special accolades for doing what a man is supposed to do for the person that he is building with. It's called building for a reason nikka.

I put my wife through school when I was 22 years old and didn't have a pot to piss in because she's who I wanted to build a life with. When you love someone and value them shyt like that just comes with the territory. I didn't get a cookie or a pat on the back for doing that and neither should you. I didn't hold none of that shyt over her head and neither should you. That little sacrifice that I made pales in comparison to how much it has paid off. Lots of men and women make sacrifices for the person that they are looking to spend their life with. You ain't special and you don't deserve any recognition or props for it.

In the summer of 2011 I started a business. In the Spring of 2012 I told my wife I was going to quit my $85,000 a year job with benefits to work on my business full time. Her response to me was similar to your wife's response to you. Not because she didn't believe in me but because I was making a risky move that could threaten our security. I went ahead and quit my job anyways inspite of her reservations and by the summer of 2012 she quit her job to work with me full time on our business.

The issue is that you've invested so much time and energy into working a retail job which is very volatile, insecure, and risky. You don't own shyt. You're at the mercy of external forces you have zero control over. You're lucky your wife only made that comment instead of going upside your head with a frying pan for being a jackass.That would have been a more appropriate response.

In a few weeks once you realize how much of an idiot you've been and the reality of your bytchassness begins to creep in you're going to wish you could hop in a time machine. The problem now is that you've demonstrated to your wife and her family, friends, etc that you're a petty, egotistical, weak, and emotionally fragile man. You've shown her and them that you're disloyal. Hopefully your wife has a support network in place that will keep her from returning to you when you inevitability try to slither your way back into her life.

bytch nikka man up.

 

[Ziggiy]

I agree with OP's decision.

It's great that he is letting her go while she is still in her 20s and (presumably) childless. It just sucks that she wasted so many years on him. Hopefully she will see the bright side and be able to move on.

Good luck and success to you too OP.

Ok let me clear this bit up. It seems this part right here has some confused and I probably didn't explain the "early years" sufficiently....

We've KNOWN each other for 10 years previous. We didn't date all ten years, this my bad for not clearing that up. We dated 2 years straight, then broke up when she went through her first year of college, stayed friends, and we got back together officially right before I got deployed to Korea after joining the Army.
All in all the period of dating was about 4 years, the friendship was 10 years.

And no children

 

[jwinfield]

As for the OP, I think dude is pissed that while he's out there making things happen and following his plan, his wife had plans on her own and hustled backwards (Paralegal -> retail -> full time studying)

I'd be pissed too. He probably wants no part of her Law School debt. Especially with this current trend of plenty law school grads being unemployed or under employed.

How is going from a paralegal to law school hustling backwards?

If that's hustling backwards, what's working at Best Buy, quitting to join the army, then coming back home to work at Best Buy?

 

[KenyaDoll]

Ok let me clear this bit up. It seems this part right here has some confused and I probably didn't explain the "early years" sufficiently....

We've KNOWN each other for 10 years previous. We didn't date all ten years, this my bad for not clearing that up. We dated 2 years straight, then broke up when she went through her first year of college, stayed friends, and we got back together officially right before I got deployed to Korea after joining the Army.
All in all the period of dating was about 4 years, the friendship was 10 years.

And no children

Oh Okay; thanks for the clarification. I thought this was a 10-12 year relationship and you left her after that 1 comment.

I think its good that y'all are calling it quits early. Good luck and hope your plan to make it to corporate works out (there is nothing wrong with retail if you have a plan).

 

[CHILLL]

Ok let me clear this bit up. It seems this part right here has some confused and I probably didn't explain the "early years" sufficiently....

We've KNOWN each other for 10 years previous. We didn't date all ten years, this my bad for not clearing that up. We dated 2 years straight, then broke up when she went through her first year of college, stayed friends, and we got back together officially right before I got deployed to Korea after joining the Army.
All in all the period of dating was about 4 years, the friendship was 10 years.

And no children

So u aint gon answer my question playboi?
I see who you is now my nikka
we see who you is now my nikka go head get divorced

 

[Peak]

Brother...you're a fukking moron. You seem like the type of "man" to tally and keep track of what you do for your woman and other people. Do you keep a spreadsheet of everything you've done for her over the years? You don't deserve any special accolades for doing what a man is supposed to do for the person that he is building with. It's called building for a reason nikka.

I put my wife through school when I was 22 years old and didn't have a pot to piss in because she's who I wanted to build a life with. When you love someone and value them shyt like that just comes with the territory. I didn't get a cookie or a pat on the back for doing that and neither should you. I didn't hold none of that shyt over her head and neither should you. That little sacrifice that I made pales in comparison to how much it has paid off over the years we've been together. Lots of men and women make sacrifices for the person that they are looking to spend their life with. You ain't special and you don't deserve any recognition or props for it.

In the summer of 2011 I started a business. In the Spring of 2012 I told my wife I was going to quit my $85,000 a year job with benefits to work on my business full time. Her response to me was similar to your wife's response to you. Not because she didn't believe in me but because I was making a risky move that could threaten our security. I went ahead and quit my job anyways inspite of her reservations and by the summer of 2012 she quit her job to work with me full time on our business.

The issue is that you've invested so much time and energy into working a retail job which is very volatile, insecure, and risky. You don't own shyt. You're at the mercy of external forces you have zero control over. You're lucky your wife only made that comment instead of going upside your head with a frying pan for being a jackass.That would have been a more appropriate response.

In a few weeks once you realize how much of an idiot you've been and the reality of your bytchassness begins to creep in you're going to wish you could hop in a time machine. The problem now is that you've demonstrated to your wife and her family, friends, etc that you're a petty, egotistical, weak, and emotionally fragile man. You've shown her and them that you're disloyal. Hopefully your wife has a support network in place that will keep her from returning to you when you inevitability try to slither your way back into her life.

bytch nikka man up.

 

[CHILLL]

Lowkey this nikka got a divorce over best buy
Dude said his wife changed when they moved in, asked the dude to elaborate and he cant
This is either a cop out , or dude is sensitive

 

[DaChampIsHere]

you obviously cherry picked through this thread and all I said in order to make your "point".

Ain't you doin' that with divorcing your wife though nikka? Said one thing you didn't like and you've been plotting for the last 5 months to stab her in the back. Who's really the cherry picker? Who is really trying to "make their point"?

Where did I say, imply, or implicate that my wife had to "obey my word"? YOU said that not me. What I said is that I do not tolerate disrespect, especially from someone whose supposed to be so close to me. What she said was the epitome of disrespect, and undermined all that I had worked for up until this point. If you would tolerate such behavior from your SPOUSE then it is YOU who is the dumbass. But that's entirely on you breh...

Your wife didn't disrespect you dumbass. She inquired about your plans and stuck with you while you went through them so she clearly wanted to be there, just had some damn questions. You wanted her to go along with no contest. Fact of the matter is, You quit on your own the first time around. Only reason you probably succeeded this time was because she lit the fire under you. Her questioning you actually DROVE you to achieve and you still are too dumb to see how much she matters in your life.

Who am I "blaming" for anything?

Stop bringing up your good deeds as if someone owes you a trophy for helping out your wife, if that's what you really wanted to do. Seems like you were just stockpiling and counting up favor receipts for later use. You knew the person you wanted to be with. Now you are listing shyt you've done as if you deserve praise for doing what you wanted to do to be with that person. I don't get. Did you want to do that stuff or nah? You seem ingenuine. Not a good person. Just a person who happens to do good things.

[QUOTE="Ziggiy, post: 10517588, member: 944"
And your getting the story wrong, hence your ignorance to the heart of the subject. She wasn't my wife when I paid for the brakes to get fixed. We were dating. The point was that while I was working for Best Buy PREVIOUS to joining the Army and getting married, I was able to live comfortably and also provide for the things she needed. This wasn't a "working at Mcdonalds" situation that many of you incorrectly draw parallels to.
As for my goals, I already stated what my primary goals were regarding the company. They do not END with being the Geek Squad Manager. The reason I am proud of making it to Manager in 5 months was because I worked my ass for that, it took me 3 years previously (pre-army) I have a clear vision of Short and Longterm goals regarding the company and how best to achieve that.[/QUOTE]

And again. You still don't get the problem.

No where in this whole do you mention that Best Buy is your life dream. You are settling. You do not want to work at Best Buy, it is just a comfortable situation for you because it pays well. Is Best Buy your passion fool? Answer.

Say 100% that Best Buy is your dream job and you don't want to work anywhere but Best Buy retail and I swear I will say I got it all wrong. Your wife probably would have left you with time anyway. Maybe this is your pre-emptive strike? You seem to give up easy. Your ambition levels are mad low if Best Buy retail is your dream. Low ambition is not attractive to worthy women any way so yeah. Good job breh breh.

 

[PrnzHakeem]

How is going from a paralegal to law school hustling backwards?

If that's hustling backwards, what's working at Best Buy, quitting to join the army, then coming back home to work at Best Buy?

Full time studying for the LSAT? Not the Bar, not the bar that allows you to practice law in various states. Not the bar that actually confers upon you the title of barrister. We talking about the LSAT. The LSAT that most folks study for during their junior/senior year of college. LSAT. An entrance exam, LSAT. What we talking about? LSAT? Law School Admission Test. LSAT?!?

Not the bar. We talking about the LSAT. Offered 4 times a year. She likely isnt taking it in October, so she's going to take it in December. Which means, she's aiming to apply for 2016 admittance. 2016. After which she has 3 years of law school, and maybe she gets a job to pay back that $150K loan tab. THEN SHE HAS TO TAKE TIME OFF TO STUDY FOR THE BAR. but we aint talking about the bar, we talking about the LSAT. Full time studying for the LSAT? The LSAT. nikka WHAT WE TALKIN ABOUT?? LSAT?!?

 

[Arianne Martell]

I'm still a whining bytch

fixed

 

[Lavish]

OP getting that work

If he was mad when she simply asked him a question. He must be furious now