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Gentlemen, compliment women: you have more power than you realise: UPDATED
- Thread starter Ms.CuriousCat
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I compliment women all the time. Well, black women anyway. I make sure to highlight more than their body. They are used to that. I try to hit certain aspects such as facial features, intelligence, faith, strength, parenting etc. These are things black women NEED to hear but don't.
With that said most women don't care about your compliments. You'll often get rebuffed. Or ignored completely. It can be a thankless task. It's frustrating when you're speaking from the heart and the woman will go, "Thanks, I guess." But a lot of black women have low self esteem and they aren't equipped to understand and handle compliments. They have a self image burned into their souls. The hardest thing to change about a person is their self perception. I understand this and charge it to the game. Unless a woman finds you attractive your words don't mean much. That's the way of the world.
Yet and still I compliment black women. That might not be what most men do and that's fine. Just don't complain about the wretched state of black women when you can't even say a few words of encouragement. The only issue I have with the OP is the romanticism of it. Nothing romantic about it. This is not work that comes with a reward. You just do it because it's right.
With that said most women don't care about your compliments. You'll often get rebuffed. Or ignored completely. It can be a thankless task. It's frustrating when you're speaking from the heart and the woman will go, "Thanks, I guess." But a lot of black women have low self esteem and they aren't equipped to understand and handle compliments. They have a self image burned into their souls. The hardest thing to change about a person is their self perception. I understand this and charge it to the game. Unless a woman finds you attractive your words don't mean much. That's the way of the world.
Yet and still I compliment black women. That might not be what most men do and that's fine. Just don't complain about the wretched state of black women when you can't even say a few words of encouragement. The only issue I have with the OP is the romanticism of it. Nothing romantic about it. This is not work that comes with a reward. You just do it because it's right.
don't do that ghetto name cac shyt
The hell you mean? I picked that name cause of two dudes I went to HS with. Krishawn and Krevaan.Did you want me to say Jack or Toliver?
wet landscapes
ghost
Did you want me to say Jack or Toliver?
my bad, I thought you were doing that Jamal thing that white people do onlineOh no,
Nah, I legit went to school with a couple brothers with those names, and I distinctly remember 6'2 Krishawn and how popular he was with a fewchicks. I was ready to break out the yearbook if you pulled my card.
Unless you still want to.
wet landscapes
ghost
Oh no,
chicks. I was ready to break out the yearbook if you pulled my card.
nah I'm good breh
This also.
Make sure she is attracted to you first or it will be called catcalling 
Ms.CuriousCat
All Star
This
This exactly right here. Listen to this man.
Only I'm telling you even if she says , "thanks I guess" and especially if she's said that she's exactly the one who needed to hear it.
I may be romanticising but I believe in what goes around coming around. If you are nice to people especially without wanting anything from them, that good energy adds value to your life by definition.
Did this to a chick at Publix a few days ago. She kept singing while in line at the deli and well, she has a pretty voice even though she was apologizing for singing.
I complimented her and her face just LIT UP. All "THANK YOU!
" and everything. Sometimes it's nice just to make someone's day.
I don't do that often though, because some people don't take them well and some people misinterpret it as a roundabout way of trying to holla when it's not even that serious. But if you do something that's legitimately worth complimenting, I might say something to you.
I complimented her and her face just LIT UP. All "THANK YOU!
" and everything. Sometimes it's nice just to make someone's day.I don't do that often though, because some people don't take them well and some people misinterpret it as a roundabout way of trying to holla when it's not even that serious. But if you do something that's legitimately worth complimenting, I might say something to you.
Keep_It_Hip_Hop_Fam
All Star
If any of brehs take advice from a female on picking up women I am negging with my measly rep power. I fukking swear.
Do not go out there giving compliments like that...if she wants a fukking compliment tell her upload a pic on facebook or instagram.
The only time I ever give compliments is on a date and I realize she really did put in an effort for me. The woman literally has to be into you for it to have any effect. I also compliment her food when she prepares it for me and I really enjoy it. Compliments are to be earned, otherwise there are ineffective and not genuine.
Do not go out there giving compliments like that...if she wants a fukking compliment tell her upload a pic on facebook or instagram.
The only time I ever give compliments is on a date and I realize she really did put in an effort for me. The woman literally has to be into you for it to have any effect. I also compliment her food when she prepares it for me and I really enjoy it. Compliments are to be earned, otherwise there are ineffective and not genuine.
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
When a girl doesn't look like she's expecting it.
When she's not wearing much make-up if at all and when she's not stuck up. It is her God given right to be complimented by you.
It is good for you, as you are a man who holds the power to make that woman's day and she will bestow upon you genuine, heartfelt goodwill positivity that will make you successful in life
So compliment these girls
Especially your mahogany sistren.
No.
ReadOneBookAWeek
Smoking on a Cac Pack
This is the mentality that makes women think they can act however they want and no matter what a man is still supposed to inflate their ego. Not happening
FluffyCorleone
Banned
Yeah I try to do it often. Ain't nothing to sugarcoat or hide. Sometimes they blush and I be like
Architect?