Babe, I have posted NUMEROUSLY on this site about the great men in my family.
“U see when a man tells you his experience. How it's dismissed and it's "well we have it worse”
NAW- what YOU don’t see is you’re trying to get a TEENAGE GIRL to sympathize with ADULT MEN. You’re grooming her for other old ass Niccas and don’t even realize it.
Everything seems to break down into male VS female with your viewpoints.
I did not say your niece automatically has it harder simply because she’s female.
She has it harder because she’s a TEEN GIRL who has to worry about male teens and GROWN ASS MEN sexualizing her!
Children’s minds don’t need to be filled with how hard it is for older people. YOU ARE OLD. If you were socialized properly and know how to move in society you understand how to move as a grown ass man and NOT have people looking at you funny. MILLIONS of men out here who aren’t being accused of a damn thing because they act like NORMAL
MEN who have BOUNDARIES.
Talking about loving fathers, uncles, etc. I have divorced men in my family and their daughters live with them. ALONE. And there is no concern because their fathers aren’t creeps. I have more men than women in my family which is why I’m speaking the way I am- because they gamed me up and let me know that men would be trying me when I was no longer under their protection in the adult world.
And you know what? THEY WERE RIGHT. I had professors, bosses, pastors, etc make passes at me cuz I was young and pretty and because of my male relatives I could spot weirdo shyt and get around before any of those men in positions of authority could take advantage of me.
Your niece is a CHILD and doesn’t need to told about how hard it is for grown ass men.
What YOU don’t understand is you are painting all grown ass men with a broad sympathetic brush in the eyes of a teen girl who is too young to fully understand nuance and pick up on weird, inappropriate behavior from men 2-3x her age.
Why do you want a 15 year old to be concerned about how hard it is for grown men who are around teen girls?! Lmao
The MEN in my family would’ve broken my teacher’s fukking back if one of them walked into my classroom and saw me taking down a grown ass man’s braids. Fukk out of here.
You telling your 15YO nephews about the hardships of grown women too? Or only the men?
I guess I'll start from the bottom. Lol
Yes... I try to tell her all the hardships that I know of for a woman, since I only know them from a mans perspective. I do my best.
To the point that her response sarcastically was "I guess from what you're telling me, I should have been born a boy" Lol
I almost spit up whatever I was drinking at the time lol
Why do I want her to be concerned with how hard it is to be a grown man?
These questions show me you were raised differently than how we raise the girls in our family.
I want my niece to be well versed in as many ideas and topics as possible. She has an unbelievable mind. Shes great in school , but when we talk, it's a different kind of class. And I give her new concepts all the time.
She challenges me with questions on different concepts. And I've learned to be a better man because of it.
I'm painting a picture of grown men with a brush yada yada yada?
Me saying men have it hard... Is a truth. You won't know because you are not a man. You only see the world from your eyes.
And maybe you didn't have certain understandings about men, women, life and the world at that age. But some of us did. She definitely does. The slight nuances she will pick up on as she grows.
My niece is a child?
No, My niece is not a child..she is a teenager. We use to call those, "young adults".
I have another niece who is a child. My baby is like 6. They are totally different. They don't have the same interest, or motivations.
One is concerned with playing. The other is stressing about grades and where she's moving to once she graduates.
In regards to your family telling you about men trying to get at you... Did you really need them to tell you these things lol.
From what I'm gathering. You may have just been a late bloomer when it came to understanding.
Cause I have sisters, and a gang of nieces and it didn't take them lectures to figure men out. Men are simple.
Trying to get a teenage girl to sympathize with men... Yes. Give her understanding.
The same way we make men sympathize with women, animals, everything on this earth.
Kinda seems like men are the only ones that shouldn't have that benefit.
It'll be hard to answer everything you wrote. But I'll say this.
A 15yr old girl totally understood the point and was hurt by the thought that even her uncle who she loves and trust has to walk around worried that people might think he's a pervert if he's around kids.
Or trying to not be alone with women I don't know because I don't want anyone to say I did anything.
But a grown woman on the Internet turned this into a gender debate.
And dismissed what I was saying.
This had nothing to do with men vs women.
This was "this world ain't easy for anybody".
The internet has fried BRAINS!!! Who in their right mind thinks this is a good look?? 
