You telling a FIFTEEN YEAR OLD GIRL about how hard it is to be a MAN?!
You ask her how hard it is to be a fifteen year old girl dealing with men 15-50 gawking at her body, making inappropriate conversation, touching her (men rubbing/grabbing you on public transit, in the hallways at school, at stores, in the mall, hopefully not in the family, etc)?
I’m not trying to be an ass, but shyt like this and 10x worse is exactly why people get concerned about older men around teenage girls.
Men YOU KNOW would do something to your niece if they knew you were the kind of man who would take your boy’s word over hers. Like DL Hughley and his daughter.
The funny thing is my 15yr old niece totally understood. And she felt bad because she sees it herself. Even at 15yrs old she has alot of understanding. More than alot grown people apparently.
She even understands when I tell her simply how hard it is to be an adult.
But I'll tell you what the issue is. Not only is she intelligent, but She has grown up with a lot of love from the male figures in her life.
So she don't see men as potential threats. She sees them as people, who have their good traits and bad traits.
but a lot of yall have trauma from your own lives, and you haven't been surrounded by love from men, so you look at every man like they will hurt you.
The bolded is exactly what I'm talking about.
Your life was probably filled with men that didn't love you. (And I'm not saying this to be funny or to get at you)
The men in our lives, are girl dads, loving uncles, Loving grandfathers, and fully invested stepfathers.
I am the god father to my friends daughter.
And if I had a daughter my homie would have been her god father because he was a righteous brother.
But fukk all that.
U see when a man tells you his experience. How it's dismissed and it's "well we have it worse".
I literally just said just existing as man, you are looked at as a pervert. Just living your life .
And you didn't say "damn, that's fukk up".
You said my 15yr old niece hypothetically has it worse. Even though you have no clue about her life personally