Wow at people condoning this.
Your son is a junior you. Would you fight yourself? Maybe some men ARE fighting themselves and their demons and maybe that’s why the kid is wilding out. And not taking the adults’ empty threats seriously.
The sad fact is that most people aren't ready to be parents. The financial, emotional, and spiritual demands that come with that responsibility are high.
You have a lot of delusional narcissists that are blind to their own selfish and antisocial behavior so they assume that their child will turn out to be the person they see
themselves as being. When their child reflects their own behavior to them--much like a dog barking and growling at it's own reflection--they aren't equipped to recognize that the behavior their child is exhibiting is a version of their own. "I don't know where you get that from because it's not
me" and in typical narcist fashion, they can't accept responsibility for their own actions "look at what you're
making me do" how is a child "making" you do anything? you're the adult, you're supposed to have the power in the situation and power means having the ability to
refuse to do something.
Then you have the other end of the spectrum where you have the kind of soft narcissists who can't ever admit that their child is doing wrong because of what it would say about them as parents so they have to believe that it's literally everyone else's fault that their child is behaving badly.
Most people don't have the humility, maturity, and mental fortitude required to realize that the baby that they made when they were feeling horny is going to spend less than a
quarter of its life as a child. They're focused on the childhood, and not focused on the kind of
adult they want to bring into the world. You will spend the vast majority of your life as an adult, so the skills and lessons you're taught in childhood are
vital in shaping the kind of person you will become. Many, many parents don't understand this and become alienated from their children because they still want to see these grown adults as kids that they have power and authority over.
It doesn't help that the level of economic insecurity in black households leads to frustrated, overworked parents looking for the easiest tool to get some peace in that household: Fear. To many parents, they literally cannot tell the difference between fear and respect. To them, fear IS respect, but they're delusional because they think they can be 60 and their 26 year old brolic son who started learning boxing and MMA in his 20s or street fighting to survive won't shatter their skull if they push him far enough.
A child who didn't grow up with fear based parenting becomes an adult who sees his parents as advisors and as people he or she doesn't want to disappoint. They understand that their parents have love and expectations for them, and so they want to honor them the best that they can. They strive to make their parents proud and look for praise and acceptance from their parents who give it unconditionally, but definitely more when their child succeeds in some way and is happy. They care more about the happiness and safety of their child over whether or not their child obeys everything that he or she is told to do. They're focused on raising a leader, not a follower who is controlled by anxiety.