Some people shouldn't have kids.....
And this is really the long and short of it. Some people shouldn't have kids. A lot of the time people have them because of social pressure or because they're ignorant and think it will not be that hard or because they simply didn't wrap up and pull out.
Many people don't have the temperament and resources to raise children. We shouldn't be shaming people who are honest enough with themselves to know that they don't want to hurt their own blood or bring a child into the world to suffer because they aren't actually prepared to raise them.
Kids deserve a stable home. They deserve parents who can sit down and play with them, be patient as they help with homework, support them in their hobbies and activities and be someone they can go to for advice or help when they're in trouble.
Many posters here will tell you that if they got in trouble they would do their absolute best to hide it and try to solve the problem on their own...literally anything but tell their parents because if they do, the result is extremely harsh punishment. Placating the feelings of the adult becomes more important than being honest with them. They don't trust their parent to actually be helpful and supportive so they learn to hide things from them.
It's the recipe for raising someone who gets REALLY good at lying and deceiving others. The best bullshytters come from homes where bullshytting and blaming others was how you survived. Parents shouldn't have a difficult child on top of the struggle of 9-5 and side hustle life in a world where what was once a basic thing is now a luxury more and more people can't afford. It's hard enough dealing with the struggle, but if you put a child into the mix you'll just feel even more stressed out unless you're truly one of the more emotionally resilient people out there.
A person who is honest with themselves can say "nah, I'm not like that. I'm not built for this shyt. I'm not trying to ever find myself in a situation where I have to hit my child and cause them to cry and bleed in order to have a semblance of peace in my home. I'm not with it" that's okay, we should encourage people like that to live peaceful lives without kids while we encourage the patient people who do have resources(including time) and strong support networks to have kids.