She's using that example because not only does it happen, but provides a good framework for men who have never really considered "what is rape?" Beyond strong arming a woman and just taking some p*ssy. It's important to know that even mid-stroke, if a woman decides to say stop you don't have any grounds to debate. A lot of men either don't get that or actually disagree. You got one in here that's willing to keep going just to prove a point and that's just one idiot, that gets no p*ssy anyway trying to look tough to some nikkas online. Imagine how nikkas out in the real world is really moving with that mentality.
I think part of the problem for dude's understanding is that no other crime works this way.
Imagine this in a different context,
You're at the crib with your buddies and you're boxing in the backyard. You're going for a combo and you after the left your friend says "stop" but your fist already on its way there. You hit him and then dude presses charges for aggravated assault.
This guy:
- Came over to your house
- Put the boxing gloves on
- Stepped in the ring
These things all imply that he was agreeing to box, so it is natural for you to deduce that it is ok to punch him. And the charges most likely won't stick.
Sexual assault doesn't work this way, its not something you can logic your way through. But most dudes aren't lawyers or paralegals so they don't spend time brainstorming consent scenarios like this woman is doing here. They're going on the same logic they used in the boxing metaphor: You came over to my spot, took your clothes off, and got in bed.
Like you were getting at with your post, many of these guys don't go in with an "intent" to do anything wrong, but you can't control how people will react.