"Don't Date Women With Kids"...

[semicko82]

Plenty of people of kids that don’t look like them
And kids with personalities not inline with their values
You should be more realistic with ur expectations of having kids

 

[KingFreeman]

Those things, but also it's moreso differences in child-rearing. You're not gonna agree on everything. But you can't disagree on everything and expect the relationship to work, and you can't be far apart on major issues---->whichever topics of child-rearing are "major" to you specifically. Some things may be non-negotiable...



100! In retrospect, by the time I had a full clarity on these contrasts, she was already pregnant, but I still could have left earlier on...

Overall though I'm quite proud of myself, I've never ended a relationship before it hit a breaking point. I realized a breaking point for myself and cut loose...



The specific thing that finalized the decision is her youngest son, who will be 5 on the 20th of this month, is bullying my middle daughter, who just turned 3 in October. So he's essentially two years older than her, he's bigger than her, and he's a boy. 3 strikes...

From the time I met her the boy has had a hitting problem, and as of late, about early December, I began to notice he specifically hits/pushes/kicks my 3 year old. He's done these things to other kids and even adults before, but there is a habitual pattern with my 3 year old. My oldest daughter is only a month younger than him, she'll be 5 in February, and even though she's a little smaller than him, he doesn't do these things to her...

This has been a topic regarding dude since damn near the beginning, it reached a point where I've realized it's a non-negotiable breaking point. She's really defensive of dude because he has an IEP, but in over a year of observance of his behaviors, homeboy acts this way because he's allowed to, there are no repercussions to his behavior, the examples are limitless. When spoken to firmly he shows signs of listening and behaving...

Regarding my 3 year old, he randomly puts his hands on her. He did it again earlier tonight, and I called both my girls to the table and told them they are to hit his ass back if he puts his hands on any one of them. I'm not even mad at the little nikka, even though I find myself wanting to fukk him up. I'm mad at her, and when I've brought this up I've the year, her default is "what did she/they do to him" to get him to react like that, or "they/she were all playing, then when he don't wanna play they start crying"...

Eyes wide shut type shyt, but we've had this convo and enough is enough for me. There are many other parenting issues that are residual causes of this decision, but this was the capper. I've watched him do this. My daughter has hit him back here or there, but mostly she cries for a minute then she's back to being his friend. They genuinely like/love each other, the problem with me is you won't make it clear to your son that he can't hit girls, he can't hit people period without repercussion. She'll lightweight yell at him if I say something, give him a "tap" that's supposed to hurt, but there's no repercussion. No activity he likes to do is taken from him, no real ass whipping, no drilling into his head that he can't hit people...

Bruh. The very first time that boy put hands on my daughter and the babymoms didnt immediately check it, I wouldve bounced all the way out that situation. Dont matter how fat her ass is, light her skin is, or what she does for me.

But thats just my 2 cents.

 

[KingFreeman]

Even if I had kids from a previous relationship, if my paper and body are right, I can find a woman who won't mind it. fukk living in my house with another man's seeds underneath the roof.

Men and women are not the same. Some of yall have to get that indoctrinated thinking out of yalls heads.

To stepdads on here: BabyDad will always have dibs on the ass whether you know it or not.

 

[Apollo Creed]

The thing is this mantra is preached to men WITHOUT children, and it still stands.

a childless man and a mother have different priorities, responsibilities, and challenges they face. Vice versa with a father and a childless woman. Don’t get me started on the “legacy” topic surrounding dating people with children.

Idk why dudes play dumb or even worry about what another man does. If dudes dont want a type of chick and you do them you should be happy, more for you.

dudes moms did a number on em, and then folks dapped that goofy ass post

 

[George Gooney]

Even if i had 10 kids i'm not wifing up no single mom. You nikkas got the game fukked up

 

[KingFreeman]

Even if i had 10 kids i'm not wifing up no single mom. You nikkas got the game fukked up

Bruh I keep trying to tell guys. They been raised (most likely by simp dads or single moms) to be simps and have sucker tendencies.

Majority of Women dont care about no goddamn "fairness". Whatever gives them the most benefit is what goes. If you taking care of business as a man, you could be a damn serial killer and women will flock. fukk being a cuckold. Giving resources and attention to another man's nut trophies

 

[BmoreGorilla]

Damn bro this is serious on so many levels

1) the fact that the severance of the relationship could emotionally scar your daughters who have developed an actual relationship with their step brothers

2) the idea that you can’t be the one to discipline your step done despite the need to do so. If the father isn’t in the picture i would think Yall need to simply consolidate and treat the situation as a mine is yours and yours is

3) the son of course being held in regard over you, the man of the house in conjunction with the woman not heading to your guidance /opinion

4) the young breh putting hands on women. All my sisters were older but even as a kid i never ever thought to put hands on classmates who were females and shyt

Fcked up on so many levels. At least you got out breh i hope the situation dont mess with your bread. Lil nikka need his ass beat

The idea of mine is mine and yours is yours when it comes to kids NEVER works. All the kids gotta live by the same rules which takes some serious compromise by both parents. But that’s the only way to do it. Having kids living by a different set of rules will be disastrous. Especially the older they get

 

[George Gooney]

Bruh I keep trying to tell guys. They been raised (most likely by simp dads or single moms) to be simps and have sucker tendencies.

Majority of Women dont care about no goddamn "fairness". Whatever gives them the most benefit is what goes. If you taking care of business as a man, you could be a damn serial killer and women will flock. fukk being a cuckold. Giving resources and attention to another man's nut trophies

These nikkas dont understand that these women are wolves and will eat them alive. fukk being fair and "honorable" with a bytch who come into the relationship lying and gaming. Lying about her body count, her past, her financial situation, how many nikkas she got on standby. Just all lies to manipulate brehs to get the advantage in life. I play to win. If i got kids and a bytch say she don't want nikkas with kids then i lie and say i don't got them until I hit and she in love with me. Then i MIGHT tell her. Alls fair in love and war. Thats how I live.

 

[MikelArteta]

@Ohene would you canoodle and cavort with a single mom

 

[MikelArteta]

These nikkas dont understand that these women are wolves and will eat them alive. fukk being fair and "honorable" with a bytch who come into the relationship lying and gaming. Lying about her body count, her past, her financial situation, how many nikkas she got on standby. Just all lies to manipulate brehs to get the advantage in life. I play to win. If i got kids and a bytch say she don't want nikkas with kids then i lie and say i don't got them until I hit and she in love with me. Then i MIGHT tell her. Alls fair in love and war. Thats how I live.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Damn, imagine having three mouths to feed and being a single father?

I look at my income each week and think of all the disposable income I have being child free and go:

 

[Shadow King]

After a certain age nikkas will fold.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Those things, but also it's moreso differences in child-rearing. You're not gonna agree on everything. But you can't disagree on everything and expect the relationship to work, and you can't be far apart on major issues---->whichever topics of child-rearing are "major" to you specifically. Some things may be non-negotiable...



100! In retrospect, by the time I had a full clarity on these contrasts, she was already pregnant, but I still could have left earlier on...

Overall though I'm quite proud of myself, I've never ended a relationship before it hit a breaking point. I realized a breaking point for myself and cut loose...



The specific thing that finalized the decision is her youngest son, who will be 5 on the 20th of this month, is bullying my middle daughter, who just turned 3 in October. So he's essentially two years older than her, he's bigger than her, and he's a boy. 3 strikes...

From the time I met her the boy has had a hitting problem, and as of late, about early December, I began to notice he specifically hits/pushes/kicks my 3 year old. He's done these things to other kids and even adults before, but there is a habitual pattern with my 3 year old. My oldest daughter is only a month younger than him, she'll be 5 in February, and even though she's a little smaller than him, he doesn't do these things to her...

This has been a topic regarding dude since damn near the beginning, it reached a point where I've realized it's a non-negotiable breaking point. She's really defensive of dude because he has an IEP, but in over a year of observance of his behaviors, homeboy acts this way because he's allowed to, there are no repercussions to his behavior, the examples are limitless. When spoken to firmly he shows signs of listening and behaving...

Regarding my 3 year old, he randomly puts his hands on her. He did it again earlier tonight, and I called both my girls to the table and told them they are to hit his ass back if he puts his hands on any one of them. I'm not even mad at the little nikka, even though I find myself wanting to fukk him up. I'm mad at her, and when I've brought this up I've the year, her default is "what did she/they do to him" to get him to react like that, or "they/she were all playing, then when he don't wanna play they start crying"...

Eyes wide shut type shyt, but we've had this convo and enough is enough for me. There are many other parenting issues that are residual causes of this decision, but this was the capper. I've watched him do this. My daughter has hit him back here or there, but mostly she cries for a minute then she's back to being his friend. They genuinely like/love each other, the problem with me is you won't make it clear to your son that he can't hit girls, he can't hit people period without repercussion. She'll lightweight yell at him if I say something, give him a "tap" that's supposed to hurt, but there's no repercussion. No activity he likes to do is taken from him, no real ass whipping, no drilling into his head that he can't hit people...

Eeeeh. Yeah. She’s the problem based off what you said. An IEP isn’t an excuse to reinforce or ignore dangerous behavior. And her having no firm consequences gives this child the red light to believe that hitting those weaker than him is an acceptable way to fulfill the function of his behavior which seems to be attention.
She’s creating a monster.

Instead, there should be a systematic knowledge of everything that child adores….and it should be taken away from him as SOON as he displays that behavior. It should feel like baby hell. Next, there should be a meeting with the entire family with him at the center of it. He should feel the gravity of that meeting and his behavior should be addressed explicitly. He should be questioned and damn near interrogated on why he thinks that’s okay. And he should know there will be very serious consequences if he continues engaging in that behavior including physical consequences. Lastly he should be taught alternative ways to communicate and heavily reinforced with rewards when he behaves in those appropriate ways.

 

[murksiderock]

Bruh. The very first time that boy put hands on my daughter and the babymoms didnt immediately check it, I wouldve bounced all the way out that situation. Dont matter how fat her ass is, light her skin is, or what she does for me.

But thats just my 2 cents.

I tried to keep in mind at the time that maybe it was a phase he'd grow from, or maybe she had a less direct but effective way I wasn't privy to, of dealing with it. In hindsight I should have left but I let the pregnancy prolong the inevitable...

The idea of mine is mine and yours is yours when it comes to kids NEVER works. All the kids gotta live by the same rules which takes some serious compromise by both parents. But that’s the only way to do it. Having kids living by a different set of rules will be disastrous. Especially the older they get

I didn't think it would. I'm willing to compromise with her, she isn't there with me and ultimately that's the root issue. And I can't be in a relationship with a woman who can't compromise and meet a parenting balance with me...

 

[Ohene]

The idea of mine is mine and yours is yours when it comes to kids NEVER works. All the kids gotta live by the same rules which takes some serious compromise by both parents. But that’s the only way to do it. Having kids living by a different set of rules will be disastrous. Especially the older they get

I didnt say that, yall nikkas need to read.

i said yours is mine and mines is yours. I left out the last yours by accident but thats why I used to word consolidate. As in we get to discipline eachothers kids and we live as a complete, nuclear family. Thats the only way itll work and it will be a testament to how much the partners believe in the relationship