"Don't Date Women With Kids"...

[O.iatlhawksfan]

So yall have a baby together (5 all together) ? .. Is this your baby mama nikka ?

No it’s sounds like she wanted a 3rd child(5 All together)

 

[nairdas]

Men without kids should not date women with kids. It'd just a bad deal all around.

Only way I could do is if the BD is DEAD and the kids are no older than 5.

 

[Neuromancer]

Simps gonna hate this.

 

[Hater Eraser]

She brought two kids into the relationship, I brought two, then she insisted on having another.

So yall have a baby together (5 all together) ? .. Is this your baby mama nikka ?

No it’s sounds like she wanted a 3rd child(5 All together)

OP ?

 

[old pig]

The general argument about legacy is those children aren’t “yours”. Yes, you fathered them and guided them to become adults.. but they don’t share your blood or genes. When you look at them, you won’t see your dimples, you won’t see your mother’s eyes or your father’s hair, or your grandpa’s height or your grandma’s nose shape. ALSO, you run into the risk of getting hit with the “your not my real dad” line or the children wanting to reach out to their biological father.

that means a lot to some people and honestly, it’s the beauty of having sex with a woman you truly fukk with. Coming together as one to bring a human into this world that shares what we both are at a biological level is amazing.

To the people who don’t care about that and love their partner and want the best for that child.. salute to you. Me personally, I want a mini-me

thanks for the breakdown…and I agree…it never occurred to me that there are men content solely with raising a woman’s child/children from a previous relationship but not wanting one of their own unless he or the woman physically can no longer have any kids

 

[MajesticLion]

Early exercise: give them a hypothetical joint income amount and ask how they'd break that down into a working budget. Investments, education, trips, food, extra-curriculars for the children, clothing, etc.


Eye opening experience.

 

[KidJSoul]

Well... of course op.

Warning about dating single parents is a thing for a reason. It's not just shallow reasons.

Parenting is a problem - when you have to be a parent to her kids, will she take your side? Will she pit you against the kids?

Will the kids respect you? Or say you're not their "real dad"?

Etc.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

I've dated women with children and OP is NOT wrong. Matter of fact, the more of those types of conversations you have early-on in the relationship, the better, as they can keep you out of MAD nonsense later on....... if not out of the relationship altogether.

Act like adults.​

 

[RaspberryFitted]

thanks for the breakdown…and I agree…it never occurred to me that there are men content solely with raising a woman’s child/children from a previous relationship but not wanting one of their own unless he or the woman physically can no longer have any kids

Like I said, some dudes truly love the woman and are comfortable with raising someone else child. Others feel they can’t do any better than that woman and go along with playing step daddy.

If the couple is happy and the child is in a loving environment, then let a beautiful family stay that way.

but..

Spoiler

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[Lootha VanDraws]

So yall have a baby together (5 all together) ? .. Is this your baby mama nikka ?

No it’s sounds like she wanted a 3rd child(5 All together)

OP ?

Well breh.... is she your baby mama or no?

 

[sean360]

....I never ascribed to this mantra because I have kids, so it always sounded hypocritical. Like how does it sound for me to say that, when women could say the same thing about me? It doesn't make me a less viable man because I have kids...

But there was a hidden issue I never considered that I know all too well now. The problem with dating women with kids, I'm sure doesn't apply to all women, but a potential issue you run into is the inability or unwillingness to budge on balance in parenting...

I just broke up with my girlfriend of 14 months. She has her complaints for sure, I wasn't perfect these 14 months, but I've let her slide and get away with some dumb shyt for too long, and at this point of my life (I'll be 33 in June), as the saying goes, "when you know better, you do better"...

I know better, and finally acting like I do so I'm doing better. She brought two kids into the relationship, I brought two, then she insisted on having another. But I feel fukking liberated as fukk, I finally did the responsible thing and ended shyt before it gets worse!

Fellas, the biggest danger in dating a woman with kids is if her parenting views don't align with yours---->especially if you already have kids yourself! Have these conversations early early early in the dating process!

Wondering what was the major parenting differences that occurred?

 

[Hater Eraser]

Well breh.... is she your baby mama or no?

Negged OP ..

For Baby Mama Drama and blaming it on everything but himself + having no pull out game ..


All them kids looking at him like

 

[Diyhai]

The general argument about legacy is those children aren’t “yours”. Yes, you fathered them and guided them to become adults.. but they don’t share your blood or genes. When you look at them, you won’t see your dimples, you won’t see your mother’s eyes or your father’s hair, or your grandpa’s height or your grandma’s nose shape. ALSO, you run into the risk of getting hit with the “your not my real dad” line or the children wanting to reach out to their biological father.


that means a lot to some people and honestly, it’s the beauty of having sex with a woman you truly fukk with. Coming together as one to bring a human into this world that shares what we both are at a biological level is amazing.

To the people who don’t care about that and love their partner and want the best for that child.. salute to you. Me personally, I want a mini-me

Plenty of people of kids that don’t look like them
And kids with personalities not inline with their values
You should be more realistic with ur expectations of having kids

 

[MollyGalaga]

I almost negged you

you know that statement stopped applying to you once you had the first kid

 

[3rd Ward Swangin]

My ex home girl had 2 kids. She swore she'd never seriously date a man with children. I'm like your children are grown and the dude's will likely be also.

She didn’t care and said they'll always want help no matter what age they are. In the same breath she said I should date women with kids, even though I don't have any children.