Do easy girls make it hard for good girls?

[Nemesis]

I'll state my opinion, but I'm in no way saying that I'm right.


A guy who sleeps with a hoe, is most likely a hoe himself. Guys who sleep with hoes, attract hoes. Rarely will you find a guy who sleeps with hoes dating a good genuine girl with her shyt together. A lot of the times you see good guys and good girls together, why because a lot of the time they have similar goals, whether it be their careers or perhaps even a family. Hoes don't have these goals, therefore there's no way for them to actually grow when they're not on the same page, let alone the same book.

I think in all honesty, a friend wouldn't say that, that's something a hater would say.

utter nonsense......

 

[marcuz]

The fukk? No I always get compliments from black men way more than white men, stop putting words in my mouth and thoughts in my head. I'm just a woman who happens to be attracted to men, regardless of race.

okay, okay, my bad.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

you shouldn't date single mothers period breh

you have $$ and status

ima be real with you

it seems almost impossible to not date a single mother

i swear 90% of women have kids

even the educated ones with good jobs

i been dealing with ones who dont have kids in an age range i really dont want to date 20-23yr olds- too damm goofy and nothing in common

 

[Arishok]

If that's truly how you felt about yourself, then you wouldn't have made this thread; let alone allow your friend's words get to you.

I just needed a man's opinion. Her words got to me because she started calling me a hoe with no self respect. Any woman's (especially one who doesn't indulge in causal sex) pride would be hurt by those words.

 

[tru_m.a.c]

I need a man's opinion on this topic. So to make a long story short, my friends basically told me I was making it hard for girls like her (who want a commitment) because I want sex from this guy. (I do want to point out, however, that I'm nowhere near easy. It's just I'm really attracted to this guy and instead of waiting around for dates and ish, I wanna cut the bs and skip right to it. Again I don't do this with every guy I meet, actually this would be the first time but I digress.)

So, from a man's perspective, do you think this is true? Honestly, I don't want to trust a woman's perspective because we tend to think with more emotion than logic, no offense to the ladies or myself.

I think both of y'all need to look at it from this perspective:

She values commitment before sex. So lets say men of Population X value commitment before sex. And lets say men of Population Y do not value commitment before sex. Her own preference makes her incompatible for Population Y.

Her comments are a reaction to the lack of opportunities that Population X have presented to her. Its not a secret that there is a higher population of Y in the world. Now when you add factors such as race, education, geography, STD history etc, the options presented from her compatible group is even smaller.

On top of this, she's trying to figure out what it is she has to do, to change men of population Y into population X. And as a man, I can tell you there is nothing she can "do." Age is a major factor. Relationship history is a major factor. And of course level of attraction.

But what she could re-evaluate, is the onus she's putting on men to change/be more flexible, as opposed to herself. If she thinks having sex before commitment is devaluing herself and she absolutely won't change her opinion, fine, thats a personal choice. But don't ask of others what you're not willing to do yourself.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Wrong wrong wrong.

See this is how nikkas end up coughing up half in court. Thinking that having similar goals, whether its careers or families, disqualifies one from being a ho is absolutely short sighted.

Being a hood rat is not synonymous with being a ho.

Ugh, a hood rat and a hoe are the same damn thing. A hood rat will have no, a hoe will have a reality show; either way they're both not shyt.

 

[Jone2three45]

Just don't get dissapointed when the mutual appeal is distorted when the feeling of wanting more has arrived and he does not comply.

 

[AB Ziggy]

Yeah, what's wrong with that? I don't discriminate

Where you from? Just curious?

 

[Action Jackson]

How so, seeing as I don't want a relationship with dude or at least I don't want one now. You mean how other men will perceive me?

Yea.

 

[tru_m.a.c]

Ugh, a hood rat and a hoe are the same damn thing. A hood rat will have no, a hoe will have a reality show; either way they're both not shyt.

No they're not.

You can find a ho working on wall street or on MLK in harlem. Monica Lewinsky was a ho. Rihanna is a ho. There is no glass ceiling for a ho. Hood rats would be the mothers of chief keef and em.

A ho = sexual preference
hood rat = character traits

A hood rat can be a ho. A ho doesn't have to be a hood rat.

 

[Arishok]

Where you from? Just curious?

Originally Chicago, currently in Champaign/Urbana (UIUC to be exact).

 

[Ashley Banks]

you shouldn't date single mothers period breh

you have $$ and status

Why you hate single mothers so much? What they do to you?

 

[marcuz]

ima be real with you

it seems almost impossible to not date a single mother

i swear 90% of women have kids

even the educated ones with good jobs

remove single mothers and women with weave from ya dating pool and shyt gets hectic

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I just needed a man's opinion. Her words got to me because she started calling me a hoe with no self respect. Any woman's (especially one who doesn't indulge in causal sex) pride would be hurt by those words.

So you need a mans approval? You have no self confidence. If you want to have sex then have sex, why do you need someone's opinion or approval to move freely? You're your own human being, I think you tell yourself those things because you figure if you say them enough times then you'll convince yourself that they're true.

I think you should have sex with him, learn something about yourself. And again you said that you've known your friend for almost 10 years, but she unrightfully calls you a hoe with no self respect because of a mutual understanding that you and a man have? That doesn't sound like a friend to me.

 

[Arishok]

So you need a mans approval? You have no self confidence. If you want to have sex then have sex, why do you need someone's opinion or approval to move freely? You're your own human being, I think you tell yourself those things because you figure if you say them enough times then you'll convince yourself that they're true.

I think you should have sex with him, learn something about yourself. And again you said that you've known your friend for almost 10 years, but she unrightfully calls you a hoe with no self respect because of a mutual understanding that you and a man have? That doesn't sound like a friend to me.

I thought opinion and approve were two different things? Just because I want want someone else's opinion on something, doesn't mean I let it run my life. I just like to hear all sides of the fence when it comes to making big life decisions that could impact my future greatly whether it's emotional, financial, physical, etc. And because I don't have many male friends and this is a male site, I decided to ask on here. I move freely after I've thought about something, not on my own bias, but after hearing what others have to say and then weighing these pros and cons.