I left bc I looked at it three ways
1) Wife wanted me I know both their families close with kids I’m not gonna break up a marriage or maybe husband ok with it but I would never know that ahead of time I would have to be in the wrong to find out
2) it was a trap wife/they wanted me to make a move then have something over me
3) They wanted me as a 3rd only way I would do that is FFM.
After I rejected the wife’s advances the Husband 2 weeks later said “We didn’t know what you wanted” “it’s not my fault how your life turned out” Go back to your town”
I was invited over to Goddaughters Bday in August I went then after party asked WTF happened. You guys yelled and were abusive then completely changed the dynamic. They gaslit me then gave me keys to their home and said come over anytime your important to the family.
I haven’t seen them since
they changed too much over the years I’ll just let their marriage do what it do…feel bad for the children but they not mine
I know this isn’t the exact topic of the thread but I’ve known these ppl for an average of 2+ decades. We were all roommates in 2014 for 6 months…shyt changes ppl change this shyt wasn’t like this before
Also if they were upfront and honest I would just say I ain’t into it but the relationship wouldn’t be ruined…The testing, hiding, lying, baiting that evil shyt isn’t good for anyone
My point is if you meet a person in 2007 majority of the time they not the same person in 2023 some change for better others well….sometimes you gotta get out