Im not going to turn this into a psycho therapy lounge, but I will say that when relationships go sour, people tend to lose self-awareness and in particular how their individual behaviors and actions contributed to the break up, in favor of woe is me self loathing.
Ive been up at night, boo-hoo'ng in pain about how I was done wrong too...but then I reflect and think:
---what about all those side pieces I had when we were together. I thought I was getting over on her, but she knew, or at least had a good idea. How u think that made her feel?
---what about all those times she wanted to kick it, but I went out with my boys instead...or I made her do sht that I wanted, rather than orienting things around her wants and considerations.
---what about the times I just "beat it up" and nutted in her mouth like she was a hoe, rather than busting out the candles and making love to her on a rose petaled covered bed?
---what about all the missed opportunities to say that I loved her, or the stupid irrelevant issues I blew up, etc, etc, etc
The point is that nobody is perfect and relationships are complicated. A break up, and the hurt involved, provides ample space for self-reflection and ways to improve. Even if you felt you did sht right 99% of the time, and nobody can tell you a damn thing, did you also ignore warning signs with this person, and push thru because he/she was hot, or made you feel good? If so, you were putting that future hurt on credit, because you should have had a good idea things would end poorly.
At the end of the day, you're gunna have to cross that intersection --- are u gunna be a too cool for bytches, selfish nicca, because of the past --- or are you gunna risk vulnerability, potential hurt, and light teasing from people because ur "simpin", and willing to express true emotion, in order to sacrifice and let this person know u truly care? Either way, the choice is completely urs.
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gotta hmmm that one
there there breh....just a rough patch.